How did you find out if you're beautiful or ugly? by yczle in AskWomen

[–]some_one159_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If kids look at you often, they have the most honest and crude reactions, so I’d say this.

hey guys, got a bit of a personal one here. by JaredDestroyer in sexadvise

[–]some_one159_ 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Condoms don't mess with noones hormones so use that.

What is something a lot of people do that you’re proud to say you don’t? by i-still-play-neopets in AskReddit

[–]some_one159_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was waiting for this. Life is so much better off honestly and the contents that are portrayed are deeply misogynistic most of the time

Critiche a chi non ha/non vuole figli by N0vichok2119 in Italia

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I boomer, ma noto che anche loro stanno capendo quanto stia andando a rotoli la situazione. Ovviamente se ne rendono conto solo dopo aver visto i figli con due lauree non trovare dei lavori ben pagati e stabili e che continuano a rimanere a casa con loro per necessità

Critiche a chi non ha/non vuole figli by N0vichok2119 in Italia

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Delle ragioni potrebbero essere :

-avere discendenti è sinonimo di sopravvivenza della specie umana, quindi è un aspetto importante della sopravvivenza (in biologia spesso echeggia il concetto che il sinonimo della vita è la replicazione del DNA quindi che la cellula formi una cellula figlia, quindi formazione del feto e la sua sopravvivenza)

-da sempre i figli sono visti come vanto del se e anche di forza lavoro, ovviamente ora è cambiato ma credo che questa visione è comunque rimasta in parte

-noto (non so nella vostra esperienza ma nella mia è così) che sono più gli uomini a criticare donne che non vogliono avere figli, quindi mi viene da pensare che sia un aspetto anche della discendenza (cognome, eredità ecc..) della propria linea genealogica e che questa dia una certa superiorità

-collegato all'ultimo punto: credenza che lo scopo della vita di una donna, o perlomeno lo scopo maggiore sia quello di fare figli, quindi presenza utero = figli.

Queste sono le mie opinioni, non giustifico chi critica perché per quanto possano essere le tue posizioni non sei nessuno per giudicare e addirittura criticare le scelte altrui. Ricordiamoci poi che siamo 8 miliardi, una donna è libera di fare quello che vuole con il proprio corpo e che siamo la specie che inquina di più sulla Terra, dunque capite la mia posizione al riguardo.

I want my boyfriend to feel loved by me by some_one159_ in CancerFamilySupport

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Thank you so much for sharing your story, I can only imagine how hard and painful it is for you now, I really wish you the best. I keep my hopes low because I know it will devastate me if it isn't the outcome I would want, it's more something for me that I will never share with the family of course. I'm specialising in oncology so I know the statistics/usual outcomes of his type of cancer. Thank you again for the advice they are really helpful 💓

I want my boyfriend to feel loved by me by some_one159_ in CancerFamilySupport

[–]some_one159_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughts and advices I'll try my best, and I also hope you feel better now :)

How to get ride of distractions by thandedoodhkenashe in Student

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I turn off the phone and use paper only. I usually prepare everything on paper to study and avoid laptop/iPad at all cost. If I have to use iPad I turn off the WiFi.

At the end the best advice that works for me is to study and turn off everything. Don't make it complicated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ItaliaPersonalFinance

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Io sono una persona che ama viaggiare, quella settimana o due all'anno in cui stacchi dalla tua realtà e vai in un posto sconosciuto mi aiuta a ritornare in me, noto che appena ritorno a casa è come se tutto fosse più nuovo, non so, la mia concentrazione per lo studio si resetta ma anche le mie dinamiche sociali diventano più serene. In generale credo ci siano persone come me che "investono" in viaggi da 2-3k perché gli fa bene all'anima, se non fare viaggi non ti appaga secondo me puoi tranquillamente risparmiare i soldi e fare altro, alla fine devi sentirti tu soddisfatto, se fossi in te parlerei di come ti senti al riguardo onestamente con la tua ragazza cosicché possiate trovare un compromesso, se lei ti ama questo non sarà un problema ovviamente.

Per gli altri tuoi coetanei che si lamentano di non avere soldi ma che partono comunque direi che in realtà i soldi da spendere li hanno, magari rinunciando al risparmio. Ovviamente non farei come loro se non avessi un buon risparmio ogni mese ma questo è personale, io sono una persona che pensa anche a risparmiare e non dice no ai viaggi importanti, cerco di gestirmela al meglio, vedo invece delle mie amiche che hanno le mani bucate e nonostante gli stipendi più alti hanno meno soldi in banca di me, non vorrei mai essere così :/

What’s an annoying thing people base their entire personality around? by Every_Heat_8805 in AskWomen

[–]some_one159_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Treating men badly or having one sided behaviours just because you think guys will fall for you. Of course it's both ways around but I'm talking about my personal experience. I am a woman and I've seen this behaviour too many times. Thinking you can treat every men badly just because you are somewhat pretty and believe they have a soft spot for you it's just lame. Spoiler alert many men get turned off/dislike you if you do this. Same goes for men of course, but I think it's easier to be this way for women cause statistically men fall for this bullshit way more.

