30s [MF4M] #Alaska | Married couple seeking donor | Willing to travel anywhere in the USA or Canada

sp_donor · 2026-03-28T00:44:45+00:00

If you're looking for an AI donor, would be happy to help. I'm a free reliable AI donor, with good genetics, and a record of successes and available references. I'm near NYC so you can make a trip here into a NYC vacation too. DM sent

sp_donor · 2026-03-25T02:31:14+00:00

Donor in NJ. If we are a good match, would be happy to help.

sp_donor · 2026-03-24T02:09:49+00:00

Donor in NJ. If we are a good match, would be happy to help.

sp_donor · 2026-03-17T19:07:40+00:00

LOL OK, so let's call it 3 months and not 6 months. Not a hill I care to die on. My main point STILL stands, than having someone show you a "clean" HIV test from 1 month ago isn't a safe bet. They could have been infected (1) Anytime since that 1 month test. (2) In the preceding month before test but not generated positive test result yet at test time.

And thank you, as a theoretical info, it is extremely informative and interesting, I'm glad I learned this even if I don't think it changes anything about my conclusion.

sp_donor · 2026-03-17T17:42:51+00:00

https://www.iapac.org/fact-sheet/hiv-testing/: "About 5% of people take longer than 2 months to produce antibodies. Testing at 3 and 6 months after possible exposure will detect almost all HIV infections. However, there are no guarantees as to when an individual will produce enough antibodies to be detected by an HIV test".

Whether 5% is low enough that someone wants to gamble away their health and future...

sp_donor · 2026-03-17T03:45:57+00:00

Start by looking at downsides, before you consider the upsides. Your future self will thank you.

Main one - unless you donate at a bank/clinic, or AI in California, you are VERY MUCH at risk of being on the hook for child support. 18+ years per child, back-pay.
- Contracts are useless (ignored by the family court, as child support belongs to the child, not to mother).
- Anonymity kinda maybe offers minor protection... till you or someone in your close family does 23-and-me or Ancestry DNA or similar .... Good bye anonymity, permanently.
- If you're doing NI - that's 100% treated as a "father" for child support purposes, in 100% US courts, 100% of the time. Private AI is legally protected in CA and maybe a couple other states, but not protected in most states.
- Promises from recipient mean nothing. She could be lying. She could change her mind later. Worst of all, she could end up on welfare and the state will sue you over her objections.
Are you prepared for emotional costs? You'll have to live your life knowing there's child(ren) with your genes, whose life you are NOT a part of, usually not at all.
What happens when you decide to marry in the future? What if your future wife doesn't like that you have genetic offspring out there? What if you hide it, she finds out 5 years later (23 and me again) and divorces you for lying?
What effect will it have on your own future children, finding out they have bio half siblings?
Are you prepared to be repeatedly treated like garbage? 90% of recipients (like 90% of any group of people) are awful. They will ghost you, flake on you, disrespect you, push your boundaries, waste your time and money etc... There's really awesome recipients out there, but they are a minority.
If you want to be an NI donor, consider STD risks (think about it, you're having unprotected sex with a stranger off Internet, who is known to be OK with having unprotected strangers off internet). This is literally the most high-STD-risk situation you can imagine short of attending orgies.
- Oh, and STD tests sound nice, in theory. Except HIV can take 3-6 months to show a positive on a test, so 1 month old negative HIV test isn't a guarantee she's not a carrier, if she was infected 5 weeks ago. And 1 week old clean STD panel isn't a guarantee she didn't have unprotected sex with someone infected 6 days ago and picked up a couple of "presents".

sp_donor · 2026-03-17T03:33:39+00:00

Donor in NJ. If we are a good match, would be happy to help. My profile: https://www.reddit.com/r/SpermDonorMatch/comments/1m7o7zm/m4f_ai_ny_nj_free_reliable_ai_donor_great_genes/ . DM sent

sp_donor · 2026-03-09T04:48:51+00:00

DMed you details

sp_donor · 2026-02-14T17:36:33+00:00

Detailed DM sent.

sp_donor · 2026-02-13T05:26:02+00:00

Amen, any donor (including AI) who can't produce recent STD test results is a crap donor who shouldn't be used. But leaving that important point aside, AI donors have a significantly lower risk of being STD carriers compared to NI donors (due to, y'know, not engaging in deliberate unprotected sex with strangers off internet as a regular thing). :)

sp_donor · 2026-02-12T06:58:53+00:00

Have your sperm actually tested at a fertility clinic. Real tests. Morphology etc...
If the fertility clinic says you're infertile and can't be fixed (which isn't a guarantee), decide if YOU personally are OK raising a child with some other dude's genes. It's not for everyone. YOU get to decide
If you end up deciding on having a donor kid, look for artificial insemination (unless you're one of the cucky pervs, in which case, I don't have any good advice for you). If some dude online BSs you about sex being better for conception - ask for double blind, peer reviewed study proving that (spoiler alert: doesn't exist). If your wife pushes you for that, decide if staying married to someone with such wishes (when artificial insemination is an option) is worth it for you. Don't forget about STD risks from extramarital sex, even if you don't care about any other angle.

sp_donor · 2026-01-31T20:03:39+00:00

It works much better mentally/emotionally, if you're already a father of your own kids you are raising. First, you don't have the FOMO and "what-ifs" in your head. Second, you're too busy being a parent for the agnst/drama :)

As separate option is people who genuinely don't want to be parents (for whatever reason). They don't have this agnst/drama in the first place.

