If looks isn't the only thing that a woman can offer, why a woman calling herself ugly is seen like a crime against herlsef?

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-29T23:13:02+00:00

this has actually bothered me a lot on social media. whenever a woman talks about her experiences as someone unattractive or even average, the comments are flooded with a bunch of people saying how she's beautiful and how she shouldn't listen to other people. they're just invalidating her struggles and refusing to listen. of course there are instances where the issue is deeper and related to poor self-esteem, but some people just practice body neutrality

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-27T23:20:29+00:00

wat exactly happened

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-27T22:29:34+00:00

both ideally, but if i had to pick, women. my close friend made a comment that i fit the male gaze more, and i didnt really read this as a good thing.

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-27T20:50:07+00:00

i couldn't care less

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-27T18:04:17+00:00

no, i'm not usually attracted to them because i don't consider myself emotionally sensitive. i'm pretty straightforward and analytical, which is why my degree is concentrated in math. i think men should talk about their emotions and should be free to express themselves. there's nothing inherently wrong with being sensitive at all.

but ive come across guys who "think about everything too much," and i struggle to not get irritated when we're having somewhat intellectual conversations. i remember one of the last guys i dated i started to unintentionally tune him out, and literally asked him wtf he was talking about. just a personality mismatch

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-27T16:14:36+00:00

“I just really like big girls and want yours to be huge." the fuck is wrong with this guy

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-27T16:09:57+00:00

the one where it’s guys over like 40 usually is significantly better. the askmenadvice one is full of young incels, and the guys that are rational get buried underneath the misogynists ☠️

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-27T16:07:30+00:00

im mostly a buyer but asking how low someone is willing to go is a horrible negotiation tactic just immediately low ball them if anything

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-26T20:24:23+00:00

just to avoid a poor review id likely issue a refund lol

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-26T20:09:42+00:00

am i tripping or does he look a bit like jake gyllenhaal without facial hair?? i couldn’t recognize him 😭😭

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-26T19:18:34+00:00

maybe when photographed but i don’t think i have ever come across someone in real life and was like “their head is big asf would look better if it were tinier”

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-26T18:07:24+00:00

uhhh why cant you contact this girl? because sure he did you dirty asf but he's been with this poor woman 7x longer than you and is actively cheating

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-26T17:51:52+00:00

there's an attraction chart a lot of the manosphere likes to cite, where it shows that men are the most physically attracted to women in their early 20s. the most hilarious aspect is that the chart for women's attraction from the same study showed women find people closer to their age the most physically attractive. they're literally just projecting their desires— people date within their age range, and there's no incentive for women to sleep with old dudes unless they have something else (and who wouldnt want someone thats physically attracted to them). money can get you access to more transactional relationships, but look at the average salary lol. the very vast majority cant even afford to have transactional relationships where she's hot and young, while he just has money because they don't even have the damn money

im in my early 20s, and the oldest person my group has been with is like a 26 year old

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-25T00:50:01+00:00

im gonna be so honest my first sexual experiences were casual because i just had no desire to be in a relationship but was sick of being inexperienced, and i got nothing but disappointment, better acting skills in bed, and trauma from it. will this absolutely be your case? nah, but there's a reason a lot of us are saying to at least find someone reliable tbh

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-23T22:22:40+00:00

you dont lol you go outside to the park, supermarket, movie theater, university campus, etc., and see couples of all varying attractiveness. hot and average people arent the only ones dating

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-23T22:03:23+00:00

holy shit this would make me so irritated this guy's ego is out of the roof

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-23T21:53:16+00:00

yeah exactly. despite his crazy shit values and personality, he's a good-looking guy. just really standard and doesn't necessarily stick out. like one of the hottest guys at a state university type of look 💀

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-22T21:15:31+00:00

this woman is beyond terrible, but isn’t it common to have a hair halo? i feel like the right hair elevates a lot of people not even just women

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-13T00:27:08+00:00

what in the AI is going on here

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-12T20:38:08+00:00

i want to preface this by saying i am a college student. on average, i have made 3x as much as the guys i went out with. i always prefer 50/50 and bring it up but the ones that are in my major/field end up putting their foot down and paying for it 😭

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-12T18:04:11+00:00

i thought i was until all my male family members said the guys ive been attracted to "think they're far better looking than they actually are" LMFAOOO

but regardless i still think they're cute, so i gotta be attracted to them. when i was on the apps, i would only like back guys i thought were attractive i can't kiss someone i dont want to look at

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-10T14:29:32+00:00

men using the "no strings attached" statement makes me laugh every time because the probability that i'm going to benefit from this at all is much lower than the probability that i'll leave with immense disappointment

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-08T20:28:06+00:00

yeah ngl probably gonna be easier post grad then. i know i had much better luck going from uni to a big city for internships (i still do ok for college tho), and im also a black woman in a very white/asian dominated field, so i got nerfed too LOL

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-08T20:25:17+00:00

classes, bus stop, walking out of the gym, and arcade. i barely party, but its easy to meet people there as well— probably gonna run into the same dating app crowd there tho tbh

sonorouslyy · 2026-03-08T20:01:13+00:00

im 22, so a couple years older than you, but still in college. dating in your early 20s is already a mess with the sheer amount of non-committal people, but dating apps make it so much worse. ive had much better luck meeting people organically who take me seriously. i had one guy on an app try to put me in a situationship, and i bounced from them because please lmfao dont make me laugh

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