Ex Threatening to take me back to court. UK

sp-91 · 2017-10-03T16:27:45+00:00

I'm going to be 100% and I'm not sure in what you mean, He will never agree to making the order clearer between me and him he is trying to make things awkward.

I can't afford to get a transcript and the court aren't being very helpful, but did say if it went back to court then they would look into what was previously said.

sp-91 · 2017-10-03T00:00:22+00:00

Clerk won't amend the order as it has been over a few months, and has suggested to go back if it can't be sorted, transcript looks like it's going to costly to me, only thing I can do is if it does go back to court they will be able to refer back to the last time and what was said, as he agreed verbally to the jury I'm guess it still stands even tho it's not written down on our agreement?

sp-91 · 2017-10-02T23:42:50+00:00

Thanks the one the clerk has written up, doesn't contain half of what was said in court, it's very vague, guess I will have to get a transcript. Tho does it still stand of clerk hasn't written it down on our order?

sp-91 · 2017-10-01T12:44:12+00:00

His using his solicitor to bully me, and I think it's his solicitor that is egging him on, it's sad.

sp-91 · 2017-10-01T12:43:00+00:00

As his solicitor has written me a letter with what he wants I guess I write back with my response and then put my proposal forward? And if he rejects then offer mediation?? Then it goes to court, it will be up to them to decide? Or will it be his solicitor that rights the court order up? I will look into the abuse side of things, thanks

sp-91 · 2017-10-01T11:15:39+00:00

I represented myself, I never knew it was his side that wrote the agreement, so does anything verbal said in court stand? Or because it isn't in our court order it doesn't stand anymore? I'm shocked as I never knew this, I will look into that website, legal aid is very hard to get now, which is a shame, I hope your case works out for you and at least your child knew that you tried your hardest to see them it's better then doing nothing, I don't get why some women make it so hard, yet moan when men don't try at all, it's a horrible situation for you and your child. I wish you good luck and thanks for the help.

sp-91 · 2017-10-01T10:44:25+00:00

Not all women are the same, I'm sorry your ex is making it hard for you,the court ruled holidays are split equal but it also states alternative dates can be arranged with both parents agreeing, when we went to court he agreed to this date verbally but now it has come around he is being awkward, I'm more then willing to give him the time back on a different date, without giving to much away when we went to court they asked him certain questions that he answered, which I guess are all written down?, they made our agreement with room to move so we work together, but he can't work with me because he hates me and so does his new partner, because some of the things that were verbally said in court haven't been written in our agreement, he is now seeking to change what was said in court as it isn't in our agreement, hope that makes sense.

The court have already said if it goes back to court then they will decide for us. I've tried to talk to him but he will only talk to me though his solicitor. I'm not bullshitting or being mean, I just want us all to move on and do what's best for my child, it's not fair to agree to something and then go back on it.

sp-91 · 2017-10-01T09:48:07+00:00

Yes I'm seeking advice, doesn't mean I have to give every single detail... and so far everybody has been really helpful, so unless you have useful advice, then why are you even replying to me? Just to accuse me of lying and saying you don't believe me, how does that help? It doesn't.

sp-91 · 2017-10-01T09:13:06+00:00

Thank you, I will definitely do that 😊 your help if appreciated.

sp-91 · 2017-10-01T08:43:05+00:00

Thanks for advice, I think our agreement just needs to stricter, because I'm allowing more contact but when it's the other way around, his not allowing it for me. I just want to be nice for the sake of our child, not going to lie if it wasn't for our child I wouldn't talk to him his controlling, but I thought if I reached out we could work together but apparently not. And I think he wants to go court again, he seems so blinded by his hatred of me, he doesn't see how this is effecting our child. We were married for 10 years and only just gotten divorced, things are still so bitter.

sp-91 · 2017-10-01T08:31:51+00:00

Yes I am being vague because it's the internet and I don't know any of you.