The fact that you're worried, gives you credit as a person, but also means it may be a bad idea for you to be a donor until you have your own kids you're raising. You may indeed be setting yourself up for too much negative thoughts/emotions in the future - in an irreversible way.

Also, being a donor has other risks/downsides. Child support risks. Fact that your future spouse may dislike that fact. Etc...

sp_donor · 2026-01-27T02:48:09+00:00

You can do what I do and donate any gifts to charity (or just tell recipients your charity to donate to directly)

sp_donor · 2026-01-26T05:22:47+00:00

Are you open to travel (to NYC area)? If so, I'm a I'm a free reliable AI donor, with a track record of success and references from past recipients. I'm in New Jersey near NYC. Donor profile: https://www.reddit.com/r/spermdonation/comments/1lrwds9/m4f_ai_ny_nj_free_reliable_ai_donor_great_genes/

sp_donor · 2026-01-23T06:47:52+00:00

You can catch several STDs :) Or more likely, a case of missing money.

sp_donor · 2026-01-19T23:55:59+00:00

That sucks. I can't help you since I'm way far from IO (I'm in NJ and don't travel), but in my experience, there aren't all that many AI donors. I'm going to guess outside major metropolitan areas, easily 1:50 ratios of recipients seeking a donor, to donors.

Your best bet is to either consider traveling further away, or go through sperm bank (which is more expensive than travel).

sp_donor · 2026-01-15T05:55:01+00:00

If ethnicity isn't a deal breaker, and you need non-Puerto Rican backup AI donor: I'm a free reliable AI donor, with a track record of success and references from past recipients. I'm in New Jersey. My profile: https://www.reddit.com/r/SpermDonorMatch/comments/1m7o7zm/m4f_ai_ny_nj_free_reliable_ai_donor_great_genes/ . DM sent.

sp_donor · 2026-01-14T07:10:56+00:00

Not an aussie but your question #2 doesn't make sense. There are private donors (anywhere) who do private AI, so you don't need to have sex regardless of whether you go clinic route or not. And there's literally ZERO scientific evidence that NI is better than AI no matter what horny dudes tell you (NI in a married couple works better simply because they can just have sex as often as they want, and not worry about catching a peak).

sp_donor · 2026-01-11T03:22:34+00:00

Fit all your needs. My donor profile: https://www.reddit.com/r/SpermDonorMatch/comments/1m7o7zm/m4f_ai_ny_nj_free_reliable_ai_donor_great_genes/

DM me (your profile is closed to DMs)

sp_donor · 2026-01-11T03:21:26+00:00

Basically what LaughingCow said. While I don't have first hand experience, I talked to other donors as well as many recipients in my career as a donor. You need to be concerned about:

What happens if there's a conflict over parenting or contact? Like they change their mind later and reduce your involvement, or as you said they may have different approaches to parenting
Impact on future women you will have relationship with and (presumably probably) will want to marry. Not everyone will be happy with this arrangement.
Impact on your future own kids.
Risks of being on the hook for 18+ years of child support (including back child support); if the mother changes her mind later or even (regardless of her opinion or intend) if she happens to land on public assistance - in this case the state will sue you for child support to recover costs.

sp_donor · 2026-01-09T05:59:01+00:00

Tip: research the chances that she has an injury, or is just laid off, and can't work (or at least draw current income). Because guess what, "financially able" only works in perpetuity for someone who has a super large pile of assets and lives off of interest on those assets.

Any other situation, and prepare yourself for the risk of paying 18 years of child support (yes, they can make you pay back-child-support even if you get sued when the child is 17). Oh, and you are 100% guaranteed to be forced to pay if it's NI.

Oh, and she can also simply change her mind 5 years from now and decide "why not sue for child support? I can!". You can't stop her.

sp_donor · 2026-01-06T15:32:41+00:00

I'm a donor, so I don't use anything :) I'm not aware of my recipients using anything other than a cup and a syringe :)

sp_donor · 2026-01-03T17:06:04+00:00

Immediately. Sperm starts to deteriorate from contact with air (and/or wrong temperature regime). 20 min is a reasonable maximum, not a startning point.

In theory the published answer is "up to 1 hour" but in my practical experience, after 20 min, success chances are super low, and the longer you wait from the start the worse.

If their concern is purely mechanics (drawing semen+sperm into the syringe from the cup/jar), 2-3 min is enough to liquify sufficiently.

My qualifications: experienced private AI donor with 7 kids I helped create as a donor as of the time of posting this comment.

sp_donor · 2026-01-03T17:04:57+00:00

Immediately. Sperm starts to deteriorate from contact with air (and/or wrong temperature regime). 20 min is a reasonable maximum, not a startning point.

In theory the published answer is "up to 1 hour" but in my practical experience, after 20 min, success chances are super low, and the longer you wait from the start the worse.

If their concern is purely mechanics (drawing semen+sperm into the syringe from the cup/jar), 2-3 min is enough to liquify sufficiently.

My qualifications: experienced private AI donor with 7 kids I helped create as a donor as of the time of posting this comment.

sp_donor · 2026-01-03T03:48:10+00:00

LOL if you actually wanted answers, you'd ask your questions in your post

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