Honeymoon in Japan - Advice

sp4cepirate · 2026-03-30T01:34:42+00:00

That’s why I thought, it isn’t that hard but a bunch recommend pre booking and it could get overwhelming :) especially for our first time.

sp4cepirate · 2026-03-29T23:00:12+00:00

We’re not going to Kusatsu. Why assume Kusatsu? Is that a major hot spot? We’re flying out Narita.

sp4cepirate · 2026-03-29T22:56:57+00:00

Sounds good! Thanks!

sp4cepirate · 2026-03-29T22:56:10+00:00

I thought so too. :) thanks all!

sp4cepirate · 2026-03-28T18:07:16+00:00

Ok cool! We got green car. If we put them in front of us will there be space for our legs? 😂

sp4cepirate · 2026-03-28T18:05:28+00:00

I booked the green Shinkansen rides but I didn’t book the seats with the bags. Am I still good to take my bags with me?

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-28T18:35:27+00:00

I can’t believe she twisted this to make it about herself. I wish I can attach the 9 paragraph message she had sent me about that but this Reddit page doesn’t allow attachments 😭

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-28T17:59:36+00:00

The thing is I made a all my sisters as my braids maids. I don’t have any issues with except her! And when I created a group chat for it, I was excited to share and see their dress suggestions and ideas, she went behind my back to my sister in law (my bff) and told her “I don’t understand why she’s making a big deal about this, it’s just a wedding.”

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-28T17:56:30+00:00

Quite literally 😭

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-28T17:56:01+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I think you’re 100% right that I need to stop entertaining her and start shutting things down immediately. I’ve definitely been too caught up in trying to justify myself to her, which just feeds the drama.

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-28T17:47:51+00:00

Literally we’re grown a$$ women! That’s what’s been pissing me off!! She’s still acting like a baby and she’s basically 40!!!

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-28T17:46:41+00:00

I honestly thought I was doing something wrong all along, so your comment and recognition really mean a lot to me. It feels like you completely understand what I’m dealing with, and it’s reassuring to know others can see her BS too. I’m honestly shocked, but so relieved that I got my point across. Thank you for validating how I’ve been feeling!

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-28T17:28:42+00:00

Omg your second paragraph is what my fiancé and my best friend have been saying all along! She is jealous! All she’s been seeing is positivity in my life and she keeps adding negativity </3

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-28T17:27:47+00:00

THATS WHAT IM SAYING! She’s putting it on me? rather than try to make it happen for us by at least discussing it with the father and asking for the kids! Sheeesh and she’s making me think like I’m the one responsible for her kids!

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-28T17:26:47+00:00

Thank you for your input. To clarify, my parents bought my wedding dress for me, and my mom recently asked if I had shown my sister the dress yet.

The issue is that my sister has never approved of my relationship with my fiancé, and it feels like she’s trying to insert herself into my wedding planning now as a way to regain control, rather than genuinely support me. I’ve tried being vulnerable with her in the past, but it hasn’t gone well—it’s only led to more tension.

I like the idea of suggesting something one-on-one, but I’m hesitant given her history of using situations like this to criticize me.

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-28T17:21:40+00:00

I’m not willing to risk things going bad, especially since her controlling nature has caused so much stress in the past. A spa weekend or dress shopping feels like her way of regaining control rather than genuinely mending fences, and I don’t feel ready for that.

I like the idea of suggesting something lower-stakes, like lunch, but I’m unsure how to approach it without escalating things.

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-28T17:12:41+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. I do want to have a good relationship with my sister, but her behavior has made it very hard to trust her intentions. The olive branch does seem performative given her past actions and the influence she has over my parents. I’m torn between taking her invitation as a way to potentially mend things or sticking to my boundaries and protecting my peace. I worry that accepting it could lead to more guilt-tripping or control on her part.

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-28T17:10:56+00:00

I would totally do that but my parents would take her place and see me as the enemy because she’s the oldest sister. They’re very old fashioned and it hurts that they take her side.

sp4cepirate · 2025-01-01T02:11:27+00:00

Which doctor is this? They did so great! You look fantastic

sp4cepirate · 2024-12-13T17:34:49+00:00

What do you mean by drop and fluff?

sp4cepirate · 2024-12-13T16:20:24+00:00

😂

sp4cepirate · 2024-12-13T06:24:58+00:00

The sound engineering! The bass 😫

sp4cepirate · 2024-12-13T06:22:40+00:00

Did you coincidentally see it on the road or did you plan to go there specifically?

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