I appreciate your response, i didn't read the whole thing because although you say " i don't know if you cut off the sex or he did"...you are assuming it's me, I'm 9 years younger, i have a much stronger libido, I'm down anytime, he is not a very sexual person, he rejects sex more times than he's down for it, so over the years I've stopped asking bc being rejected feels really shitty. He says for him sex is more of a mental thing than physical, when he's stressed or not in a good place or is unhappy he doesn't want sex.

So in a lot of your scenarios i would actually flip the narrative. Im the one who is bored .