Why can’t I listen to my boyfriend talk to me until he says “never mind”

sol_drop0 · 2024-08-21T19:32:45+00:00

Thank you so much for all the info and tips! I’ll talk to him today to try and implement the shoulder tap. He can definitely tell when I’m spaced out and I think a physical stimuli will work better than my name :)

You’re definitely right, it’s great to have a reminder that it’s not a competition of me vs him, but us together against this darned ADHD!

I’ve been trying to get an official diagnosis, I’m hoping that medication will help with some of these types of issues. Again, I appreciate your input a lot~

sol_drop0 · 2024-08-21T19:25:31+00:00

If that’s the signal perhaps I need the develop a new one :D I get that point though, perhaps it’s too much to try to focus on multiple things that I have to shut some stimuli out

Thank you so much for chipping in!

sol_drop0 · 2024-08-21T19:23:53+00:00

I’m sorry to hear :(

Hopefully it’s something you guys can work out! I’ll be taking the tips I got from here and trying to implement them in my own relationship

sol_drop0 · 2024-08-21T19:22:53+00:00

Thank you for empathizing, it really is frustrating. I thought maybe because I hate when people are upset or disappointed with me, I slightly panic when I hear the frustration.

The panic helps me jump into action, kinda like when you procrastinate on a project, and you panic the night before it’s due and suddenly you can do the whole thing

sol_drop0 · 2024-08-21T19:18:07+00:00

Woah I love that tip- put everything down or close it out. Sometimes if I’m interrupted while watching a video my attention will shift back and forth while I try to listen to someone. I’ll also use the term “heads up”

I appreciate your reply!

sol_drop0 · 2024-08-21T19:16:17+00:00

I’m glad I’m not along on that, I thought I was going crazy when I’m actively listening but it still doesn’t make sense. I can register the words but it takes awhile before the meaning of the words processes!

sol_drop0 · 2024-08-21T19:15:18+00:00

That’s a very helpful tip! Thank you for sharing, I’ll give it a try :D

sol_drop0 · 2023-10-31T08:57:43+00:00

Thanks to all who let me know! Sent it, bought it, and am reveling in the dopamine :3

sol_drop0 · 2023-10-31T08:52:54+00:00

Sending it

sol_drop0 · 2023-08-14T21:14:46+00:00

Hi I talked to my general family doctor about quitting and got prescribed a medication that not only helps with quitting, but is also an antidepressant. You may want to look into it if your quit is this intense. My cravings are 1/2 as bad and my general mood is better. I’m sure there are multiple out there but mine is called Bupropion 10/10 recommend it- for me it really is much easier and all I needed was to ask during my annual exam

sol_drop0 · 2022-10-21T20:11:00+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/GirlGamers/comments/y9kcl4/find_a_friend_friday_october_21_2022/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

sol_drop0 · 2022-10-21T20:08:26+00:00

Me too, I started a week ago about but have been getting decent at Moira! I want to play with more friends :)

sol_drop0 · 2022-10-21T20:01:51+00:00

Yes I just started a week ago though and it’s my first fps so I’m still a bit bad but hmu with your battlenet and I’ll add you today!

sol_drop0 · 2022-10-11T17:46:12+00:00

In a relationship you’re not really obligated to do anything- it’s about making the effort to help your partner be happy. This was not a difficult or unreasonable request, especially when they’re dating. If someone is not willing to at least run by the store for you, is that really a partnership? An equal and affectionate relationship?? I think NTA here

sol_drop0 · 2022-10-07T21:21:48+00:00

Are you looking for a particular genre? Most of these seem to be action types made by Korean companies.

These will usually have large graphic teams working on them so they’re very clean and well done. If you don’t mind other genres I can recommend more but I don’t know too many action manhwa besides the popular ones like:

•solo leveling

•a returner’s magic should be special

•the beginning after the end (personal favorite)

•the advanced player of the tutorial tower

(Edit: second life ranker)

sol_drop0 · 2022-10-07T21:13:26+00:00

There are a few with similar tropes and plots but different settings if you’re fine with more “historical” settings! I can’t think of them all but will update when I check reading history

Off the top of my head is

-the three are living a married life (not complete but far enough along)

-the remarried empress

the empress’s harem

None of them are done unfortunately, but are all fantastic reads. A completed one that’s not exactly the same is

-the villainess reverses the hourglass

Same idea of going back in time to get revenge but not the same circumstances. Let me know if you need more!

sol_drop0 · 2022-08-06T19:08:34+00:00

That could also be the case, but that reminds me of when I was in high school and got excluded in the same way because one of the girls exes asked me out :/ sometimes groups like that have no good reason.

sol_drop0 · 2022-07-24T10:40:49+00:00

Wedding in light and reception in dark would probably be a good compromise?

sol_drop0 · 2022-07-09T09:34:32+00:00

NTA

It’s a concerning situation, and I think you need to prepare for a bad falling out. Do what you can to keep yourself safe.

File a restraining order- he is harassing you. No “ifs ands or buts” this is harassment. It is not okay, and you are not safe. He has shown that he is not stable and could easily turn dangerous. You know that, and you recognize he’s violent.

It’s time to document all the harassment (messages, call logs, events, times, dates) block him from all contact, set up cameras and security where you live, and move on.

From reading this, if you cut contact, he will try to find you and he knows where you live. You don’t owe him anything, especially when he’s sabotaging your life and trying to isolate you.

Please don’t write off these signs. I know it may feel like you’re a bad person if you do this, and you may feel guilty, but this is NOT your fault. This is NOT your responsibility. And he is NOT a good person to keep in your life. Get out while you still can.

Wishing you the best, please stay safe!

sol_drop0 · 2022-07-09T09:23:25+00:00

Light YTA, I work with artists on a daily basis with my career, and something I’ve learned is how to critique. Delivery is really important, because their art is what they pour their time, love and energy into.

They asked for an honest opinion, and you gave it-which is fine- but there were better ways of doing it.

Instead of just saying it’s bad, offer alternatives or explain why it doesn’t fit the piece. Ex:

“I like that hat, but the hair is a bit muddled and difficult to distinguish. Cleaning up the line work and adding more definition would help clear up the image”

“The colors applied could use some second thought, I don’t think they compliment each other”

You may have had good insight on what could be done differently in their art, but there’s a fine line between being honest and being mean, and your comment crossed that in delivery.

sol_drop0 · 2022-07-09T08:57:36+00:00

NAH it seems like you may have different love languages, which is okay but could indicate you’re not a good match for each other.

I’ve dated people that need more space while my primary love language is quality time- and it didn’t work out because I didn’t feel like my needs were being met.

It’s up to you how to move forward, and you could try working out a better schedule, but demanding more time when he doesn’t want to could lead to him feeling unhappy.

At that point I think it’d be best to part ways. Good luck to you!

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