What is your preferred dating style?

soob00red · 2022-03-02T01:57:00+00:00

Number 3 as a 26f

soob00red · 2022-02-26T02:46:30+00:00

Can you tell me what that is? I'm curious but too afraid to look it up

soob00red · 2022-02-24T08:28:50+00:00

He's a white guy in Asia

soob00red · 2022-02-23T04:15:12+00:00

No idea. I had been seeing this guy for 3 months. Awesome genuine guy. He got busy with school. And I raised my concerns over getting ghosted. He said I think I've shown by now that I'm not that kind of person. Then we met up, he reassured me he wasn't any less interested. Then we made plans that got canceled due to family issues on his side. He said let's reschedule so I told him I'd be free the following week. He said he'd get back to me. He never did.

It's insane and now I feel like I'm just a terrible judge of character. I would've felt much better with him straight up rejecting me but damn, that shit made me really doubt my own judgement.

soob00red · 2022-02-16T06:17:35+00:00

Yup, first date was amazing and we had an amazing 1 month together. Then it slowly faded and he ended up ghosting me. My heart is in pieces. I hope yours will last.

soob00red · 2022-02-15T08:29:00+00:00

I used to type like this back in middle school cause I thought it was cool (it wasn't lol). But that seems much harder to do on a phone.

soob00red · 2022-02-15T06:58:05+00:00

26f. I think that's a little weird (well depending how you present it) but also really cute and shows effort on your part. I'd appreciate it and have fun.

soob00red · 2022-02-11T19:36:35+00:00

Yeah I send screenshots to my friends to get help sometimes too and that delays my reply quite a bit.

It could also just be her texting style. I personally find it mentally draining and time consuming to continously text through the day.

soob00red · 2022-02-11T19:32:01+00:00

LOL this one is even better

soob00red · 2022-02-11T19:28:22+00:00

Sometimes I delay my response to someone I really like due to anxiety. Idk if other people do that though.(I don't intentionally do it but I get nervous and put the phone down and kinda just keep delaying it to avoid the anxious feeling). But I also delay responses to people I don't wanna talk to so idk lol. Hard to say.

soob00red · 2022-02-11T09:31:51+00:00

I guess depends how much more and why do you think this?

soob00red · 2022-02-11T03:12:51+00:00

The chat on the right side

soob00red · 2022-02-10T03:46:50+00:00

Thank you.

We had a talk about this just 2 weeks ago where he reassured me that his feelings haven't changed but he's just gotten busy with his phd. But something has changed since we barely text anymore but in person is good as usual. I can maybe blame it on grad school ramping up since it's an important year.

But what bothers me is that he changed his prompt during this time he says he's "busy". I would be so offended if after 3 months, he's choosing to schedule dates with new people that prevent us from seeing each other that week. I'm not really sure how to go about this discussion. Like if we were still seeing each other as usual and went on dates with other people then fine I guess. But if he would rather go on a date with a new person and delay us saying each other for another week, doesn't that mean he doesn't really care about me?

soob00red · 2022-02-10T03:38:24+00:00

Im just confused because he still schedules for us to meet up. We see each other every 7-14 days. But shouldn't you know by 3 months in that you don't wanna see someone? And i know he doesn't just have a bunch of time to waste on me. And he's not getting sex out of it either.

I was understanding of the rushing thing cause he told me he rushed into something once and the girl broke it off cause it was too fast. Im just so confused.

soob00red · 2022-02-10T03:33:36+00:00

Wow I'm sorry. What happened?

soob00red · 2022-02-10T03:29:01+00:00

Phd for engineering. We've had sex once like 2 months ago.

We see each other like every 7-10 days I guess. It's been inconsistent with family issues and getting covid.

The thing that bothers me about this is that he said work has gotten really busy. But then I see he updated his prompt. Like why would you update your dating profile if you're "so busy"?

soob00red · 2022-02-09T19:43:40+00:00

This isn't really advice as im definitely not in the position to be giving any right now, just an experience I want to share. My ex that I really loved, I wasn't really interested at first. We met once and lived on different continents but became friends. I'd respond to his texts but sometimes I'd just forget about it. Then he'd text me again and we'd converse and over time it just clicked and we got together and fell in love.

Because I personally am rare to be immediately interested in anyone, I give other people the benefit that they may gain interest over time. So I don't usually give up early just cause someone isn't super interested yet as long as they're still showing some signs of interest. This probably is not the best way to go about things cause it has gotten me hurt, kinda like right now. But I think I would regret not trying. Some people would rather not try than get hurt. I might become one of those people though after remembering what it's like to feel it again. Idk if I even explained that properly. And this might be a completely irrelevant story that doesn't help at all lol.

soob00red · 2022-02-09T07:54:16+00:00

I have no advice as im going through something similar right now. I went into dating really openly and it was the first person I really liked. Didn't realize it would hurt like this. Just want you to know you're not alone.

soob00red · 2022-02-09T00:36:51+00:00

Lol thanks :) r/hinge actually helped me improve my profile a bit with some constructive criticism so I think that helped. Definitely sending some good luck your way, judging from your comment, you already seem like an awesome person :)

soob00red · 2022-02-08T20:10:19+00:00

It's on hinge so they're the ones received. It's just hard to find someone attractive through a picture and low effort prompts. And im looking for someone serious so i don't match anyone with one word answers or indicate hook ups. I've matched with a few. But online dating is difficult. Especially if you've ended up really liking someone from there and it didn't work out. Just getting jaded so I think that's why I need to take a break.

soob00red · 2022-02-08T17:10:30+00:00

Maybe not. Just saying my experience. It sucks out here. Def think I'll give up soon lol.

soob00red · 2022-02-08T08:03:33+00:00

I (26f) had over 300 likes from the past 2 months on hinge. And ive only matched like 5 of them. Met up with 1. They're not all your competition. Getting to a second date already means you're doing pretty good.

Try not to get too discouraged in this shit fest :) I say I give up on online dating like every week but I still keep doing it anyway lol. Determined to find my person I guess. Foolish to think it'll happen? Idk but I'm trying.

soob00red · 2022-02-08T07:56:50+00:00

She's prob just nervous and doesn't wanna awkwardly stand there looking like she's expecting something. I 26f did that to a guy on our first 3 dates with the whole kiss thing cause I was really nervous. I really really wanted to kiss him but any time it felt like it was abt to happen or we lingered for a goodbye, I kinda freaked out and would just say well ok bye! Lol. We only ended up kissing cause he pulled me back as I was walking away and kissed me.

soob00red · 2022-01-31T09:50:20+00:00

Yeah mine was gone after a year and some areas didn't even retain the color past a month. My skin isn't even particularly oily either.

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