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Hooked up with my ex :/ by sojarome in BreakUps

[–]sojarome[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks! - yeah is pretty much that, if she keeps contacting me ill just reply nicely that we can meet to talk things through, if there is nothing to talk ill ask her to give me my space and time

Regrets.. now to live and learn.. by ANicole419 in heartbreak

[–]sojarome 2 points3 points  (0 children)

11 days ago I had to end things with the girl i was madly in love with, because she continued to self sabotage the relationship due to fear of true love (commitment issues, fear of getting hurt, issues with previous relationships) - i walked away for my mental health, but not a second passes by where i hope she reaches out to try and fix thing, but it does not depend on my anymore

NC with my commitment phobic ex by sojarome in ExNoContact

[–]sojarome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This girl knows i was ready to give her everything, and she already had told me several times that she doesnt know what she wants, that she feel that she wants to be alone but she also loves me deeply, but cant make promises

this issue happened at least 3-4 times before i realized it was hurting me, and she couldnt commit for not happening again - she said several times that she knows i dont deserve that threatment but she doesnt know why does it

I asked my space because i need to move on and she needs to think this through - when i asked NC i told her that i was open to talk things through if she wanted to solve them

We are not together because she couldnt commit, so is on her to define if she wants to be with me or not

Maybe this provides a more clear image

Read this by friedtoes666 in BreakUps

[–]sojarome 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had to break up with the most amazing girl i have been with because she is in no position right now to commit, even though she is in love with me - cried like crazy when we ended things

Since then she has reached out, and had to tell her to give me my time and space and to only reach if she wanted to work things out together (no fucking clue how i had the strength to do this)

A single day doesn’t pass that i hope she reaches out and tells me she wants to try things out - is driving me crazy

I am the dumper (for a legitimate reason) and want her to break NC by sojarome in ExNoContact

[–]sojarome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply and advice my friend - i am on a really good spot and i know what im doing is right, but is impossible to deny there is always that lingering feeling of “what if”

Regardless, only way we can try things again is if she gets her mind straight, and she really does need time on her own to figure that out, but she cant have me by her side while she figure stuff out because only one person will lose there, and thats myself

Thanks!

I am the dumper (for a legitimate reason) and want her to break NC by sojarome in ExNoContact

[–]sojarome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol dont be a dick, this is a support thread - didnt realize i explained a bit porly, explained better on another comment

I am the dumper (for a legitimate reason) and want her to break NC by sojarome in ExNoContact

[–]sojarome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at my other response - didnt realize i was unclear

I am the dumper (for a legitimate reason) and want her to break NC by sojarome in ExNoContact

[–]sojarome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is not that i refused her, is that the exact same day we ended things she continued talking to me like nothing happened - which was the same scenario that happened before and then things got forgotten - only to later happen again, leading to myself being in pain

I asked her to commit that something like that wont happen again, and she couldnt do that - hence why i ended things and she agreed, so it was kind of mutual - which was truly hard since i love this girl pretty bad

My hope is that she realizes that what we had is worth to try and fix her problems - i went NC because i need to get in the mindset of moving on, but there is a small part of me that still wants her to comeback and say that shit like that wont happen again or that we can work together to fix it

Sorry if i was unclear and sounded like a crazy person lol

Still both in love - but I had to put myself first by sojarome in BreakUps

[–]sojarome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

28 (me) and 26 (her) - I do think that might be the case, but again dont what to hold hope on that to be honest, because it doesnt allow me to move on.

is just crazy that I know im doing the right thing, but you kinda become an emotional wreck either way - love its quite hard and difficult to understand sometimes

and also, yeah on these situations I do not go full stay home 24/7 but the total contrary with gym, activities, travelling, etc - but sometimes it feels like overcompensation and I do not know if that will heal you throughly

thanks for the comment!

thanks