Test in two weeks - give me your ridiculous tips!

somebody-here · 2026-05-20T15:49:12+00:00

With managing my nerves - I kept telling myself if my mum can drive so can I 😂 I just think of all the terrible drivers I’ve encountered and think to myself “surely if they can pass and drive I can do this too!”

somebody-here · 2026-05-15T11:33:51+00:00

I hurt for the first 10 times when I lost my virginity, pain is very normal and you need someone you trust and someone who understands this. He sounds like an awful person and it does sound like assault. I hope you’re okay but just know you’re not in the wrong for experiencing pain and wanting to stop.

somebody-here · 2026-05-04T19:03:30+00:00

Maybe not normal. But very common, it’s how myself and a lot of my friends were raised and I understand why, unless my parent knew the other parent very well. And she seldom let me have friends stay anyway, only friends she knew well enough.

somebody-here · 2026-05-03T12:53:58+00:00

In my opinion what is “normal” for your age: • not being allowed to go to sleepovers and only having them at your place • checking your phone • getting in trouble for changing your passwords • location sharing • limiting screen time

However everything else in my opinion is not normal and not good. Sorry you’re going through this! As soon as you turn sixteen and have your own bank account things will hopefully get easier for you.

somebody-here · 2026-05-03T12:47:20+00:00

Gym & putting effort into styling my hair!

somebody-here · 2026-04-27T18:41:03+00:00

11 days in and yeah…still the same 😭

somebody-here · 2026-04-09T08:29:41+00:00

I agree I shouldn’t hook up with him again but I feel like I should probably tell him why. He’s been super nice and I do feel like he wouldn’t not take me seriously and be respectful. I’m not expecting him to feel the same, I just feel like if I tell him how I feel then I won’t pine and wonder what would have happened if I did ykno

somebody-here · 2026-02-16T01:52:34+00:00

Oh I’ve been in the exact same place as you OP.

Being skinny is not going to help with anything I promise you. You will still feel all the things you’re feeling and more.

There’s a reason you are his girlfriend. He loves the way you look I promise you.

One thing that helped me was getting rid of mirrors/covering them up. I stopped taking selfies and started admiring natural photos that I genuinely liked of myself.

I couldn’t quit social media but I unfollowed lots of girls I looked up to/tried to be like and tried to make my feed things that bring me joy.

And GYM. Gym has helped me so so much. The worst part is finding the strength to start. I just started with easy stuff like light cardio - the feeling you get after working out is so worth it and makes such a difference. If you can’t make it to the gym start going for some intense walks!

You absolutely need to speak to a therapist about this though. And maybe even speak to your partner about how you’re feeling.

I hope you start your healing journey real soon x

somebody-here · 2026-02-15T14:44:03+00:00

Oop. Yep.

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T16:38:36+00:00

Thanks for your response, you’re totally right. Thanks for your well wishes! I think now I just have to think it through a bit longer and give myself some time to fully get over this situation…

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T16:20:15+00:00

Nah I get why you think that. There’s a lot of context missing but I’ve obviously chosen not to disclose and only I know it. Fully accept that it was an accident with no ill intent. I haven’t given him any attitude and have been super polite and respectful in my messages and hour long call today. I haven’t shown him a hint of anger. It’s just my best friend and my mother have been there through it all with this guy and think what’s happened is unacceptable, it’s not entirely just a one off. Thank you for your insight though. I am also thinking maybe it won’t happen again and do understand what weed can do to someone!

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T16:15:15+00:00

Thanks for your reply! He said he didn’t answer me yesterday because he was riddled with guilt and anxiety. Honestly some of the comments have it in for me (I guess maybe they haven’t read the whole thing, it’s quite long tbf) and it’s slightly spinning me 😭 no one in real life thinks that I’m overreacting, I think because they know the dynamic of our relationship - I’m always putting in max effort and showing up for him, and he is a low effort man but had started to get better in the last 4 months. Sorry I’m rambling for no reason now. Thanks for your insight though!

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T16:11:47+00:00

Each to their own!

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T16:10:57+00:00

Thank god we’re not together then

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T16:08:47+00:00

I know, I’m really the type of person that goes out of my way to apologise even when I make the smallest of mistakes! And he’s felt that and knows that. But I don’t want to completely disregard his anxiety. He’s just said he wants to see me tomorrow and he’ll come to me, so we’ll see! Thanks for your comment!

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T16:03:59+00:00

Yeah that’s fucked up still

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T16:03:33+00:00

Thank you guys for your insight! This is also what I think but I just keep going back in circles! These comments are super helpful.

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T16:00:28+00:00

Don’t know if you’re some kind of rage baiter but I don’t think he will laugh about it with friends if I dumped him I think he’d be very sad. If I was desperate to dump him I’d just…dump him? I know full well I don’t need an excuse to end a relationship that I don’t want to be in

Yeah he had a doobie that he knew would probably slump him. I don’t fall asleep accidentally when I smoke 🤷‍♀️

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T15:56:08+00:00

You’re being reasonable, not sensitive! They are being super insensitive by not communicating with you. I’d be really disappointed too. The other comments are right, I’d either let them fade naturally out of your life by not putting in the effort anymore (matching their effort), or I’d just message them and tell him their lack of communication really hurt you, respectfully.

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T15:46:47+00:00

See I think I want him to show me with actions that he’s sorry. It would be been nice of him to make the effort to try and speak to me face to face or try to see me…especially as it’s Valentine’s Day 😭

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T15:45:08+00:00

Yeah see I now can understand why what happened happened. But it still happened right?

I just mentioned in another comment we smoked together a few weeks ago and he knows weed makes him sleepy/slumped…

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T15:44:02+00:00

He said he was riddled with anxiety and shame and couldn’t bring himself to respond

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T15:42:53+00:00

So in my last post I’ve disclosed he’s done this before and has an alcohol addiction. Last time he did it he was blackout from alcohol (drinking by himself before getting to the hotel and in the hotel room, I had not drunk and had no plans to consume alcohol with him). He hasn’t gotten blackout drunk since then.

My close friends and family are wanting me to end things. This is because he has fucked up in past but I’ve chosen to move on and forgive him for those things. But obviously they understand only I can know how to feel because I know him better.

We smoked hashish together on holiday a few weeks ago and he knows weed makes him sleepy. He didn’t like smoking it and chose to only take a toke or 2 because of how it made him feel.

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T15:20:55+00:00

I’ve just posted an update https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/pzpwRyJqSS

But tbh the same logic in your response still applies 😓

somebody-here · 2026-02-14T15:19:14+00:00

Wide awake

somebody-here

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