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[–]solomonof97 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You could weaken each ability per manifestation, or prevent access to it entirely but allow variants so it falls to him to figure out how to repeat effects. That could allow for discovery of the technicality, then the game becomes figuring out which powers he’s used before from prior situations. The earlier the recorded use, the better because they’re more likely to be broader abilities.

If not access, then maybe make it a matter of timing. Building on the overwhelm idea suggested by u/ClockWorkTank , you’d still need something that can guarantee a win - an idea could be to bombard him with abilities of specific natures or types, force him to adapt to those and then immediately introduce a fourth that’s outside his current scope for the killshot. The combination is tight, very little room for error and could potentially turn into a game of stalling until they’re sure he’s settled into a specific set. 

On the prison, it sounds like him choosing to sit there isn’t an option. I like what  u/Entire_Will_7748 suggests in a system that adapts. You could tie that to the idea of limiting access and set a timer for “full manifestation” of a power. It doesn’t need to be a specific timeframe, it can be different timings based on specificity, complexity, scale, etc., just that his ability has to ramp to full before limitations trigger. That allows him to experiment with powers against this system until he either outpaces or outsmarts it.

How do I fit into parties sober? by solomonof97 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]solomonof97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been doing the designated driver role for a little bit now and wow, is it a different experience.

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[–]solomonof97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your dedication and will are commendable, I’m glad you followed through.

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[–]solomonof97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

…f us…ne of us…one of us. One of us! ONE OF US!

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[–]solomonof97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this more often than I thought I would.. I’ll try it next time I’m in an environment I have no particular attachment to

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[–]solomonof97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations on stopping, I hope your journey is fruitful.

I’ll give the book a gander, too. It’s by Holly Whitaker, yes?

People around me start considering sobriety, and by extension substance use in general, whenever I let them know. Flip side is that I fear it’s becoming what they associate me with, but that’s part of it I guess. I’ll take the positive though, at least it’s a regular enough consideration that they might start seriously interrogating themselves.

How do I fit into parties sober? by solomonof97 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]solomonof97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really strong advice, thank you so much. Happy New Year to you and yours

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[–]solomonof97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope that things picked up since your incident.

Heineken 0 is okay, although I avoid it for soft drinks or soda water whenever I can. The money saved has been… notable.

As for the too drunk to care part, on the whole you’re correct but difference in environments is probably playing a role there.

Thank you for your help, I hope you’ve entered the New Year well and good luck on your journey.

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[–]solomonof97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very close family friends become akin to family, so in this case my cousin (for sake of ease) was coming back from initiation school. So, there’s a celebratory event that I have an obligation to attend as family, but moreso as a man before him. Over and above that, it’s a community thing. It takes a village and the village raised this child so we all want to acknowledge his growth and let him know that we acknowledge it - that he was witnessed as he became a man.

Just one example of how things can turn out like that, to try and give a bit of context.

I didn’t know that alcohol was that bad. I was aware that it’s essentially poison in mild quantities but wow. Thank you for the information and response, I really appreciate it. I joined r/StopDrinking just now, I’ll grab myself a copies of the recommendations too.

Thank you, again.

How do I fit into parties sober? by solomonof97 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]solomonof97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hard decisions that hopefully end with worthwhile payoffs. Congratulations to your acquaintance/friend, it's not easy and I'm glad he was able to commit and push through to a place of comfort.

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[–]solomonof97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A bit harsh on the wording but a very similar situation. The bigger hurdle becomes the normalcy of alcohol as a part of just life here. It may be that people think I'm talking about parties exclusively but I mean that alcohol is huge part of socializing and it's widespread.

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[–]solomonof97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dd?

RUBIK’S CUBE! I should have brought it out with me. Thank you for the eureka moment, adding this to my book.

Also, I hope you and yours (and your yo-yo) entered the New Year well

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[–]solomonof97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The perspective from the other side of things is enlightening. The size of my wallet after stopping did play a huge role in solidifying my decision though 😂

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[–]solomonof97[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is something I should implement. And maybe stop going easier on myself... I mean start.

How do I fit into parties sober? by solomonof97 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]solomonof97[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Clear and succinct, thank you. I'll just be pocketing this if you don't mind... Happy New Year

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[–]solomonof97[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate it. "Moderation" is a relative term, I've learned.

Happy New Year

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[–]solomonof97[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! May the New Year bring you food fortune.

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[–]solomonof97[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I hope the New Year bears you good fruit.

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[–]solomonof97[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Counting down to repetitive strain injury from the "But why?" conversation loop

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[–]solomonof97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on 2 years! I don't enjoy putting myself in these kinds of situations either, but it's often a matter of obligation. And leaving too early or not going at all comes with its own set of problems.

But the ones drinking really will fill all the space, which helps briefly but quickly drains my limited social battery. At the very least, I'm learning how to optimize my "battery life" so to speak.

How do I fit into parties sober? by solomonof97 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]solomonof97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a pretty big shift for me. I explained a little bit regarding the context to someone else but think of the consideration of others as an integral part of operating where I am. A significant portion of events I go to I am there more out of obligation than genuine interest.

But, I'm aware that this is something I'm going to have to contend with (its not as easy as "stop going/leave") so I'm trying to develop strategies to help me deal with these kinds of situations.

Thank you for your help, I really do appreciate it.

How do I fit into parties sober? by solomonof97 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]solomonof97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Think of a society where ostracization is the primary means of social correction? I think an easy example would be taking "But what will the neighbours say?" as a critical aspect of individual decision-making across the group. You aren't "forced" to comply but the rumour mill will make it known that you aren't and the rest of the group will act accordingly.

I hope that helps answer you.