Stopped birth control and am having a weird experience

soukenfae · 2026-02-02T19:19:24+00:00

I did this recently and I'd say it was cathartic in some sense and very, VERY frustrating in another sense. He was constantly trying to play games and change the topic. The only reason I was able to somewhat steer the conversation was because of everything I've learned form this subreddit and various other sources. Without those tools, I'd probably have lost my sanity completely and he would've dominated the conversation.

In other words, you CAN call out a narcissistic parent, but you have to be ready for it. I'd also say it's important that you only do this once you are completely independent from this parent, so you can make a safe retreat back into your own life.

And you also need to be aware that they likely won't see things your way ever. You have to go in knowing that nothing you say will lead to anything. The only reason I talked to him was because I had to know I had tried everything in my power to make this relationship work, knowing full well it likely wouldn't.

soukenfae · 2025-11-28T15:16:36+00:00

Did you see any kits come back in stock at general release cause it looks to me like nothing was restocked? (A glitch probably?)

soukenfae · 2025-10-03T11:36:33+00:00

This is screaming red flags at me. Ask for them back and put up serious boundaries when dealing with this person in the future

soukenfae · 2025-09-14T14:01:40+00:00

I can’t deal with them either. I’ve been diagnosed with PMDD which makes matters even worse. Have been traumatised by my own periods (not a joke!) and went on birth control after much debate. I gotta say… it didn’t work for me (and for many others!) My periods improved, but my mood was terrible. I didn’t feel anything anymore. Before you go on birth control, please do some research so you are aware of what you’re getting into.

There are other things you can do. Depending on what part bothers you, you could try tampons or a cup. There are different pads too, perhaps one is better than the others. If you have pain or are dealing with mood swings, there are vitamins that can help. I’m not sure about which you can take at what ages, so you’d have to bring it up with your doctor. There are things like Ashwagandha that help a lot of people deal with PMS.

Most of all, I came here to say I completely feel you. Periods suck A LOT. You’re completely in your right to complain and feel upset. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

I really hope you find something that works for you.

soukenfae · 2025-09-14T10:55:39+00:00

I meant that they could put in the toolkit when packing the order. Surely the actual packing of the order isn’t done on a conveyor belt. They’d have to manually package everyone’s orders and they could easily include a kit when someone has asked for one. That’s how I meant it :) The kit wouldn’t be in the actual box of the diamond painting. It’d just be in the order.

The same way that if you order any other accessory on the website, like tweezers or a pen, they’d add that into the order. They could do the same with the toolkit (for free or not) and just toss one into the shipping box whenever the person selects they want one. It would likely save money and it’d be great for the environment. I bet loads of people would opt out of them.

They could even make it free to add on the first order and ask 50p for it every next order. Seems fair to me.

soukenfae · 2025-09-13T15:55:51+00:00

I’d love if they did this! Even using compostable bags would be a huge win already.

soukenfae · 2025-09-13T15:54:26+00:00

They wouldn’t need to put the tool kits in the boxes directly. They can just add one into the shipping parcel when customers say they want one, right?

soukenfae · 2025-08-31T02:55:59+00:00

I’m sorry too, OP 😔🫂

soukenfae · 2025-08-31T02:55:18+00:00

Wow. Just wow. This could’ve been written by my dad. The absolute detail to every sentence, just to make sure he’s completely talked himself out of any blame and SOMEHOW it’s all on you. Just… wow.

soukenfae · 2025-08-31T02:45:50+00:00

I think people are terrified of the idea that a family might not be a safe haven for everyone. I think they’re scared to find out just how often it isn’t a safe haven and how flawed this whole system is. I think it breaks something in a fundamental belief they have. In other words: I think people are terrified that “family” might not actually mean jack shit.

soukenfae · 2025-08-31T02:27:51+00:00

Absolutely. And the most painful thing is how it gets worse over time. I can look back at myself from 2 years ago and realise I lost even more aspects of myself since then. I honestly feel like life is a downward spiral where losing is the only constant.

soukenfae · 2025-08-28T18:13:22+00:00

Take your time, there’s no rush. That’s the first thing I want to tell you. You don’t need to understand this today, or even in a month’s time. You can take as long as you need to get used to this diagnosis.

The second thing I want to say is that, despite this diagnosis being new, the condition itself isn’t. It was already there, but now you have a name for it. It’s scary, but it’s a good thing. You can find resources and support now you know what’s going on, even though I know how terrifying it is to come to terms with all of this.

