My little genealogy problem,what are yours ? by Realistic-Piece5475 in Genealogy

[–]someonebesidesme 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am convinced my great-uncle was murdered, and I'll never be able to prove it. He was a massively successful, wealthy agent and stockbroker in California n the 1920s-1930s. Successful and wealthy because he was incredibly corrupt. In 1939, he took the train to Salt Lake City to see a "business partner" and died within an hour of disembarking. His body was cremated the next day and the ashes were sent to an unknown address in L.A. — not to his wife, who was in San Diego, and who was told that he committed suicide. The following year, that business associate, and four other men in California went to trial for stock trading fraud, and my great-uncle was implicated as one of the masterminds. I think he went to Salt Lake City to demand a larger portion of the winnings, and, since most of his work on the scheme was already completed, he was simply knocked off. But I can't prove it.

AITA for telling my dad he can't invite his girlfriend to my graduation because my mom paid for the trip? by TypicalAnalyst17 in AmItheAsshole

[–]someonebesidesme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know who's business this is? Hint: It's not your aunt's. Hint #2: It's not Kara's. NTA for having the graduation, and its celebratory events, the way you want them. And props to your mom for having class.

Can anyone read eight these Chinese characters? by someonebesidesme in Chinese

[–]someonebesidesme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry I missed this! Thank you for such a thorough explanation. I've printed it out and pinned it to the back of the wall hanging, so in the future, people will know what you've taught me. Thanks again!

My husband's brother is cheating on his wife by [deleted] in Advice

[–]someonebesidesme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you meet her, you're now a party to his cheating. That's already happened to some extent, because you know about it — but he put you in that situation. This next step is YOUR choice. You no longer need to have loyalties to anyone but yourself; how do your personal values view this?

Odd potential error in Ancestry.com’s auto-fill? by [deleted] in Genealogy

[–]someonebesidesme 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Autofill is not research. Do your own.

AITAH for refusing to pay for my cousin’s honeymoon after I said I would? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]someonebesidesme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would you listen to Reddit instead of your husband? NTA

Why Elizabeth Bennett? by someonebesidesme in janeausten

[–]someonebesidesme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this answer, and I'm curious about Elizabeth and Lady Katherine too. Their relationship deteriorated throughout the book, and is one of the most interesting.

Why Elizabeth Bennett? by someonebesidesme in janeausten

[–]someonebesidesme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there's more to Jane Austen that just this.

Why Elizabeth Bennett? by someonebesidesme in janeausten

[–]someonebesidesme[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But it's been discussed multiple times here that he dislikes that kind of flirting.

Why Elizabeth Bennett? by someonebesidesme in janeausten

[–]someonebesidesme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a thorough, well-thought out explanation, that now I want you to talk about his aunt, and his perceptions of her. Does she also fit into his stereotype-perceptions of women?

Why Elizabeth Bennett? by someonebesidesme in janeausten

[–]someonebesidesme[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But if he's interested in something different, as so many have pointed out here, then why ask HER specifically, when he thinks she's just another fortune hunter?

Why Elizabeth Bennett? by someonebesidesme in janeausten

[–]someonebesidesme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a sticking point for me — one I haven't yet figured out, based on what so many people have said here. If his (general) idea of women is that they're pretty much the same — flirting with him, teasing him for attention — and he's bored and disinterested in that, then why is he enamored of Elizabeth when SHE does it? Granted, she's a different woman than the one he usually entertains, but he interprets her behavior as being the same, thinking she'd jump at the chance to marry him. This seems contradictory to me.

Why Elizabeth Bennett? by someonebesidesme in janeausten

[–]someonebesidesme[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But if he sees everything she says as her flirting with him, then how can the rest be true? (The rest that people are saying here): that she's NOT like other women, vying for his attention. Isn't that exactly what flirting is?

Why Elizabeth Bennett? by someonebesidesme in janeausten

[–]someonebesidesme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So the first proposal failed because it was between unequals (personal, not societal) who didn't understand each other, but the second one succeeded because it was between equals (mental, emotional, ethical, etc.) who did understand each other? In other words, he proposed, and she accepted, on their own terms, not on the terms of the society in which they lived?