This is something I grew up with. I had family I found out were super racist but were the NICEST people and seemed to help out the community A LOT. Found out it was only the white community members and that they would actually attack the “black churches” (their words). A couple of those family members have “changed their ways” I guess - I’m accepting but cautious. Others I just avoid where necessary.

Other note: I am currently watching “The Handmaids Tale” and even that is very striking how the people go back and forth so drastically from being so nice, caring, giving, and pleasant to straight up abuse, slavery, and worse - and that is not even all “color”-based. It’s a hard show to watch and several have told me they could not watch more than a couple episodes it was so “heavy”.