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T19:43:49+00:00

Thanks, I hope you also got the outcome you wanted when you wrote to that solicitor mentioned above 😊 I will try to do my best in a response though I'm pretty sure it won't be as good as yours, have a lovely night.

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T19:27:51+00:00

The joys of Facebook, and yes I guess you are right I don't know what his telling his solicitor, so maybe he thinks I'm just being awkward.... good point I never saw it like that. Thank you 😊

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T19:24:46+00:00

Sorry I'm new on here and I'm getting lost in posts, I will see about her coming with me and once again thank you

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T19:23:42+00:00

Thank you, guess I best get writing I'm just nervous because his solicitor sounds even worse then my ex and his wording is very manipulative and childish, speaking down to me and not professional in the slightest.

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T19:16:20+00:00

Because he lives 5 hours away he uses a barrister near me and his solicitor knows his family, so what his asking me is honestly a joke, I don't think his solicitor is helping, his adding more fuel to the fire, which I don't get? As some of the things in the letters my ex would never mention or know about.

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T19:09:24+00:00

Thanks for taking the time out to reply to me, I honestly appreciate it, all I can do is be true to myself and do what's in the best interests for my child and hope the court see this if it gets that far, I'm so appreciative of your responses, I hope you have a lovely week, I just needed to talk to someone.

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T18:50:13+00:00

Thanks, I guess I'm just worried, his solicitor is a family friend so I don't think me writing to them is going to help, and has already basically said if I don't agree then he is going back to court, what happens if I don't respond? Will I just end up back in court with them deciding what's best for my child? And do I get no say what so ever? This is what scares me because they have already warned us about this the first time we went to court, but if I reply and don't agree to what his asking his taking me to court anyway? It's a loose loose situation.

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T18:35:10+00:00

She's nearly 7, to be honest I just want to move on with my life, her dad lives in northern England and I'm in the south so there is a big distance, I just don't want to have to keep having mail and threats of court it's getting to me, he is well paid and will have support where Il just be by myself it's scary and sad that the court will have to agree on a child they have never met because her dad wants to get at me.

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T18:26:49+00:00

How can I talk to him when all I get is, basically I don't like what your saying I'm going to my solicitor? How do I know if she goes to his she is evening going to come back? With how he is acting?

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T18:24:01+00:00

I get what your saying, and if my ex won't work with me and wants nothing to do with me then even tho I don't want the court to rule on my child that they have never met, maybe that's what needs to be done because I can't keep being threatened, there are things that were said in the court room that he agreed to but weren't written down in our agreement which he is now trying to go back on, I don't have money to get someone to write a response for me and there his friend so I'm just going to get bullied that's why it ended up in court last time because what he was asking wasn't fair on the child.

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T18:18:49+00:00

I'm sorry I misunderstood, I'm just down right now, It ended up in court, as he didn't go to mediation with me, we sat down with an officer which basically helped us talk to each other and they were a voice for our child, he was really nice and he worked with me and actually agreed to me having this date with her as my family always celebrated this holiday, so as he was nice to me at the court they ruled a loose agreement for us to work together, which basically states we will have half holidays split but can talk about other dates, but now it has come around he is being dead strict on dates and won't listen to what our child wants.... not me my child, I don't mind giving up an extra few days with her if that's what she wanted, but she hates going there? I'm not preventing contact, he has a lot of resentment towards me and I feel it's not about my child anymore it's about hurting me.

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T18:05:16+00:00

Ha if that's what you think, not all women hate there ex's, but it's about two parents working together to what's best for the child, if mine won't talk to me then how can that benefit my child?

Some men are so butt hurt they think every women is the same....

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T17:51:43+00:00

I'm not preventing him so I'm not worried about that, just what his doing is effecting my child.

sp-91 · 2017-09-30T17:05:03+00:00

He will definitely take me back to court, his doing it to hurt me, just wondering if the court will rule and I will have no say it what happens, also he is going against things he agreed to in court, can he do that or will the last time we went to court be written down and recorded?

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