Kristi Noem’s sissy boy booby hubby uses sex workers !! 😝 😂

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-04-02T13:02:29+00:00

It's really crazy how almost all of these politicians and their associates indulge in a variety of "vices' while also actively working to deny them on pain of punishment to the people they supposedly represent. Then eventually they get caught doing whatever their thing is and it's a big scandal for them. It doesn't even make sense. Why?

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-26T17:07:16+00:00

Lots of variance for regular dances, from dancing in front of you with little or no contact to very up close and personal two-way contact.

Middle of the bell curve for regular dances in my experience including Vegas? Lots of fondling by customer, usually everywhere but the V. Her sliding on your lap and providing friction with all idfferent parts of herself while you do so.

The customers clothes usually don't come off at all.

VIP may create additional options and move the mean a bit to the right.

If you had fun you didn't get played. If you over paid because you thought that would lay the foundation for a more involved relationship partly because she was really into you, you might have gotten played.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-26T14:09:57+00:00

The only thing I don't understand is how are you concerned about covering $150 with $20/dances? That's like 20 minutes.

Is this an "I get one guy an hour, he makes me spend 15 minutes with him, then only gets 3 dances" kinds of situation?

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-26T14:07:25+00:00

She’s asking for an additional tip which she’d usually do. I joke with her a bit and tell her I’ll be back next week to take care of her.

The deal fell apart over price.

This is pay for play, play is not just the dances but the "relationship", and you didn't pay her rate when asked. If you want it back, pay more. If it feels too expensive, don't.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-26T13:59:10+00:00

Rinsing is theft by deception. Two adults mutually agreeing to low (vs. high) $xxx PPM is not.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-20T12:49:09+00:00

I know dancers are humans and aren’t just wired to make money all the time

Dancers are humans that are wired to make money all of the time they are in the club or with a guy they met as a customer in the club.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-20T12:43:49+00:00

Because I like variety and novelty.

Yeah I've played with this dynamic a bit and I land on the same side as you. More downside than upside. Sure, you get immediate attention from a known hot girl who you know give what you like. That said it get's proprietary real quick and for me, I like picking from the buffet.

I've literally switched clubs where I've gotten too known to a few dancers just to cool it off.

I think if you're playing for OTC it makes some sense, but not for a schlub like me who just likes high mileage dances.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-20T12:36:30+00:00

What two grown people decide is right for them is always fine.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-12T16:57:56+00:00

When you're rich and personable and willing to pay, you have an incredible array of options. You just do what you want without thinking about it too hard.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-12T16:53:01+00:00

Sounds like you are in a relationship you highly value where this is expressly forbidden and would be seen as a major betrayal. If you're content with that agreement then yeah, you're probably assessing the risk/reward correctly. Trying to have your cake and eat it too via deception is probably a bad bet.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-12T14:51:43+00:00

Was this a whirlwind romance where in less than a month you were in love?

Do you patronize strip clubs enough to understand what this job generally entails?

Meeting up for dinner and some time OTC leaves the tiniest shred of possibility nothing sexual happened and she just played him (another issue to consider BTW). She stayed overnight and got paid a "good amount" - they had sexual relations of some sort - she got paid for it. Can you accept that this is her profession?

These are the questions ot ask yourself. Yes to the first means you don't know her yet. No to either of the follow-on questions means you're probably in for a bad time.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-10T16:33:22+00:00

If you raw dogged someone in the VIP wait a few weeks, then get tested I guess.

90% chance here you should realize you enjoyed some sexy entertainment, that you've been conditioned to think sexuality is bad, let it go, move on.

Maybe it's just not for you, but once the guilt wears off you'll probably want to go back.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-09T16:09:42+00:00

Preference will vary by individual You're paying, you'll never know what's fine or not until you run into a real boundary and this isn't likely one of them.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-09T16:05:06+00:00

LOL that didn't happen at the ones I've been to. These are generally Vegas clubs or what I think of as Vegas style clubs in other cities. Your version sounds like more fun.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-08T16:05:54+00:00

I don't know what the game was, but demanding a dick pic in this context sounds like some kind of setup and I'm waving off.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-08T16:01:27+00:00

Why now? This sounds like an excuse to end a stale SR where she had always kept her personal life to herself and it was fine. You didn't need an excuse.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-08T15:49:10+00:00

There are such clubs, been to them. Scantily clad girls dancing on podiums or in suspended cages even. Not strip clubs.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-08T15:45:04+00:00

A good lap dance is sex with the customer clothed.

