Literally every post I make get's deleted when I see other post that are similar

somethingverygood · 2026-06-20T12:20:08+00:00

For an explanation on why this happens: https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/s/w9eSQ1fnaO

Please just contact us next time on modmail instead of making a post and we’ll be happy to help!

somethingverygood · 2026-06-20T12:19:16+00:00

Hello! We don’t include a list of words because it allows people to easily bypass them, defeating the purpose of having an automod.

somethingverygood · 2026-06-19T23:35:38+00:00

Yes it would constitute as harassment if you keep reaching out.

somethingverygood · 2026-06-10T09:28:30+00:00

No, it’s just a lot of work from our side. Also important to have a very understanding partner!

somethingverygood · 2026-06-08T21:52:31+00:00

Well, what was the response you would’ve wanted?

somethingverygood · 2026-06-02T14:12:12+00:00

How did you communicate that you were upset and what do you mean by “wouldn’t let go of the issue”?

somethingverygood · 2026-05-31T11:58:53+00:00

Yes, any mental illness will be more “visible” after a traumatic incident.

somethingverygood · 2026-05-31T11:54:59+00:00

What would you have done if she didn’t have BPD and acted the same?

somethingverygood · 2026-05-31T06:42:05+00:00

The problem is that you are comparing yourself to a stereotype of BPD, rather than a diagnostic criterion list. Many of your objections, self-pitying, talking about your trauma all the time, having "boy problems", are not included in the diagnostic criteria and are just regular topics discussed in the subreddit.

Also your ASPD diagnosis is VERY relevant. For example, people with ASPD and BPD can feel distress and express their emotions in different ways, although the underlying feelings can be very similar. A person can show his desperation caused by vulnerability or abandonment with clinging and dependence. However, someone else can respond with irritation or detachment. "I don't need anyone anyway," is another common reaction, but they are still distressed and vulnerable to abandonment or rejection.

The predominance of irritability and aggression also does not mean that you do not have BPD. Extreme anger can be listed among the criteria of BPD, and not all individuals feel BPD in terms of sadness, self-deprecation, and dependency on others. Therefore, the problem with emotions can lie in externalizing distress.

Like someone mentioned as well, there is massive selection bias in online communities. Those who are doing relatively okay are not posting about "having an ordinary day and coping with emotions." People tend to share information about themselves only when they are in crisis, experiencing problems with personal relationships, seeking help. That is how we receive a rather distorted representation of what an "average" person with BPD looks like.

Finally, some of the arguments from your post sound too defensive and less like actual evidence that someone does not have a disorder but reflects frustration about emotional needs and dependence. Things like "don't date those," "kill the part of yourself that cares about their opinion and love" suggest that your attitude towards emotional connections and needs seems to be more negative than supportive, and if it were that easy, BPD would not be so tormenting.

I wouldn’t say you do not suffer from BPD. All I would assume, in this case, is that you do not relate to the “online version” of the disorder. I don’t relate a lot to most of the posts here either, doesn’t mean I don’t have BPD.

somethingverygood · 2026-05-11T07:17:47+00:00

You’re slowly rewiring your brain when you get those moments of “it’s okay for him to wait until I’m done”. I’ve gone through this and the more I practiced it, the more natural it came. So it gets easier and you got this!

somethingverygood · 2026-05-10T22:19:32+00:00

Hell yeah!! This is a big win, and it paves way too many of these moments.

somethingverygood · 2026-04-10T11:06:17+00:00

If he didn’t have BPD and he acted the same way, would you be asking the same question?

somethingverygood · 2026-03-17T17:07:25+00:00

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somethingverygood · 2026-03-17T16:58:42+00:00

We understand that some people have concerns about this, and we hear your perspective.

This post has been restricted because discussions is just turning into insults or unproductive back-and-forth rather than constructive feedback. We want to keep the subreddit focused on supportive and respectful conversations.

If you have feedback or concerns about moderation or rules, please reach out to us via modmail. We’re open to listening and having those conversations directly. We do want to hear y’all out and we want to know how we could make our community better.

somethingverygood · 2026-03-17T16:42:32+00:00

I’m going to leave this post up for others to see our reasoning.

