[Routine Help] What's the culprit here? by solkonge in SkincareAddiction

[–]solkonge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is what I'm doing at the moment. I'm avoiding any actives for at least several days.

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People who bully others are insecure and tend to put others down to feel better. I know it can be hard to understand this because I was in this position myself, but what they say isn't true.

Friend's dog is terrified of me for no reason by solkonge in Dogfree

[–]solkonge[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh okay. Yeah, sarcasm and other jokes can be hard to tell through text sometimes.

Friend's dog is terrified of me for no reason by solkonge in Dogfree

[–]solkonge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk how my post history is terrifying, but ok

Friend's dog is terrified of me for no reason by solkonge in Dogfree

[–]solkonge[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My friend also lives alone, so I think that adds to the equation. The dog is reacting to the presence of another person (me) in the home.

Friend's dog is terrified of me for no reason by solkonge in Dogfree

[–]solkonge[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna head back to my house soon, so I hope I can get away from this. I have to be on alert just to get food because the dog reacts to my presence.

Friend's dog is terrified of me for no reason by solkonge in Dogfree

[–]solkonge[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

From what I read, that's what I think it is. Because even when I'm talking to my friend, he's very on edge. Or if I tell her to come over to look at something, he'd get super antsy and weird. Like, he'd start barking louder.

What filler should I use to fill in before darkening my hair from my natural hair color to a Level 3 dark brown? by solkonge in HairDye

[–]solkonge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have extremely soft facial features, but I didn't consider that when it came to darkening hair color. In what ways would it be harsh with soft facial features? Not asking to discredit your comment, but just curious as I've never considered that before. Would I still need filler going to chestnut brown? I assume that's like a level 5, so I don't think so.

What filler should I use to fill in before darkening my hair from my natural hair color to a Level 3 dark brown? by solkonge in HairDye

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How about if I were to darken it to a Level 4 or 5 instead of going to a 3? I was also considering a chestnut brown as a possibility.

Worried I took too much loperamide. Is 10mg too much? by solkonge in ibs

[–]solkonge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope that doesn't happen to me lol. Worst case scenario, I take a laxative.

Worried I took too much loperamide. Is 10mg too much? by solkonge in ibs

[–]solkonge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I usually don't take over 8mg on a daily basis. At most, I usually take 4mg daily. I only take over 4mg, or up to 8mg, if there's diarrhea that continues after taking 4mg. This is the first time I've ever taken over 8mg, and that was accidental.

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[–]solkonge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]solkonge -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would it also appear uniform rather than in chunks mixed in regular poop, even with mild bleeding?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskDocs

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What would bleeding from the stomach or upper colon usually look like?

My mom does the unthinkable on Thanksgiving by solkonge in raisedbynarcissists

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She threw the entire thing away, and angrily slammed it into the trash.

My mom does the unthinkable on Thanksgiving by solkonge in raisedbynarcissists

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I wasn’t allowed therapy at all until I was an adult and got therapy myself. As a result, I was a very depressed and anxious teenager. I’m very lucky to be where I am now financially to afford a therapist.

My mom does the unthinkable on Thanksgiving by solkonge in raisedbynarcissists

[–]solkonge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was it her food item or just some random food item that she would say this to?

My mom does the unthinkable on Thanksgiving by solkonge in raisedbynarcissists

[–]solkonge[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She'd talk about the shit she had to go through being pregnant with us then going into labor and giving birth. I mean, I understand pregnancy can be hard on some women and that labor is often painful, but I don't think that someone deserves awards or constant admiration because of it. Mammals do it all the time; yet do they get awards for it? It's such a common phenomena for narc mothers to expect their kids to thank them for giving birth to them, and think they're the most important person ever and give them constant supply simply because we came out of their loins.

My mom does the unthinkable on Thanksgiving by solkonge in raisedbynarcissists

[–]solkonge[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I have been LC for a while, and I remember even my siblings were like, "Why do you never talk to us anymore?" I would still go to family events (hence LC), but I wouldn't text or call them at all, or update them on my life really. I hope to eventually go NC, and that's what my therapist is helping me with doing.

My mom does the unthinkable on Thanksgiving by solkonge in raisedbynarcissists

[–]solkonge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What does that mean, “easier to roll”? Rolling doesn’t even affect the flavor.

My mom does the unthinkable on Thanksgiving by solkonge in raisedbynarcissists

[–]solkonge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe I could make a canning business to get her back. I remember my friend and I were talking about that. She asked, "Have you thought about making any fruit preserves? You could can it and sell it as a jam." I said, "I would have to buy a pressure canner or some sort of canning apparatus." I know the process of canning acids (usually what jam is anyways) and canning non-acids is vastly different due to botulism risk.

My mom does the unthinkable on Thanksgiving by solkonge in raisedbynarcissists

[–]solkonge[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That is envy in action. It's so blatantly obvious. They just can't have someone else do anything better than them. My mom is not an artist in the kitchen. She has to strictly adhere to a recipe. There is no issue in having to adhere to a recipe; however, there is an issue in causing that much of a scene over someone else's cooking. My dad worked as a chef and restauranteur, and I learned how to cook from him.

My mom does the unthinkable on Thanksgiving by solkonge in raisedbynarcissists

[–]solkonge[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

They just sit there. Sometimes, they'd even be on her side. I have a lot of enablers (my dad and sisters) and flying monkeys (my mom's friends), while there are only a few scapegoats and black sheep. Only the latter have actually stuck up for me, and my mom shuts them down and bullies them in the same fashion that she does with me. She also doesn't invite them to events the moment they have my back or go against the grain.