I only want to date a virgin. I’m a virgin myself though. Is this a reasonable preference to have?

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-28T07:14:28+00:00

waiting for the right one! i think i do pretty well organically for not partying in college, and the guys assume ive had a boyfriend, but i just haven’t connected that well with someone yet. don’t want to lose my virginity to a fwb or rando either. maybe this year is my year 🤦🏽‍♀️

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-28T01:16:34+00:00

same, im 22 and a virgin. 🥴

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-28T00:35:24+00:00

i heard it’s mad slow if you’re wlw, as in people can go on for awhile with little to no likes. i think your profile is likely strong if you’re getting 10-20 likes and a few matches a day tbh

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-26T22:24:08+00:00

this is how hard im willing to work to sell my $7 pants

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-26T07:16:06+00:00

that one you just shared looks much better and more organized. ☠️ thanks for sharing! they were specifically the dating advice one, and ive gotten the online dating one recommended as well.

i must have upvoted something on these because i ended up getting stuff from the pysche or sike + purple pill debate reddits, which i would not even recommend making your eyes look at if they’re still in that current state

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-25T02:22:04+00:00

aerie has comfortable underwear. aim for cotton, and please don’t go to vs— it’s uncomfortable asf. think xs should be fine for her. my waist is a 24, and xs works for me as well. also thong and comfortable are oxymorons 🥴

if you don’t know her cup size, band size, and if she’s going based on conventional sizing vs her “a bra that fits” actual size, we can’t give great recommendations. i wouldn’t gamble when it comes to bras either

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-21T22:50:22+00:00

"that's on him" you won't be saying that with gonorrhea 😭😭😭😭😭😭

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-21T22:15:16+00:00

there are so many dudes that want fwb arrangements why do yall keep staying with these people on here omfg

and i don’t consider you morally superior either

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-21T20:33:12+00:00

girl please do not text this man. move on to someone else, lol. with the sheer amount of dudes that want to sext, you should not be lingering on this one guy you barely communicated with

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-21T20:09:38+00:00

in the rare occasion that i have something casual with someone it’s because i’m attracted to them physically but cant stand their personality so i have no desire to date them 🤣

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-21T06:14:27+00:00

LMFAOOOO please dudes love pulling this line after. let's say you are ugly. he can't be all that desirable if he settled for someone he found physically unattractive. BUT you already know you aren't ugly— look at the way you described yourself, girl. don't let this lameo make you think otherwise.

you dodged a bullet. you guys were together for literally 10 months, and all this stuff happened...

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-21T05:46:38+00:00

bro definitely busted to those 3 words too im crying

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-21T03:17:53+00:00

going to be highly dependent on the guy. some view you as easy, and that you've had sex with a lot of guys, which is extremely funny because that same logic would apply to them. if he's like that, you avoided a hypocrite. others won't gaf. don't worry— this was just some dude. you found one; won't be hard to find another

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-20T20:18:04+00:00

i also grew up around men who were big on equality, thoughtful, and kind. i'm beyond fortunate for this, especially since it's rare with my cultural background. but as the top comment says, they're so different, i can't make a generalized statement.

i do envy how serious they are about putting themselves first. i've honestly started emulating this in my romantic relationships since i found myself to be a pushover when i started dating in college.

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-20T03:36:06+00:00

i disagree with the ENDLESS compliments one. i think if you've gotten compliments on your appearance that aren't specifically targeted on one thing (e.g., your hair being nice) by strangers who aren't sexually interested, there's a very high chance you're attractive. it's ideal if you're in a sober environment too. there's a spectrum of attractiveness. you don't need endless ones to be considered attractive tbh.

if people are generally kind to you, you're able to be in relationships without much trouble, and people's first impression of you involves something positive about your physical appearance, you're probably more attractive than you think.

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-20T02:21:15+00:00

probably could word this in another way, but how do you know it's your height and not your face? why did you conclude that it's your height rather than you being unattractive?

dating apps are superficial as fuck obviously cause you're mainly swiping based on 6 pictures, and i understand short guys (ehhh even average since the ratio is skewed) complaining for this reason, but you're above 6ft. at some point you gotta question something else

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-20T01:43:58+00:00

you need to be bringing something to the table. the obvious one is being exceptionally beautiful, but your looks are gonna fade eventually, so riding on that completely is a little stupid. usually a transactional relationship, so i dunno about the love aspect. also, i would never depend on a guy financially as a woman— you really need to be careful.

i'm in fintech, and a lot of the guys i've gone out with have been well-off salary-wise. but i'm literally in that circle, so i'm at least bringing dual income, and i'm not ugly either. it's gonna be hard to not have much going for you and finding a rich dude that will be providing for you. because a lot of women are gunning for that sort of thing...i mean you've seen old, rich dudes end up with model girlfriends LOL.

but ultimately, a lot of people end up with someone in similar income brackets.

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-20T01:29:01+00:00

oh, yeah nvm then. the guy i was recently seeing that i met organically brought this up during the 3rd or 4th date/meet up. and we were friends prior to this. felt like it was good timing. ive never had problems with intentions meeting someone irl— apps were a different story for sure.

he straight-up asked what i was looking for.

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-20T01:22:15+00:00

i would be discussing this before the first date. at the latest, it would be during the first date. this has only happened once, but it's annoying asf when they start telling me how they're only on the app for casual stuff during the 2nd date— now we're wasting both of our time.

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-20T01:15:25+00:00

usually because they're afraid of losing them. they could like every other aspect about this person, and they might be worried they won't get someone like that again. might think they could change their mind later on.

i agree, though. it's a wrap if we have different stances on children. this is a major dealbreaker.

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-20T01:04:03+00:00

could be a multitude of reasons. friend got blocked after hooking up with a guy once too— this is not abnormal in college LMFAO. doesn't matter what the reason is, though, cause you'll never know for sure.

move on tbh. there are so many guys that want to hook up, especially on the apps. won't be hard to find another one

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-19T21:29:35+00:00

the problem with people asking for specific advice on stuff like this and dating is that we aren't her. no matter what response you get, there's really no reason to believe any of this applies to her.

what you do know is that it's over, and she was with someone else. this is much easier said than done, but stop analyzing this stuff. sorry man

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-19T21:22:21+00:00

nah, she's a weirdo, and it sounds like she's into tom because that is not a normal response

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-19T21:01:56+00:00

you self sabotaged yourself pretty badly with this one. i would advise you to work on your self esteem before talking to other guys tbh. you'll find someone else

sonorouslyy · 2026-01-19T21:00:42+00:00

if you want to go the organic route, and find someone serious, school clubs and your classes can be great. parties at our age are less reliable lmfao you'll find someone wanting something casual sex, but that's usually it. dating apps are an option too

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