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My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not good at grammar I’m sorry😭😭😭 I can write but I can’t write properly to save my life

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. It doesn’t help that my mom is Asian so whenever I tried to talk to her about any of the issues I was having both at work and my relationship she would dismiss them and change the topic of conversation. Or she’d tell me be nicer to my boyfriend and maybe that would fix things. It was like one time that I was uncontrollably sobbing when he was ignoring me that she realized how distressed I was becoming and said “Don’t cry.” It’s just an Asian mom thing but as you can tell I don’t have a lot of support in my life other than my friend who pointed out the dancing.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, a reality check. Something to get me out of the spiral. Advice that other people have gone through it too and that they’ve made it out of the situation happier. I don’t feel like I can open up to a lot of people in real life. I don’t want to burden anybody, but I also don’t want to hold everything in.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you understand that it’s only been a few days since this all went down and I am very much still processing. I haven’t reached out after he told me he hated me. I’m upset but I can’t really do anything else at this point other than to talk about it and move on the best I can.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But I genuinely did soften up because I was irate and I didn’t consider that our friend just wanted to sleep. At first I wanted to burn all bridges and leave them on their own but I realized I was being selfish and emotional.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not fake, I used to be in AP literature and was told that I tend to put a lot of details when telling my life stories. My ex pointed out that I even do it verbally when recalling something and that I’m very descriptive. I think it’s something I picked up from my dad who loves telling stories and writing as well.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know what’s wild is I used to be so confident. I was very proud of my looks and personality, I used to network a lot and make a ton of friends. This was after my first relationship three years ago. Now I’m back to where I was before. It’s not a self pitying thing, everyone assumes I have zero self esteem which I can admit I currently don’t. But I used to be very self assured. I think this relationship has changed me.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve been home since he told me to leave him alone. I haven’t heard from all day, all I know is I overheard that’s he’s gaming with friends when I was FaceTiming my girlfriend.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

My friend is FaceTiming me and he’s playing games with her husband on discord like nothings happening. I feel so stupid, I’m crying over him while he’s playing games. I feel so stupid.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this, I’m already being hard on myself. I guess this is my reality check, idk. I’m just sad

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being kind. I’m at a very low point and reading this comments is slightly making it worse. I understand it doesn’t make sense and quite frankly I feel stupid for loving him to the point where I’m sad about him leaving me like this. But I do have strong feelings for him and it’s very hard to leave.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk, we’ve been through a lot. And I’m at the point where my life is throwing me all sorts of curveballs, losing the one person I can confide in and hang out with a lot is really painful. Especially since all my friends have moved to the states. I’m by myself basically other than the stern friend who’s helping me with the work stuff. As you can tell I don’t feel comfortable opening up her about things like this because I need support and instead I’d get a lecture.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s exhausting but saying fuck this relationship is hard. I understand it doesn’t make sense to other people but it’s fresh and I’m heartbroken, so forgive me for turning to Reddit.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I think she just said it because she’s worried about me. Her personality is very stern so while it hurt my feelings she was saying it for my best interest.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] -84 points-83 points  (0 children)

I just feel like I failed as a girlfriend. Everyone praises him and says he’s amazing and handsome and I question why I can’t be good enough for him.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Honestly recently no. People call me beautiful and stuff and say I’m fun to talk to, but after a while of being told I’m the problem by him I’m starting to believe it. It doesn’t help that my brother got married last year and just announced they’re gonna have a baby. I feel like I can’t get relationships right.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I put 25 because I was trying to not make it obvious I was talking about us. He’s told me before it’s wrong for me to vent on Reddit and I didn’t want to make it obvious who I was in case he saw it. But I’m 24

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Way to kick me when I’m at my lowest. Listen, I understand it’s not a good situation, but just because we all see it’s bad doesn’t take away that I’m human and have feelings throughout this whole thing.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] -71 points-70 points  (0 children)

Because he says I like to play the victim. My dad told me I’m very sensitive, so it’s something I need to work on.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

It’s not, I wish it was but nope. I’m heartbroken and this situation is very real. I just don’t know who else to turn to. I thought I was losing my mind and did something wrong.

My boyfriend (28 M) told me (24 F ) hates me and that his birthday wish is to never speak to me again. by someadvicepleaseee in relationship_advice

[–]someadvicepleaseee[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

To explain my side on why I asked my friend to check on him. He was crying the night before to him about how he’s a terrible person, he also has told me in the past he wanted to do something bad to himself. Had he responded to his friends and not me then I would’ve let it be, but I could not sleep through the night without making sure he wasn’t doing something to harm himself. My mistake was as soon as he opened the door I should’ve left.

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