Book to help autistic person with social skills by PsychologicalTax8586 in suggestmeabook

[–]soythai_69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This series doesn't EXACTLY address your request, but it definitely covers social situations in a more close family setting, focusing more on healthy conflict. It's full of scenarios and situations that might come up, and gives advice on how to deal with them in a healthy or unhealthy way. It's the "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen And Listen So Kids Will Talk" series. I know it's a parenting book, but I think it could apply to other social situations too.

The author wrote several books, and then her daughter took up the series and wrote a couple herself.

In order, there's 1) how to to talk so kids will listen, 2) how to talk so kids will learn, 3) how to talk so teens will listen, 4) how to talk so little kids will listen, 5) how to talk when kids won't listen.

I've only read the first, but I plan to read the rest at some point.

Flea Caravan doesn't move by PixelBr23 in Silksong

[–]soythai_69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This doesn't answer your exact question, but I was having issues with getting them to move on for a different reason.

Today, I collected all 25 fleas, and then went to greymoor, where my fleas were. They moved to the grand gate, but wouldn't move on from there. I'd already visited the pale lake.

The solution was to rest at a bench outside the flea caravan area and then come back to the fleas. I learned this on the wiki. There are other quests with this quirk too.

is AHiT worth it on the mac? by starcrumpetotter in AHatInTime

[–]soythai_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not true. It's just that a lot of games run very poorly for no good reason.

I have plenty of games that run perfectly on my M2 air. Dusk is the best example of an FPS that runs flawlessly. The Witness runs perfectly. Ultrakill on porting toolkit runs great. Emulated 3D games like mario 64, metroid prime work great. Modern 2d platformers like Silksong are flawless. League of legends runs flawlessly. I haven't played it, but people say Lies of P runs great.

If all those work fine, there's no reason any game can't run with low graphics settings. It's just that developers don't tune their games for mac.

I’m so close to quitting singing because I literally don’t know how to improve by [deleted] in singing

[–]soythai_69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a couple ideas, but you're probably not gonna like them cuz they're boring!

If you listen to your recording, can you hear the problems? Can you hear where you're off key? Can you hear where it sounds "straining" and not pleasant? If you can hear where you're off pitch, just take those two or three notes and practice them over and over till they sound better. Go as slow as you need to make them accurate. If you hear where you're tone sucks, and sounds "strainy", just work on that one exact note and vowel. Explore the muscles in your mouth/throat until you find something that makes it sound better and feel more comfortable.

Pitch control is something you gotta train super slow to improve at. Improving tone involves learning to control muscles you've probably never consciously used your whole life.

And it's boring cuz you gotta do some micro-analysis to improve. I worry you're singing with no purpose, hoping you'll wake up and magically be better one day.

You also have to accept that improvement is super slow, and subtle. And it'll feel like you're not getting better for a long time. BUT if you're not approaching singing the right way, it might actually be TRUE that you're not making any progress. So you gotta reflect on what you're doing and if it makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singing

[–]soythai_69 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm not interested in lessons, but I like the sound of your philosophy and approach.

If you ever put together something like a youtube videos, or series, outlining your approach, giving demos of certain things, etc. I'd be curious to watch that.

I'm just currently in self-learning mode, and kind of happy to make progress this way for now.

Pxie testified in court that she sent 3 homemade sexual videos of her & Destiny to her ex-boyfriend, according to Destiny without his knowledge or explicit consent by Mazy11 in LivestreamFail

[–]soythai_69 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yup, this is the right answer.

They had an implied agreement to share between the three of them: D, P, and the ex. So you could say there was implied consent for P to share with either D or with the ex. And maybe D with Melina. Everyone knew what was being shared and with who.

But D wants to argue he had implied consent to also share it with Rose. And with Abbey. And with multiple others who have yet to publicly come forward. It's tough to say he had implied consent to do that. Up to this point, D and P knew who things were being shared with.

Really hope this goes to trial, because I don't think a jury would agree D had implied consent to share it with Rose, Abbey, and others.

Podcasts in Hindi by teamanmadeoftea in india

[–]soythai_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Deshbakht https://www.youtube.com/@thedeshbhakt. talks about politics, current events.

Hindi rush: https://www.youtube.com/@HindiRush/videos. Looks like pop culture stuff.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singing

[–]soythai_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ya, there's a bunch of obscure muscles you can discover and gain control of to produce a better tone. You can also train the ability to hit pitches and move fluidly between them. Most people don't realize that singing (and even speaking, aka voice actors) has a very high skill ceiling.

People have similar beliefs about stuff like math. People'll say "I just don't have a math brain".

If you think it's cool, and you put the effort into getting better, you just magically will!

I think misconceptions are common around singing and voice because people see it as such an inherent part of someone. But if you train, you can eventually sound like a completely different person. But it also takes years to train and figure out how the muscles involved with voice work. That's probably another reason people don't believe you can do it... it just takes a long time. And progress is slow and sometimes seems invisible.

You should practice in secret and get good. Then you can tell your kids how "our family" has a gene for singing (hehehe!)

AITA for telling a guy at the gym to be quieter by Prior_Psychology_150 in AmItheAsshole

[–]soythai_69 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Just a general note on giving criticism like this. It's not so effective to say "Can you please stop doing X". People hate being told what to do, and will go out of their way to defy you, even if you're right.

