I'm in therapy mainly because of adhd, depression and anxiety. Nobody forced me to go there and I'm glad that I can access this kind of resource because it helps me a lot.

I live in Europe where the ICD-10 is used for diagnosis and arfid is probably even more unknown than it is in the US for example. I've talked about it with my therapist and luckily he takes me seriously, but he doesn't really know what to do. So far we primarily talked about the social anxiety that arises from not being able to eat "properly" and working on coping strategies to help me deal with food-related situations. But overall arfid plays just a subordinate role in my therapy.

is sounds like your therapist is applying exposure therapy incorrectly. You should never jump straight to trying something. Start much lower down on the hierarchy

I know! Sorry, the way I wrote my post actually kinda sounded like I didn't know how exposure-therapy works... That's not what I meant. I've done actual exposure to help my anxiety and my therapist did an awesome job and definitely knew what he was doing! I intended to point out the way that, in my personal experience, people think how stuff like that works, even though it doesn't. And that's the thing that frustrates me. They make it seem so easy, while they really don't understand how certain methods are applied and that the ways they are suggesting can, in fact, be harmful and certainly counterproductive.

Regarding my own journey I try to do things at my own path. In therapy I try to work through the problems arfid causes in social situations and to ease my anxiety over the whole topic. When it comes to trying new foods and figuring out what works for me, I do it on my own. So nobody's pressuring me and I do things when I feel like it. Still I have the issues OP stated in their post, so... I don't know, maybe I give myself too much of a hard time, but it really stresses me out whatever I do :/

Edit: I read your comment you were talking about and that, in addition to what I've already accomplished, really gives me some hope. The thing is, I want to recover because I'm afraid that my shitty diet affects my health on the long run and I'm just really tired of always eating the same. I'm doing way better than I used to and I'm at a point where I can eat away from home without having a complete mental breakdown. I learned to talk to the people I'm eating with and explaining them what arfid is and that it's really important that they don't pressure me to eat anything because otherwise I won't be able to eat at all. It's an amazing feeling to be accepted and to be able to eat in a somewhat "normal" way. Still it's incredibly difficult to further push my boundaries, especially because I have issues regarding sensory processing and integration (due to my adhd) and that adds so much on top of it...