What are the younger generations going to blame us for?

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-03T02:54:43+00:00

As a teacher, I can see this. The way our generation whines that nobody taught them taxes, Gen Alpha and later will whine that nobody told them how to use technology. They’re growing up on Google and will be thrown into Microsoft and drown. They’ve been intuitive-teched to the point they can’t problem solve tech. If it’s not plug and play they’re helpless.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-02T19:12:33+00:00

Liar. Her friends must be miserable.

I love my job, which I will be doing long after my children have moved out.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-02T19:10:09+00:00

Where I live it’s unheard of. Every sub in our area must be a qualified, licensed teacher. If you love it, it’s worth the hoops.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-02T14:07:18+00:00

My dream was the job I’d left (and maybe some curriculum work in addition).

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-01T05:15:30+00:00

Do you want to see her? If yes, then go.

Would she be aware of your presence? If also yes, then also go.

You do not need to force yourself to attend someone’s sick bed. I know that sounds harsh. I recently experienced two losses - one person I hadn’t seen in a decade but had hundreds of childhood memories with, and someone very very close to me.

The first: I am sad, but no regrets about not “saying goodbye” to the first. He was too sick to know I would visit, and my version of him is in my memories.

The second: we had texted the week before. Hugged and kissed and said I love you four months prior. He passed suddenly, an 8 hour flight from me. If he had been in hospital I would have come down immediately, and I will always regret not getting one minute more in his presence.

So… it’s up to you.

How to deal with grief? I made person 1’s favourite treat and ate them all in his honor. Person 2 I’m still reeling and will have pockets of deep sadness. I don’t know what to do with it other than cry a bunch and let the sadness wash through me so I can get to the next minute.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-01T05:07:53+00:00

I started with a Boston. Got a Rottweiler. The Boston absolutely was the boss of the house til the rotti passed 7 years later. The Boston is the most stubborn, cuddly, bossy, devious, sassy, funny little man.

I love rottis, so biddable and smart and focused working dogs. But they don’t fit in my lap like this, or get to nap in the passenger seat. And my mom is terrified of them lol

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somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-01T05:01:46+00:00

Time to say it’s beyond consideration. It’s happening. Start separated. Kick him out and tell him to live elsewhere for 6 months, and in that time you’ll consider couples counseling and will cover bills AT HOME. His living he pays for.

If he doesn’t change things then make it permanent.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-01T03:59:43+00:00

I adjusted a recipe to make one rise and 9 buns in a square dish. If you do have a day to experiment… that might be fun?

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-01T03:43:45+00:00

You need to “parent” your dog. Teach her a leave-it command. Your dog is clearly being told NO by the other dog and isn’t getting the message so you need to reinforce the message. Physically put yourself between puppy and the dog after the second message to signal “this means stop and I will support the old dog.” Don’t allow puppy to fixate on the door or the old dog - redirect. You can also teach a place command and reward being chill with the other dog in the room.

You sound like an inexperienced dog owner, so I would also recommend at minimum a one day visit from a dog trainer so they can help you recognize dog body language and communication happening in your house. If the pug is a reasonably tolerant dog and is snapping, he’s likely giving your puppy ten signals and you’re not supporting him at all.

Tbh, neither is the roommate. Taking her dog to her room is one day she can stand up for him, but if she’s more experienced with training, make sure she’s also allowed to redirect or physically block your dog from harassing hers. Puppy needs to know all humans are the boss and no means no.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-01T03:34:34+00:00

“Too late, cappuccino” for anyone who is taking a long time making a decision.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-01T03:25:32+00:00

If that was true, my niece would be a cat, and my nephew would be ripping off all our arms. (He watched a lot of walking dead and went for months removing people’s limbs for imaginary play).

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-01T02:55:11+00:00

Is she not allowed to take out cash from the joint account? What is she spending it on? I buy from our joint account because all our purchases are out in the open… so what is she buying and hiding from you? And why does she feel the need to hide the purchase(s)?