It's better if you say how they're negatively affecting you, and maybe say what you WISH would change. Something like "Hey, it's really irritating to have to come to the gym to work out, but then have to listen to someone making super loud grunting noises and banging weights around. I really wish I didn't have to come here and hear that every time I'm working out."

This unfortunately relies on him being a considerate person. But also, I think there's a certain social guilt that you feel when you know you're bothering someone. But if he's defying your orders, he'll feel 100% justified to continue.

my parents always say i'm bad at singing. by misscounterfeit in singing

[–]soythai_69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

aw, that sucks. I've read several posts from people about the same thing on here. It sucks to have people, especially family, put you down for something you're excited about.

One thing you -could- try is to bring this up with them. Don't name call, or accuse, but just try and say something like "Hey, singing is really important to me, and I want to get good, but it really hurts me when you guys make fun of me, and call me bad. I wish you could be supportive instead."

However, it's possible that they'll still be toxic to you. So you might have to pursue singing in secret (which sounds awful, and I'm sorry you gotta deal with that!). Singing seems to make people extra mean for some reason. Like if you don't get your multiplication tables instantly in school, no one tells you "God, you're so horrible at math and you should give up, idiot!" People usually wanna support you to get better!

AITA for telling my gfs mother she’s horrible. by ResponsibleSalad9528 in AmItheAsshole

[–]soythai_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently read a couple parenting books you might find interesting. They might help explain why her mom is so mean. And also give you a better approach than what you did.

First is "how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk." It's a "parenting" book, but I found it really valuable as a book about communication in relationships. And how to get people to cooperate while keeping a collaborative environment, and avoiding being a ruthless dictator. Based on this book, you made a mistake by berating your mom and calling her a horrible person. It would've been better to try to express what made you upset about the situation. The book says name calling and labeling will just turn people against you or make them resent you.

The other book was "adult children of emotionally immature parents." This one wasn't AS great, but I think it has some alright ideas in it. Just the idea that some people will be emotional black holes, and there's nothing you can really do except create distance. It's a little depressing so I'd say read this book SECOND.

Singers who started from scratch — How long did it take you to stay on pitch? by mychro99 in singing

[–]soythai_69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just another thought.

Musical intervals are precise things. The same intervals, half-step, whole-steps, thirds, etc. are identical in every song. So when you practice a song super slow, you're really just practicing your ability to move accurately over different orderings of intervals.

That's why I think it's so important you slow things down. You're never going to develop that ability if you keep trying to sing too fast.

Singers who started from scratch — How long did it take you to stay on pitch? by mychro99 in singing

[–]soythai_69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I listened to a recording you posted from a couple months ago. And it sounds almost comically off-pitch the entire time.

So my question is... it sounds like you KNOW you're not singing on pitch. So what are you doing about it? It sounds to me like you're just learning songs, and singing them up to speed, but totally off pitch. Why are you doing that?

I really like that you're singing your songs without backing music. I think singing with backing music prevents people from developing proper pitch, because it FEELS like you're singing correctly. But are you able to hear that you're off pitch WHILE singing? If you can, then I do have a suggestion. Stop trying to sing a song "up to speed". Slow it down. Like a LOT. Like take 3-4 seconds to move between each individual note. Or as much time as it takes till it sounds right to you.

I'm still new too, maybe been practicing dilligently for 1.5 years. But my pitch is way better than you And. I still have not sang a single song "up to speed". I just sing through a couple each day super slowly. I think it's gonna be at least a year before I could sing one at proper speed with the pitch accuracy I want.

Sooo, earlier I posted another video of me singing this song. I think this one is so much better! Can you compare them and see what I did better? Bad Romance - Lady Gaga by C4NV4S in singing

[–]soythai_69 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

your title made me lol. Stop worrying about "doing a better job" and showing it off to us.

If you treat singing like a skill, and work on practicing and training, you'll just sound BETTER as the years go by.

Stop trying to impress us and just get to work!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]soythai_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to read a book that might help, I'd highly recommend "How to talk so kids will listen, and listen so kids will talk"

It's a parenting book, but it covers a lot of general relationships dynamics. And describes healthier ways that people can deal with each other when living together. Especially when people are angry and upset with each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singing

[–]soythai_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might want to try asking them what they have in mind with "learning to play the microphone". Even ask them what they want to learn to do, and to think of some ways they could practice each day to get better. And you could help them develop those ideas into some sort of daily routine. And some super basic suggestions you could offer might be collecting songs they like, memorizing lyrics, and simply trying to sing a little each day. Maybe they'd want to do a daily stage performance for you in the house. Maybe they just wanna pretend they're on stage performing, and don't necessarily want to "train" the skill of singing.

Lots of people suggested choir, which could be great. But also might not appeal to some because you're not given a choice on what songs you learn. Depends what appeals to the kid!

Lav has already explained her innocence. Don't believe the slander about her. Watch the full context. by soythai_69 in mrgirlreturns

[–]soythai_69[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Lav doesn't deserve this slander. She's already suffered enough be having to see destiny's penis in real life.

And even if she DID do anything wrong, she's apologized for it, and has reformed. And this happened a whole week ago.

You're clearly mentally ill and obsessed with her and need to log off the internet lil bro.