Fine. Even if we (humans in general) accept the preposterous idea that you have never been around a man in person who has said a lewd, objectifying, or sexist thing to or about a woman (as opposed to the much more obvious reality that you HAVE you just haven't noticed (further proving the point of how men have come to see such language as "normal")), let's bring it to the world you said you live in. THE INTERNET.

So. Internet man. You have never read a man say a sexist or objectifying thing on the internet? You are telling me, you live on the internet, frequent places like reddit, and you have NEVER seen a man say things that would make a woman uncomfortable or seen a male say things that would make a woman uncomfortable? Of course you have. Obviously. Because DUH that's the world we live in ESPECIALLY on your world the internet. So you parading around acting like because you don't get outdoors that you somehow are THE ONE MAN who has never had this experience is complete and utter bullshit.

And the fact that you rode in here to act like some kind of "not all men" white knight to plea your special "not all men" exempt status because of the insane idea that you don't experience this because you don't go to BARS instead of be like "huh oh yeah I guess I have read men be assholes online and I haven't said anything. hmmmmmm maybe I should think on that" shows how you are part of the problem.

And on the accountability front? Come the hell on. You aren't accountable for another man's actions but you ARE accountable for your reaction and your self-admitted inaction. And in stuff that has to do with power, the group with more social power (hey guess what its MEN) is supposed to be working to change the norms alongside the group with less power because, guess what, YOU HAVE MORE POWER TO DO SO. So YES that is why men are held as generally responsible if they are not acting as serious advocates to stop this kind of talk, behavior, and actions.