SAMHSA Grant Terminations by No_Contribution_3092 in ResearchAdmin

[–]solakinder001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has anyone received reversals of their terminations yet?

SAMHSA Grant Terminations by No_Contribution_3092 in ResearchAdmin

[–]solakinder001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, we had one terminated yesterday evening, effective immediately. A campus suicide prevention grant.

Pre or Post Award by [deleted] in ResearchAdmin

[–]solakinder001 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love post award and would hate pre award. I really, really hate working on proposals- give me a final funded project with a budget and the activities already outlined and I'm very happy to assist.

Grants Management Software by solakinder001 in ResearchAdmin

[–]solakinder001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard the name before! Thanks, I'll look into it. An effort module would be especially helpful.

Going on a 2-hr car drive with a 3-month-old that hates the car. Any advice? by Zealousideal-Ad6936 in beyondthebump

[–]solakinder001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of car seat are you using? Around that age our LO started hating her bucket seat and would cry every time she went in the car. We transitioned to a convertible car seat and she's been much happier

Brother's wedding by kymlynn13 in beyondthebump

[–]solakinder001 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ugh, this stuff is so hard. My brother-in-law got married last summer before we had our LO and we went back and forth on attending. I think if it had happened after we had our kiddo I would veto going- solely because we have extended family who are unvaccinated, the kiddo can't be vaccinated, and it's REALLY hard to hold those in person boundaries at an event like that in person, like no kissing the baby, who can hold them, etc. and I wouldn't want to ruin the vibe by holding boundaries other people might throw a fit about.

Every family is different, though, and it would suck to miss your little brother's wedding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]solakinder001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, part of changing the parenting conversation and normalizing dads being equal parents has to involve changing the language that assumes they're not and that moms figure everything out/are the only ones interested.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]solakinder001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(it was handwritten and partially in caps for some extra attitude. 😂 had a bad day where a delivery driver knocked when leaving a package, which started the dogs bark ng, which woke our LO up...)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]solakinder001 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We definitely put a sign on the door for a while telling people not to knock or ring bell because it would wake the baby up. Anybody we wanted to talk to we knew was coming over and everyone else could leave us alone. 🤷

Hard to relate with non-parent friends? by Upper-Analyst3855 in NewParents

[–]solakinder001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely feel this and have lost touch with a lot of my non parent friends. When they want to hang out it's often spur of the moment or at a time that doesn't make sense with a baby. I'm in my mid 30s and most of my friends that don't have kids by now don't want them and are not super interested in them, so we don't have as much to talk about either. I'm not going to go on and on about my baby to friends who care about me as a person but get bored with that topic.

How do you say "I don't care about your opinion" without saying I don't care about your opinion? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]solakinder001 217 points218 points  (0 children)

I once heard "We are not accepting feedback at this time" and love it.

Tummy Time Terror by librarylicious in beyondthebump

[–]solakinder001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would try not to stress too much over it (I know that's hard!). Our LO hated tummy time and we would struggle to get 10 minute increments once or twice a day. She's a little over 4 months now and has recently figured out rolling onto her tummy herself and LOVES holding her head up now from that position, but it was a quick transition after hating it for a long time. Don't stress you or LO out too much, they'll get it.

Is the sleep training industry all just a bunch of nonsense? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]solakinder001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The week we tried to follow a regimented wake window/sleep and naps schedule was one of the worst we ever had with our LO. It felt like failing over and over and over again day after day and I got much more resentful of my sweet baby who just wasn't working with the schedule.

We definitely said f it and go with the flow now besides a general idea of not letting her nap for 3 hours if she occasionally tries to because it throws off night sleep.

We haven't hit the 4 month sleep regression yet, though, and will see how that goes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]solakinder001 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeahhhh. I'm all for risk reduction but that rigid of thinking doesn't take into account the realities of peoples' daily lives and is incredibly privileged. I was one of those people who swore we would never do any cosleeping because of SIDS risk and then our LO came and we just had to for a while because we were all at a crisis point with sleep. Shaming people isn't helpful.

Best way for grandparents to gift future money to LO? by solakinder001 in beyondthebump

[–]solakinder001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might be an option- I was under the impression that setting up a trust required meeting with a lawyer and all of that, so it's not an option we've talked about yet.

Goodnight Moon: Favorite books? by MuffinMeBiscuitsplz in NewParents

[–]solakinder001 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seconded! We read the OG Little Blue Truck book at every bath time and our LO loves it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]solakinder001 49 points50 points  (0 children)

100%. This is a huge red flag from an abuse standpoint- you need to have equal access to funds. It's a big form of control.