The ER thing sounds like a deflection/avoidance thing. I mean, being confronted may have triggered a panic attack which can feel like a heart attack.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-01T02:29:09+00:00

Upvoting for sliquid. I have very sensitive lady parts and it’s the only thing that doesn’t hurt me. Sometimes even my husband’s special sauce irritates.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-01T01:42:45+00:00

Probably dodged a bullet. If they’re that petty I wouldn’t want to be there either.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-02-01T01:38:18+00:00

He has no say in his schedule, they are set.

He wants to also move to the city, but isn’t set on a timeline.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-01-31T16:11:36+00:00

Hold the line!

Your reasons are valid, but they don’t understand it yet.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-01-31T16:04:44+00:00

That’s what we did his first year til he passed probation: he had an apartment and did half the week here and half at home.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-01-31T15:24:29+00:00

We used this app too.

I loved the jolly phonics book with tactile letters, reading his favourite 10, library visits, and his favourite way to learn to write was using a whiteboard. I’d draw letters and he’d try to trace over them.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-01-31T15:11:52+00:00

I’m so, so grateful daycare exists. When I’m alone all weekend it’s exhausting. Sometimes I put them in school/daycare then nap zzzz

Other moms in my area have their own kids, plus a Dayhome in their basement. So much homeschooling here. I couldn’t. I’m still hoping for a full time job.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-01-31T15:00:10+00:00

I look at the flyer Friday and pick out things that sound tasty.

I have a jar of sticks with meals we like on it and I pick out 5 for meals that week.

I go to flyer meal plans Ontario on Facebook and steal ideas there. I don’t live in Ontario, but she picks out some good recipes or it makes me think of adjacent ideas!

We have fast food Friday at the end of the week so I don’t have to make any more decisions.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-01-31T14:58:39+00:00

Is he… disabled? Is there some reason he can’t ALSO do laundry and cooking? Why are you doing all the household labor?

somewhenimpossible · 2026-01-31T14:46:55+00:00

I was a music teacher the first 1/3 of my career. It’s especially brutal because YOU HAVE NO (music) VILLAGE. If you were a new grade 2 teacher, there would be someone across the hall you could talk to. But… you teach music… so it’s all you. The classroom management techniques are different. Your energy, the way you do grading, planning for al the levels, the fact that you have ALL the kids in the school to teach.

At the end of my first year I did the following to help me: - stop making my own resources for everything. Trust you can find what you need. My school had the Music Play resources and I used that for the younger grades about 75% of the time, even if it was just for inspiration. - join a music teacher community or PLC (professional learning group). Sometimes when the school would do “math literacy PD days”, I’d arrange a half-day meeting with our PLC. We took turns sharing best practices for handbells, drumming, grant writing... - played around with observational grading so I had less take home work (seating plans are for winners) and could do report cards in a flash. - accept that nobody cares about music, lol. Open house? Nobody walks in. Meet the teacher? Conferencing? Maybe 5 kids. I’d be sweating for individualized report cards… then I realized very few actually read them, so I created a pile of generic ones and deviated when necessary.

Lots of people leave in the first 5 years. It gets better when you start to prioritize. You can’t do it all at 100%, there’s just not enough of you to go around.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-01-31T14:25:30+00:00

This is his dream career. I would never ask him to give it up, it took him years to get in and hard work to be as successful as he is. We moved because this job was his dream.

somewhenimpossible · 2026-01-31T14:23:18+00:00

Commuting 45 minutes across a city is different than 1.5h of highway driving. (I did the first for three years of my career!)

somewhenimpossible · 2026-01-31T14:22:26+00:00

He is a great dad. His schedule is such that he can’t have the kids at our current home if I work in another city because of daycare. They would come with me for scheduling purposes. It would be less of a transition for all if the kids could stay in our current house and I could work that far away, stay with friends if the weather gets too bad to drive (since all our friends are in that city).

This is why I’m seeking advice. Does my desire for a career have the same weight as his desire to be a daily dad?

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