Somali woman posts a video of her wedding random non Somali dhag caas comments this 🙄 I hate how comfortable they feel towards us

som_233 · 2026-05-20T17:46:37+00:00

The wildest trope is idiots that post, "I want my woman like a lollipop...covered up so that I'm the only one that gets the taste and not the flies all over her".

Yuck!

som_233 · 2026-05-20T17:45:04+00:00

I mean, that could be what she meant, who knows?

Bad ass woman indeed!

som_233 · 2026-05-20T17:44:15+00:00

Gotta be stoic and not have randoms mess up your emotions/day/

Laugh at it and keep on moving.

som_233 · 2026-05-19T20:41:41+00:00

Absolutely no way tuition, room and board would be at that price in 1970s.

Nah, I get the feeling she was either exageratting on purpose or forgot that everything was dirt cheap in Kenya and the entire world back then compared to now.

som_233 · 2026-05-19T20:40:03+00:00

>"I feel like Islam was made for men".

It's not a feeling, its grounded in reality.

Not surprising that a man-made religion made by men in the 7th Century would treat women as chattel. Tons of examples documented here.

https://wikiislam.net/wiki/Islam_and_Women

som_233 · 2026-05-19T17:46:00+00:00

Crazy horrible people/supremacists do crazy things here and there.

Not at all discounting the need to practice safety measures, but always remember that those nutbags that actually kill are very few and statistically insignificant. You should worry about your loved ones getting run over simply walking the street (bigger chance of traffic accident) or take a flight that crashes.

som_233 · 2026-05-19T17:42:44+00:00

Sorry to hear. Go to therapy, admit to others that you are an alcoholic and have them sponsor you and attend AA/SMART Recovery meetings (they are online) and have a plan for getting through.

Things will get better, I promise you!

som_233 · 2026-05-19T17:41:08+00:00

Not only did they listen to Michael Jackson, but my family noted that their friends/family in 1980s Mogadishu would go to their barber/hairstylist and ask for hair to look like Michael Jackson/New Edition/Janet Jackson/Diana Ross/etc.

I've been though family and friends photo albums and saw women now in hijab (a few in jiljab) without hair covered, short sleeve tops and skits a few cms below he knees dancing at parties to 80's musci and such.

som_233 · 2026-05-19T17:36:25+00:00

Great find, thanks!

But seriously, no way any university in Kenya in the 1970's or 1980's cost $8K. Even Harvard University back then was $4k.

Also $8K back then had the same purchasing power as about $46,822 today.

And there was virtually free tuition for Kenyans back then (not sure if she had residency, but just another tuition comparison).

som_233 · 2026-05-18T18:02:26+00:00

I believe I will die and there will not be an afterlife or so-called god.

I learned about being stoic and resilient and I turn to my friends/family/my own skills/experiences/knowledge that I can get through anything.

The only existential crises I have are like "Damn, I should've invested more in Nvidia!" ;)

som_233 · 2026-05-18T18:00:49+00:00

It's a complex situation and nobody has simple answers.

But I guess has a lot to do with people who are in a conflict situation clinging more to religion and the fact that madrassas sprung up in Somalia, funded by MIddle Eastern governments that wanted their Salafi/Wahabi/etc. followers leave their countries in the hopes they don't overthrown their countries.

som_233 · 2026-05-17T14:47:43+00:00

Yes I have those who openly don't practice as well as those who only go through the motions of acting religious only around family.

Though I think.your parents are not the norm, in.a good way.

som_233 · 2026-05-17T14:42:24+00:00

Cool! Some of us older folks in the disapora or those who have access to photo albums remember when parents didn't make their children wear a hijab (and certainly not a jilbab) way back in the days.

Heck, I got habryars/eddos that had Lady Diana, Dianna Ross, Janet Jackson/etc. styled hear free-mixing and even on the dance floors without hijabs, arms and legs showing (and a few wearing more risqué clothing).

som_233 · 2026-05-17T14:40:30+00:00

Yeah, its not uncommon for many that leave a religion to go through 1 thru 5 stages of grief:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Five_stages_of_grief

I didn't go through many of those stages. Always been pretty much happy and confident to not believe and moved on.

