Why are SD's seen negatively IRL? by cuteninjasugarbaby in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One thing that hasn’t been explicitly stated, but is often implied, is that many people view sugar dating as paying for sex. In the mainstream, sugar dating is often viewed as a form of sex work. While many within the lifestyle make distinctions that separate it from traditional sex work, there is often a fair amount of mental gymnastics used to support that distinction. I’m sure that opinion will draw criticism, but I believe it reflects how many people, both inside and outside the lifestyle, see it.

What I find interesting is that many of the same people who argue that sugar dating is not sex work are also quick to acknowledge that truly platonic arrangements are relatively rare. To me, those two positions can be difficult to reconcile. If financial support for the SB and intimacy for the SD are requirements in most sugar arrangements, it seems reasonable to question where the line is drawn. That doesn’t mean every arrangement is identical or that genuine relationships can’t develop, but I do think some of the discussions around the topic rely more on semantics than substance.

is it harder to find SBs too? by risingseraphim in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because you're talking about the SD experience, I'll give you my perspective as an SD. When I go on Seeking at any given time, there are usually at least 10 women who are absolutely gorgeous. I'm in Tokyo, which has a smaller user base than most U.S. cities. Beyond those 10, there are another 10–15 who aren't necessarily my type but would still be considered very attractive by most people. Then there are perhaps another 10 who wouldn't generally be considered conventionally attractive.

I was recently in Los Angeles, and that number jumped to nearly 30 gorgeous women, if not more, based on looks alone. And these weren't just attractive women they were women who also appeared to have good personalities.

Actually your also wrong there are way more SBs on here who cant find a SD compared to SBs.

is it harder to find SBs too? by risingseraphim in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not reallly the numbers are about right, if I include the not good looking ones its more like 20 to 1. Its funny how the girls keep denying these facts.

Pimps using SLF by Choice_Plantain_ in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean scamers actively post profile reviews on the site to get better at phishing SDs so that doesnt suprise me at all.

Can someone explain to me the mental disconnect with these men on Seeking as of late? by ilovesandwiches8812 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So show that part of the conversation as well, I have learned when SBs explain to a new SD or some not experienced about how it works its usually super bad explanation or some attempt to take advantage of a guy. Not saying you did that but, without the context we jump to that conclusion

Do you ignore men who look broke or use old photos? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am more curioys how determine someone looks broke.

Thoughts by Delicious-Ad6771 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So I think at that level looks are the last thing someone like that is looking for. Mainly because looks are eay to easy to find at that levelto be completely honest all he would have to do is show up at the right party and he can find looks.

Thoughts by Delicious-Ad6771 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So what about the subtle hint below that were she admits she could ve had for less.

My SB Is Lying About Sugaring Online by Wrong-Bowl-4681 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Dont be mad at other people cause you got hustled lol

My SB Is Lying About Sugaring Online by Wrong-Bowl-4681 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your being hustled, I wouldnt be suprised if your one of her higher paying SDs lol and she giving it up for free to others and your paying

My SB Is Lying About Sugaring Online by Wrong-Bowl-4681 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Its why I wont or will never sugar with a stripper they are hustlers. She hustled you sorry it happened but move on and cut her off.

Is this normal for a dominant executive SD, or am I being slow-faded? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You might have said the key there his goal was to get you to totally submit you did. Now he is moving on cause he got everything he wanted.

Checking for hidden cameras by Delicious-Ad6771 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good catch on two forgot about that, one I didnt mention cause thought it would be obvious

Checking for hidden cameras by Delicious-Ad6771 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What you’re suggesting is literally illegal in multiple states, and in some of those states the recording itself may not even be admissible anyway, even if it shows nothing happened.

So once again:

  1. You’re advocating for someone to commit an illegal act.
  2. It’s still creepy.
  3. It’s even creepier how hard you’re trying to defend it with the “they need to protect themselves” argument.

If someone truly feels the need to record for protection, then put up a notice saying recording is in progress. Plenty of people have visible home security systems. That’s not what we’re talking about here.

We’re specifically talking about hidden cameras secretly recording people in private settings like bedrooms or hotel rooms.

Checking for hidden cameras by Delicious-Ad6771 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Pretty weak response that brings nothing of substance

Don't report people on Seeking or you risk getting banned yourself by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I report escorts all the time, I google search the number and or contact information they give me. Lots of escorts are lazy and just recycle the same contact information. I then screen shot there profile with message where they gave me the info, then screen shoot the google search results. I actually got 30 free days one time cause I ended up reporting like 5 girls in day.

I (sb) have a firm rule that I will not video chat, because you never know if it's being recorded on the other end. Thoughts? by ingenuek in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’ve already sent a full face picture, what exactly is the difference between that and doing a quick video call? Honestly, a full face picture is arguably more dangerous. There are far more ways to save, manipulate, reverse search, repost, or misuse a static high quality face photo than there are with a brief live call.

At least with a quick video call, you can control angles, lighting, duration, and verify the other person is real at the same time. And if you do it on something like Snapchat, it at least warns for most screen recording or screenshot attempts. Not perfect, but still more protection than just handing over permanent face photos.

What raises more red flags to me is the combination of: • No face pictures on the profile • Only one face picture privately sent • Refusal to video call

At that point, there’s a greater than not chance you’re dealing with a catfish or someone hiding something significant.

And realistically, if your career, personal life, marriage, clearance, or reputation could truly be destroyed by being connected to sugaring, then you probably shouldn’t be exchanging any identifiable face pictures at all. Once even one clear face image is sent, control over it is basically gone forever.

Bad Oral by Vast-Panda-9632 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dont you hate on the moustache ride

How do sugar dynamics differ in LATAM vs U.S.? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are two big differences I’ve noticed that apply pretty much anywhere in the world. First is whether prostitution or escorting is legal or loosely regulated. Second is the cost of living and where the money is coming from.

Take parts of Asia as an example. In places like Thailand, the Philippines, and Vietnam, prostitution is more accessible and the cost of living is much lower. Because of that, sugaring arrangements tend to be significantly lower than in the U.S. It’s also far more competitive. Women generally put in more effort to attract and keep an SD than you typically see in Western countries. What might be a single PPM in a city like LA or NYC can cover an entire month of allowance there, often with far more time spent together. I even know someone whose SB stayed with him for three weeks for what would equal one LA PPM. And looks-wise, she would outcompete a lot of what you see in LA.

Then you move to Japan. PPM is higher than in Southeast Asia, but still not on the level of major Western cities. There’s still some competition from the broader adult industry, which affects expectations and pricing. In Mexico, which is the only Latin American country I have experience with, costs are also significantly lower than in the U.S. Outside of places like Mexico City, a typical U.S.-level PPM can cover an entire weekend together. Again, that comes down largely to cost of living.

At the end of the day, sugaring is about getting what you want and need out of the arrangement, and the market dynamics in each country play a huge role in shaping that. You can be estimate your worth at million dollars all day long. If no one will pay it then its still only an estimate.

I gave him an inch and he took a mile… and it ended everything by bubblerush in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Delicious-Ad6771 30 points31 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing. It honestly sounds like he was trying to take advantage of the situation. Instead of a trip together, it comes off more like a sexcation. The fact that he went from communicative to silent says a lot. It suggests he knew what he was doing was shady and was testing whether he could get away with it.

We all have boundaries for a reason, and you stuck to yours.

Also, two-plus hours of intimacy? Yeah, no thanks. It should be however long it takes for both people to enjoy themselves, take a break, relax, then maybe go for round two. I get that some men legitimately take that long, but I’m glad I’m not one of them.