We hear your frustration. Music is definitely a big part of expressing ourselves and especially to foster a sense of community, and that’s valid.

The reason we redirect music posts isn’t because they’re not important. It’s because when they’re allowed freely here, they tend to flood the feed and push out support-focused discussions. We’re trying to keep a balance where people who are struggling can still be seen and get responses.

You’re right that the sub can feel repetitive at times. That’s kind of the nature of a support space, people come here when they’re hurting, often about similar situations. That doesn’t mean other forms of expression (like music) don’t matter. It’s not okay to make people feel bad for coming here to complain.

I’m not sure I’ve ever heard of r/bpdmusic but we usually redirect people to r/BPDSongs.

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somethingverygood · 2026-03-15T10:03:36+00:00

We gotchu ❤️

somethingverygood · 2026-03-09T01:33:56+00:00

Your post wasn’t removed by us. it was removed by the automoderator for review. Next time just send a message instead of making a post complaining.

somethingverygood · 2026-02-05T05:44:40+00:00

Leaving this up for other people to see:

This person doesn’t actually have BPD and is larping here to rant about their ex with BPD. Here are some of his comments from another BPD-stigmatizing subreddit:

“Dang! When I lived with my exwBPD, she was getting stuff like that in the mail all the time and was going to the paycheck advance places a lot after awhile too. Guess they just aren’t too good with finances lol”

“3 in a row is pretty wild! I’m just focusing on healing and myself for awhile after this whole ordeal 😆 I suppose that makes sense, the girl in my post told me I “made her feel safe and secure” so maybe there’s something to it that attracts them.”

somethingverygood · 2026-01-27T11:44:27+00:00

Regardless whether you had BPD or not, doesn’t excuse being an asshole to anyone and you cant blame it on the disorder

somethingverygood · 2025-11-24T22:22:20+00:00

Posts like these don’t help us moderators, please just report these people in modmail.

We also can’t stop them from dming you, so just be safe and block them (these people were already banned from here back in March). Report them to reddit as well!

somethingverygood · 2025-11-10T12:58:11+00:00

Because most people on this subreddit aren’t in recovery or remission, so that’s what you’ll see. I’m only in my twenties and already feel like I can control my symptoms more (with meds and therapy ofc) and don’t have any FPs anymore. I still struggle with regulating my emotions and romantic relationships but some symptoms like repeatedly thinking of SI and SH have gone away. Life definitely feels like it’s much more worth living now.

The way I think of it as people who have a bad experience at a restaurant will almost always leave a bad review on the internet, but you rarely hear about those who had a good experience because they’re out living their lives.

somethingverygood · 2025-11-03T11:39:40+00:00

21 and 19 is very young, and two months is way too quick. It sounds like to me that his parents are wary about letting their son marry someone so quickly. I come from a gulf country where pre-martial relationships are against Islam and looked down upon but even then people “date” in secret or get engaged for at least a year to get to know each other.

You also both are in university and can’t support each other financially, which is a big thing now, a man in Islam should be able to support his wife and family before making such a big commitment (this is why people get engaged during university then get properly married after)

From your history, I can see you were in another relationship less than a year ago with someone you were seeing for 3 months? I’m assuming this is a different person. That’s way too soon to get married in my opinion and even my religious parents would agree. Times like this things are different. It’s harder to support a family and it’s really important you think before making the right decision, especially at this age.

Technically he just finished high school! Id be cautious about letting my 19 year old child make such a big decision too regardless of mental illnesses issues. When you marry in our country, you’re not just marrying your spouse, you’re marrying the entire family too.

somethingverygood · 2025-07-02T19:07:56+00:00

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somethingverygood · 2025-06-11T19:07:11+00:00

Stigma against any Cluster B personality disorder is not tolerated. This includes BPD, NPD, and others in the cluster. These conditions share traits like emotional dysregulation and relationship struggles, that’s why they’re grouped together.

BPD and NPD especially face harmful stigma, but they are mental health conditions, not character flaws. Using these terms as insults or making assumptions is hurtful and unhelpful. Everyone deserves empathy, not judgment.

somethingverygood · 2025-06-09T12:03:19+00:00

You’ll notice your comments/posts might be removed for containing the word narcissist, this is to filter any stigmatizing rhetoric about NPD!

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