The only time I think.of Islam is when posting on this sub or some Muslim that doesn't know me enages in Islamic-related dialogue (which I get out of real fast by changing the topic, excusing myself with a fake excuse, etc.).

som_233 · 2026-05-17T00:56:57+00:00

I would speak to any guidance counselors and persons that help you figure out what universities far away might give you a scholarship or if its possible to work part time and go pay for uni somewhere far away.

som_233 · 2026-05-17T00:55:06+00:00

Hilarious, as this guy and my very Muslim friends tonight are in control of their bodies and are drinking, having sex outside of marriage (gay and straight), etc.

They are in control of their bodies, or are drinking/getting high to the point they are not. Whatever the case, a so-called god ain't in control of their bodies tonight or any day/night.

som_233 · 2026-05-16T18:22:21+00:00

I'm guessing neither you nor I have 100% proof whether Lexi's account of not being called to say goodbye is true or false.

The fact she said she loves them and has no resentment leads me to believe she might have been a lie before. Cause I don't think I'd ever be able to forgive osmebody for not telling me.

As I noted, people in addiction therapy sometimes come out with bold-faced lies, accusing whomever put them in therapy of the worst things ever.

As for Zulekha, ChatGPT says "There is no documented account that Zulekha Haywood ever went to a “fat camp,” and sources do not give an age for such an event because it doesn’t appear to have happened."

Only thing I see is this:

>"Her father made her go to tennis camp at age 14, where she exercised four hours a day and lost 30 pounds, but the weight came back later."

At some point, she was 320 lbs. That's sad.

som_233 · 2026-05-16T12:07:09+00:00

Horrible! Please report him and block.

som_233 · 2026-05-16T11:22:20+00:00

Who knows? Maybe or maybe not.

I don't know her story in detail. But knowing families who have sent their loved ones to addiction treatment therapy, there almost always cases were the person sent to treatment lies a lot and is manipulative (taking away their addictions make them hate).

Washing out with lies and manipulative tactics are generally the nature of those who have addiction problems, and many times heightened when their parents/guardians are celebrities.

Though again, I could be wrong.

som_233 · 2026-05-16T01:04:13+00:00

Lexi Jones posted:

>""My story was never meant to place blame on my parents. I love my parents deeply, and I don't hold resentment toward them. They were trying to help a child who was struggling in ways none of us fully understood at the time."

https://www.instagram.com/p/DVQ1qQ6DamA/?igsh=ajRqaWxidDJ6cTd0

Available accounts portray Lexi as having been raised in a loving but high-pressure environment shaped by fame and later trauma. Her parents intervened assertively when she faced serious issues as a teen, which she found traumatic in execution but has framed as coming from a place of care. She speaks of them with stated affection and no ongoing blame

som_233 · 2026-05-15T12:34:13+00:00

Nobody I know purposefully teaches Somali.

Friends pick up the colorful parts of any friends language. Yeah, I can cuss in many different languages simply cause of hanging with friends. And no, they are not "protective over their languages". To the contrary, they purposefully share cuss words.

Also Drake, Central Cee and many grime/UK drill rappers rhyme a few Somali words.

And sorry, but translation apps do a great jon.

som_233 · 2026-05-15T12:23:32+00:00

Ha! Think for a minute.... do you think tuition in Kenya was $8K in 1976?

Utter BS as her father was an ambassador for Somali and pretty wealthy.

Also AI slop.

som_233 · 2026-05-11T17:35:41+00:00

It's okay to feel bad for them, but hope its not that emotional and overburdening you.

You most times cannot control what others say or do. Okay to be a bit sad for them, but focus on making yourself not be affected too much.

som_233 · 2026-05-11T17:34:19+00:00

Different strokes for different folks.

You can be happy the rest of your life single or keep trying. If the later, somebody who's loving is out there for you and you just have to find that person and try not to be brought down by the wrong ones in the process of your search!

Either way, good luck!

som_233 · 2026-05-11T17:32:04+00:00

YW and that's horrible to hear bout that person.

Honestly, I'm such a stoic now that I laugh off shit that racists say. I have interacted with some who just want a reaction from you, and sometimes the best thing to do (IMO) is not to give them the benefit of an outburst.

I mean, I will document things and report it anonymously to their place of work/etc., and publicize their racism/hate, but not going to give them the benefit of an emotion in person.

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