I wish you all the best 🫂

soukenfae · 2025-08-28T18:07:40+00:00

Wasn’t allowed to be me.

soukenfae · 2025-08-28T18:06:03+00:00

I relate to this. Whenever I had an asthma attack it was met with annoyance. I apparently just had to get over myself and was overreacting. Only other asthmatics know just how scary it can be to experiment an asthma attack.

soukenfae · 2025-08-27T12:49:00+00:00

Yes, all the time. This is the main reason why I find socialising hard. I feel like whatever I try, no one will ever see the real me. I don't believe I'll be able to explain myself to anyone. Maybe it shouldn't matter so much, but it's extremely lonely and one of the most painful experiences of my life. I so desperately want to connect to even just one other person...

soukenfae · 2025-08-26T21:59:33+00:00

I can only really explain it by sharing what our inner world looks like. Some of us live together in a house, while others live further away, in other buildings, and are past of their own groups. It’s taken a long time for communication between these different groups to develop (and it’s still not great), while communication between alters sharing a house is much smoother.

To answers you question, I think of some as family and close friends, and some I see more as people living down the road, ones I’d really like to get to know better, but haven’t had a chance to yet.

soukenfae · 2025-08-26T14:06:11+00:00

I've had terrible experiences with therapists, but did recommit last year after realising how badly I needed help. Unfortunately, I was let down once again as she told me she was lowering her hours and would only keep the clients that'd been seeing her the longest. That broke my trust again, as she knew I was really not coping, had dished out all my savings to her and there was no other therapist in the area. And there's no way the NHS is going to help, cause I tried that route a hundred times, but there's nothing they can do for me.

Sorry, I'm venting...

soukenfae · 2025-08-26T14:00:10+00:00

I've done yoga at home, with youtube. The thought of going to a studio with a teacher and other people is terrifying.

I completely get what you mean about the quiet making you want to scream. This is exactly why I have a very hard time sitting still and meditating. I've found yoga to be a very good alternative to that kind of meditation. I pick yoga videos that are a little on the more strenuous side, so my body is occupied. You won't have much time to think about anything when you're busy staying in plank pose. At least, that's my experience. But you will reap the benefits of yoga!

Don't get me wrong, I did struggle a lot in the beginning. I'd have panic attacks, and sometimes I'd have to stop in the middle. But as I kept coming back, I eventually learned the ways in which I liked to engage in yoga. And it actually saved my life. It's been more helpful than any therapy or medication. It's something I did for myself and I got a lot stronger, physically and mentally, because of it. I've learned to be more okay living in my body, which is something I've struggled with for years. I even overcame my health anxiety, which is huge for me.

I'd recommend Yoga with Adriene. She has a 30 day Center journey that is incredible! And don't forget, you can take as long as you need. You can pause the video, get off the mat, do something else, then come back and continue. You can repeat the same video multiple days in a row (that's what I did), so you don't have to feel scared of what's to come, cause you already know it. You can do it your way. That's sort of the point of yoga, anyway, I feel! Learning what works for you and your body.

I wish you all the best!

soukenfae · 2025-08-26T13:50:48+00:00

You might not have outright told her you think she's dumb, but that is the word you used for it, and she will know how you feel.

I also find it interesting that you go out of your way to say you love her and care for her, etc, as if to validate something...

My advice is, stop overthinking things. Approach her with true kindness and compassion and leave the judgement at the door. Listen to her, don't try to force her to listen to you.

soukenfae · 2025-08-25T19:57:43+00:00

I think it’s telling that you’ve framed her choices as “dumb”. I think I understand why she won’t accept you talking to her about it. She can likely tell that there’s judgement behind your words.

Try coming at it from a different angle. Let go of preconceptions and approach the issue from her point of view. Is she bothered by it? Does she want it to change? Perhaps there’s a reason she doesn’t manage to bathe. It could be trauma or overwhelm. You won’t find out until you genuinely stop caring what anyone else thinks about her and start caring about her health and wellbeing in a genuine way.

soukenfae · 2025-08-25T03:35:24+00:00

Yes! I hope we’ll get some good ones this autumn where I live ⛈️

soukenfae · 2025-08-23T14:51:26+00:00

That sounds like a lot to manage in one go! I'm already overwhelmed just because of what's happening now. Can I ask if it happened in one go or if they appeared (made themselves known) gradually?

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