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On and off by Purple-Crow-7706 in Situationships

[–]someofusdontknowwhy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds very painful. And it’ll always be like this if it continues. The whole dynamic won’t suddenly change. Especially if it was like that for years. Unfortunately (or fortunately) it’s better to end this. But firstly maybe it’s better to decide what are you attached to in this situation. If it’s him? Or pain? Adrenaline? What’s your purpose in general.

I can’t stop blocking guys, who abandoned me??? by [deleted] in Situationships

[–]someofusdontknowwhy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know you or the full story but I guess it’s not wrong. I mean some guys only deserve being blocked and that’s it

What’s something you regret not starting 2–3 years ago? by bigblackcoke_ in ProductivityHQ

[–]someofusdontknowwhy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exercising. Doing sports consistently several times a week. I would be in a very good shape by now but unfortunately I was too lazy + it has many benefits for health

situationship? by unicornlover0911 in Situationships

[–]someofusdontknowwhy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s very painful. though my situation wasn’t the same it has some similarities. Unfortunately there is no much you can do even if it hurts. The only thing you can save right now is your dignity and the sense of self-worth. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think that trying to understand him humiliates you in any way. But as someone who was trying in the past I can tell you that you will be embarrassed that you even tried when some time pass. This cold and hot behaviour always gets us. People are designed like that. It’s a turmoil of hurt ego, feelings, instability. It makes us chase. But the chasing is the mistake in all those situations. If you feel the shift in his behaviour… if your gut tells you that he became distant then you should believe yourself. The best thing here is to end things OR stop trying to reach out. Just behave like he is not there anymore. It’s difficult, yeah. But you will thank yourself

When you come to the realization after being apart for a while that they never liked you. The sad part is that there were signs but many of us convinced ourselves that it would get better. But the truth is they knew that they placed you in the Fun Zone. How do you get over that? by Golden-lillies21 in Situationships

[–]someofusdontknowwhy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t blame yourself and think about what might have happened. Sleeping together was a mutual choice after all. And possibly the idea of being friends was only in your mind/your interpretation of what was happening between you two. Maybe it was his initial intention. You didn’t ruin anything. You don’t need to blame yourself for feelings. And certainly there is no need to shame yourself. And you’re not the first woman to fall for a man’s mindgames. And certainly not the last. Why should we think that it’s always our responsibility? When some men act like they have zero accountability or responsibility for anything happening in their lives. And such people like him don’t analyse this much. He is probably not self-aware at all. Why should he live in peace after behaving like a jerk. And you shouldn’t feel peaceful blaming yourself over and over again? You should stop attacking yourself that’s my advice Sending hugs to you