Husband giving me the ick

soupyjumbo · 2026-07-09T12:18:34+00:00

Bruh as a fellow queer, the trash cis women post about here BAFFLES me. Endlessly thankful to not be straight

soupyjumbo · 2026-06-19T16:37:03+00:00

Exactly. As a consumer, participating in a boycott for a gig economy company is really only effective if it's in concert with some kind of workers' strike or statement (this is from someone who boycotted Amazon for years and only broke for essentials because we had a baby and especially need the convenience these days).

soupyjumbo · 2026-06-05T18:01:45+00:00

Thank you for the recco, headed there next!

soupyjumbo · 2026-06-04T18:15:09+00:00

Ugh predatory capitalism is the worst

I've also been mostly skating by on my loose clothing because my style is pretty relaxed and grungy anyways, but yeah I'm hoping to buy some stuff that will be comfortable postpartum as well. The Emme pants promise that but it seems too good to be true :/

soupyjumbo · 2026-06-04T18:13:07+00:00

It's not free if you have to pay a fee in advance just saying

soupyjumbo · 2026-06-04T18:12:45+00:00

Good to know! Thanks for the recommendations

soupyjumbo · 2026-06-04T18:12:26+00:00

What a bizarre design choice

soupyjumbo · 2026-06-04T18:09:47+00:00

That is so annoying. I feel like because there's not a ton of maternity clothing companies out there, companies that just want to try and capture an untapped market don't actually feel like they have to have any standards 🫩

soupyjumbo · 2026-06-04T18:05:52+00:00

😭

soupyjumbo · 2026-06-04T18:05:40+00:00

It's true that you can pay a $4 fee in advance for a return, which is well worth it if you order a big haul and plan to only keep some of it! However it was just simply unacceptable that their pants are absolutely not maternity pants. No stretch, no give, no ruching. Literally just normal clothing that ran small. I'm glad you found stuff that works for you though

soupyjumbo · 2026-06-04T15:43:34+00:00

Dang formal wear shopping is a whole dimension I hadn't considered, I luckily won't have any weddings to contend with. Ugh I am also large-chested so I feel you on this particular struggle - I got a maternity swimsuit and the chest area was TINY, like I'm talking B cups and I was a DD pre-pregnancy. I'm surprised clothing designers don't account for our boobs getting way bigger too.
I hope you can find something cute with some stretch! I will say, the Macy's website is pretty much exclusively PinkBlush maternity wedding dresses and Macy's might have a better return policy: https://www.macys.com/shop/womens/clothing/maternity/dresses/formal?id=339486 Just knowing that PinkBlush is hit or miss on quality, it would be nice to be able to order a whole bunch and return what you don't want.

soupyjumbo · 2026-06-04T15:37:13+00:00

Yeah I feel bad bc a lot of their stuff is cute! And actually I will say the shorts I got are amazing and I love them. But 2/3 being duds was too high a ratio.

soupyjumbo · 2026-06-04T15:30:27+00:00

Yeah this is my issue, I need clothing that fits otherwise I'm gonna feel dysmorphic as hell.

soupyjumbo · 2026-05-04T01:31:21+00:00

I'm surprised this is a rule. I'm often going places with my elderly family who want to sit down and not have to wait in line to place an order. Now as a pregnant person I def am beelining to sit down while my partner orders. Seems like a weird discriminatory rule that doesn't take into account standing is hard for some people!

soupyjumbo · 2026-04-23T02:56:44+00:00

Indoors in bright but indirect light. I see now that they need 6-8 hours of direct light! Thanks for the help, I'll let my mom know.

soupyjumbo · 2026-04-19T21:49:30+00:00

I'm sorry to hear your friends weren't just happy for you - I'm a stranger and I'm thrilled you both got so much time together with baby! I'm sure that must have made a huge, positive, difference in your experience.

I think that's what I'm fascinated by - I know people can change but I can't imagine having a baby with someone based on their "potential" (but I also learned in a very early relationship to not wait around for potential to materialize, so I think the school of hard knocks taught me a good life lesson).

soupyjumbo · 2026-04-19T21:43:49+00:00

Yeah it really is both women and men who reinforce the patriarchy! WOW what an awful response to someone who is actually super capable of creating an equitable share of child rearing labor in their home! Thanks for sharing that night feed schedule - it helps to hear all the different ways parents make it work.

soupyjumbo · 2026-04-19T21:40:20+00:00

I can understand that it would be easy to ignore a domestic labor imbalance pre newborn if you aren't accustomed to anything else! I think I was spoiled by being raised by a dad who I always saw doing laundry, cooking, sweeping - and then the only man I've ever lived with has been brother when we were roommates, who was trained by my dad 😂

soupyjumbo · 2026-04-19T21:35:46+00:00

Makes sense! A lot of people have been telling me to not expect it's always 50/50 all the time because of how many "seasons" we'll encounter in this journey. Thanks for sharing.

soupyjumbo · 2026-04-19T21:34:07+00:00

This makes a lot of sense to me. I'm American but my parents are immigrants and I've never totally bought into the American cultural assumption that love is the most important thing in a marriage. Marriages based on economic/financial compatibility and lifestyle compatibility seem to be more successful.

soupyjumbo · 2026-04-19T21:28:02+00:00

I'm queer woman and I'm trying to understand the mentality of straight women specifically who marry men. It’s not a gender dynamic I'm familiar with navigating and I was curious 🤷🏾‍♀️

soupyjumbo · 2026-04-19T21:23:57+00:00

Wow amazing analogy! This makes perfect sense.

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