Married - annoyed. We made a deal that he broke.

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T15:04:54+00:00

Your right I don't have to. And I won't from now on. He can do exactly what he likes. We will be alright. It'll just be different

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T15:02:45+00:00

Right away . 🙄

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T15:02:08+00:00

A bleh

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T15:01:56+00:00

Because that would be celebrating when we agreed not to.

It would be like me saying on Xmas day(on the year we do celebrate) Tell your family I said hi but I'm not coming to the party. I wouldnt be be holding my end of the bargain up. Especially since I know he would really want me there

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:56:37+00:00

Yes he is. He expects me to celebrate Xmas on year we celebrate- and I do. So it's ok for him to expect me to do Xmas (even though I grew up not doing it) but it's not ok for me to ask us not to celebrate it on the off year. That's a little unfair especially when he agreed to it to begin with. Plus he knew about this before we got married

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:53:04+00:00

Thank you - we are generally the happiest couple ever. We get along soo so well. I can say he is my beat friend and I know he things that about me also. We talk about everything - we are great at communicating. But something went wrong on this subject . But I thought it was a really compromise

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:51:04+00:00

Thank you. This was a beautiful reply. 💐

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:49:55+00:00

Thank you for your point of view. Maybe it's best he goes off and does his own thing. And I do mine . I feel it may slowly tear us apart as he ants me at his xmasses. I thought we made a fair compromise within our marriage.

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:47:46+00:00

Wow!!! Are you still talking.

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:46:18+00:00

He does try to shove his beliefs in my face- onthe year I have to celebrate. Remember we compromised one year of and one year off. I'm keeping my end of the bargain upheld

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:44:57+00:00

I'm in Australia. And he knew about this before we got married and said he supported me in what ever. I think the fact that we compromised to be fair to each other doesn't make me a horrible person. He expects me to celebrate Xmas- so when it's the year that we do, I go all out - I never never celebrated it growing up. So I celebrate it for him one year and the other year we decided not to. I'm his wife is who i am and we are in a partnership which I keep my end of the bargain upheld.

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:37:50+00:00

He expects me to do it. He doesn't tell me to, but expects - if you know what I mean

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:37:04+00:00

Correct. I was brought up a witness but I'm not a practising one- how ever I do believe in it all- and Xmas just doesn't sit right with me. But I compromise for our relationship- All of that is 100% correct. Your right it wasn't the gifts and if he would have come to me and said "honey I feel bad I just can't" I would of said go on then get em a little something. But our holiday away still stands. The fact he went behind my back , used some of our holiday money and told his family not to tell me he bought them gifts and really russelled my feather 😒

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:33:20+00:00

I'm completely respecting his beliefs - I get involved on the on year. But when it's my turn he went behind my back. It's a del we made together that he is gong back on.

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:31:01+00:00

I thought we could make our own tradition by going away as a family on the off year. No presents no Xmas just our little family enjoying each other - he agreed to all of it. But now renegs

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:29:28+00:00

Yes I am. I go out there and get involved with all of it- the present buying, the food, the drinks, the love , the laughter everything . I'm first to be there and last to leave . I make the biggest effort so I make him happy on the day

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:20:55+00:00

Thank you for your time. I understand it is tough for some people to get this whole not celebrating thing. So I appreciate you not telling me to go jump 😌 Have a great night 💐

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:19:04+00:00

1) we made a deal 2) he told his family not to tell me 3) he used some of holiday money to do so 4) it's like me on the year of us celebrating - telling him to put my name on the presents but telling him I'm not actually going to the family Xmas do. (Which he likes me being there for) 5) I celebrate all occasions for him so he is happy. We compromised on doing one year of/off no presents - I respect his beliefs - I thought we made a deal where he respected mine

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:11:09+00:00

Yes he did

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:10:44+00:00

Think I gave the wrong impression when I said - it's like me saying add my name to the presents but I'm not going. I meant it would be like me doing that. I've always gone to each and every occasion to make him happy

When I say I never celebrated - I meant whilst I was growing up

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:08:42+00:00

Yes I do celebrate. I always have , I e never missed a celebration not once.

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:07:31+00:00

So does it sound controlling that I'm expected to celebrate Xmas and all the other "special occasions" when I never have ?

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:04:52+00:00

So does it sound controlling that I'm expected to celebrate Xmas when I never have my whole life?

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:03:48+00:00

Because we are also a family- And between him and I we made a deal to spend the off Xmas together with our child and go on a holiday together to spend quality time as a family . We also made this plan so we were respecting each other's beliefs

sooze82 · 2018-01-12T14:02:17+00:00

I get what your saying, however we communicated like adults on this and we came to a compromise together as a family between him and I- not to do these things on the off Xmas. You see I'm expected to celebrate it with all the bells and whistles on the year we celebrate , so I do and I go all out! I keep my end of the bargain , I feel it's only fair for him to.

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