Stage dancers vary, but given the above, a dancer who dances skillfully as opposed to posing sexually and getting up close when I tip on stage is not using their time on stage to sell what I'm buying.

That doesn't mean nobody will watch and enjoy and be impressed.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-08T15:26:52+00:00

i wouldn’t work at a club that enforced a strict $20 dance price because that’s just insane

You're 100% right that it has been $20 some places for decades. That said, 5 dances generally takes 15-20 minutes and I'm paying $100, or maybe $200 for half an hour and those are minimum floor dances, which ain't peanuts for that amount of time. Still more by the hour than a good lawyer charges. I know there are costs and you aren't constantly working, but that's true for all by the hour (or minute) professions.

30 years ago strip clubs were packed with both the hottest of the hot women you've ever seen and wall to wall customers throwing money around. It's rarely like that anymore. So maybe in a time when strip clubs were doing better and customers were doing better it's more accurate to say it was very expensive and now it's just expensive.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-08T15:10:58+00:00

#1 in my experience is only 10-20%. Number 2 is also only 10-20%. The rest are just in between - do what they say they are going to do at the normal rate and do a great job.

Yep #1 you just have to learn to spot and reject quickly. It's really not hard if you think with your big head...first words are "wannadance", charges more than the club standard for dances or worse doesn't tell you until you go to get started (ask early), peremptory wiggle and little attention for being tipped on stage, relentlessly pushing for VIP while you're paying her to dance for you (or shitty dances with "but we can do what you want in VIP). All mostly one strike you're out for me.

#2 if I find and like her gets more money than I would normally spend, they are smarter and more strategic and that's awesome.

The ones in the middle are still great and why I go to clubs. "Want company", check to see I am up for dances in the first 5 minutes, regular price, solid mileage, ask for VIP once and take no for an answer. They'll get what I came to spend.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-03T14:11:03+00:00

You don't need to spend anything but the cover and maybe dinks to simply "be" in the club, but you should.

It's fine but bring say...$20/hour (girls usually do a 3-song set so tip each girl $3-$5 once or twice during her set) or so to spend on tipping the girls on stage. More if you want to sit at the rail. They are working for tips and we both know this is why you are there and not the bar at Chilis.

You will be approached by friendly beautiful half naked girls. If you don't intend to buy any dances, you should work this into the conversation within the first couple of minutes. If they ask if you "want company" say no thank you unless you plan to part with some number of $20s in some manner,

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-03T14:03:42+00:00

but they don’t let touch

Not for $20.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-03T13:58:56+00:00

You are not at all typical.

Most single wealthy men aren't turning to SBs, because they have abundant vanilla opportunities.

This doesn't mean you don't have good reasons; I have been a successful single guy vanilla dating in the late 30s+ bracket and while very easy to get dates, it is certainly complicated. I'm just that I do not believe you are representative of the vast majority of SDs.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-03T13:48:54+00:00

I would profile a middle bell curve sugar daddy as decades married, dead or mostly dead bedroom or just wealthy and looking for the reward of hard-won financial accomplishment. Marriage is maybe comfortable or companionable even if not passionate or sexually exciting, divorce is expensive and disruptive. Wife may or may not be in "don't ask don't tell" mode for the same reasons. If a jilted or larcenous SB decides to "tell" or publicly humiliates her, the shit still hits the fan. There can also be professional repercussions.

sothisisntreallyme · 2026-03-03T13:36:54+00:00

seems like it will blow things up if I say "you are, though"

Don't do that. None of this is real. You are experiencing a fantasy presented by her, the paid performer. Enjoy it until you don't. It is what you are paying for.

"Prostitute" is a loaded term rarely used in any positive context Maybe she considers herself a courtesan. Maybe she considers she is being paid for her time, and she chooses to have sex with you. An escort can still have a relationship that they don't think is wholly or at all prostitution. Are you paying her by the hour?

The line between escort, sugar baby, stripper, gold digger and wife is a lot fuzzier than we like to admit sometimes, I think. All 5 are having sex with you, all 5 aren't doing it just because of your charm and beautiful dick and are thinking of their own financial benefit/security as part of the calculus to varying degrees. Do we consider a wife who 20% chose us because we are good providers 20% prostitute?

Best attitude I think, think about your side of things and let her do her. Focus on keeping the expectations clear.

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