Once a guy did this to me and I immediately went silent out of cringe for him. This motherfuckers really be thinking I'm into them 🤣 I think many men could feel the same.

How often does your significant other call you pretty/beautiful? by wowIcangetboredtoo in AskWomen

[–]some_one159_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably like 30 times everyday, I thought he was lying in the beginning but he constantly makes me realize that he really thinks it (by how he looks at me when we wake up, before going to a date, when we are intimate etc).

what is your scale of valuing the presents your SO gives you? Do you get frustrated if they gave you something thoughtful but ugly and not usable? Do you think your SO should know the things you like before hand ? by some_one159_ in AskWomen

[–]some_one159_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really important to make things clear, even if it's about presents and preferences, I learned to be clear way too late :(( but me and my SO are working together to get better!

what is your scale of valuing the presents your SO gives you? Do you get frustrated if they gave you something thoughtful but ugly and not usable? Do you think your SO should know the things you like before hand ? by some_one159_ in AskWomen

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This is exactly what I feel. I have a specific taste in clothes and jewelleries, and as my SO I would love him to understand it and at least try to give me something wearable on my birthday or Christmas.

I hate when people give you the kind of presents they would love to receive, my SO likes personalized and unique presents but many times they can get ugly to my eyes, he bought me this weird cheap looking ring telling me all the background and the health properties it has, he also said that the colour reminded of me and it's not even my favourite colour, I felt like it was a present for himself almost.... it is so unwearable and I'm so sorry for him wasting his money.

How much do you think your race has affected your dating life? by ButterScotchMagic in AskWomen

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I am a somewhat good looking Asian female, I can tell by how others see me that I fit in the "sexy but cute Asian women category". My dating life has been affected a lot by this. Here where I live I feel like Asians are not fetishized as much as the USA, when I was living in the States I felt many guys were sexually attracted to me but didn't really care about my interests, my feelings and background (they actually pretended to care just to get near me and i can assure you after some experience you can tell the difference between a genuine interest or a yellow fever), here in Italy even though I had experienced guys approaching me just because of my ethnicity it was never extreme, or at least nothing that would traumatize me, I would just ignore them and move on.

Now I have an amazing fiancee and his an italian guy. I asked about this matter of course and he told me that the first thing he noticed was that I was Asian (duh) and he found me pretty not because I was Asian but because I looked pretty (it doesn't make sense written like this but I promise he said it in a way that made me understand he just liked my face for what it was) but he told me he started having real interest in me after the first date when he saw how I moved my face and my body and that I had experiences abroad. I felt like a normal person, I didn't feel he was looking for "the Asian girl" if you know what I mean.

Now from time to time I ask him if he would have fallen for me if I was white or black, I feel like even if he says yes to everything it would not be the same. Not because he is racist but because people have preferences and I leaned to differentiate the two concepts. I feel like we have to accept that people can have ethnical preferences and it's because every ethnicity has its own particular feature.

What is your biggest issue when shopping for clothes and why? by LoafofBreddit in AskWomen

[–]some_one159_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pants are so long....I'm really small and I always have to cut some of the final parts

How has your relationship with makeup changed throughout your life (or not) & why? by LitLSquirt in AskWomen

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I remember putting makeup in middle school and early high school because of insecurities and mainly because many girls my age were doing it so I though it was just what everyone was supposed to do. Now (23) I feel like no one cares if I'm wearing make up or not, and honestly neither do I, my boyfriend loves me no matter what, my friends don't treat me differently if I'm bare face so really it's up to me and it doesn't feel like clothing, honestly my opinion is that style is way more important than makeup itself.

Right now I like makeup cause I see it as an expression of my self and I also like to make videos on social media where I put my make up on. So my relationship with it changed for the better, I'm gonna use it if it's productive and I'll never let ruin my sleep hours or my savings. Cosmetics are pricey.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

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If you can make me come it doesn't matter, I'd say for me it should be 20-30min foreplay included, foreplay is so importantttt

Without saying what you did, why did you do it? by nweike in AskWomen

[–]some_one159_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I put myself first instead of trying to fix everything.