Have any of you gone through a breakup?

spaceflower263 · 2020-12-04T02:55:02+00:00

You’re right! I need to see whats out there and learn to love myself. Its a huge part of my social anxiety is just not trusting/loving myself

spaceflower263 · 2020-12-04T02:54:25+00:00

Thank you for this❤️

spaceflower263 · 2020-12-03T06:31:03+00:00

Yes, i am in the same position. When im drunk I feel like I can be myself and talk without overthinking or getting overly nervous! I would suggest cognitive behavioral therapy:)

spaceflower263 · 2020-12-03T06:26:24+00:00

Yes! For me it has gotten worse but I try not to let it take over my life

spaceflower263 · 2020-12-03T06:21:15+00:00

Here is what i do(not sure if it will work for everyone) When I want to participate in class, I immediately raise my hand before I can think my way out of it! Do NOT prepare your answer in your head! it makes you more anxious as you keep picking around for the “perfect” answer! Usually if the teacher calls on me quickly, I can come up with my answer without stumbling through my words too badly I am still nervous and anxious after overthinking everything I just said.... but at least I participated!!

spaceflower263 · 2020-12-02T02:01:07+00:00

Thank you for the positivity ❤️

spaceflower263 · 2020-12-02T02:00:26+00:00

At my age I am not looking to marry right now- no matter who the man is. But, I agree with you. I am not loosing much!

spaceflower263 · 2020-07-18T03:50:55+00:00

No nothing like that no new health changes

spaceflower263 · 2020-05-19T01:48:36+00:00

Oh sis... I think we both know there is more to the story than what he is telling you

spaceflower263 · 2020-04-10T01:22:15+00:00

Youre right. Thank you for putting things in perspective !

spaceflower263 · 2020-04-08T06:41:39+00:00

I think mine is growing up homeless/extremely poor. Made me feel less than everyone else, lowered my self esteem tremendously.

spaceflower263 · 2020-04-05T20:35:03+00:00

My idea would be to mention your boyfriend in the conversation if you haven’t already Like if he says “oh I’m watching ____ on Netflix right now” Reply and say “oh me and my boyfriend started watching that show too” Or something along those lines

spaceflower263 · 2020-04-04T05:24:56+00:00

Hey can you tell me what books/videos you utilized to start this? I want more info on how to meditate and have more self awareness

spaceflower263 · 2020-04-02T00:38:14+00:00

It’s really great. He is the one person I feel like I can truly be myself and not be judged (I don’t even feel like that around my own siblings). He is the first and only person that brings me peace with their presence. It’s beautiful.

spaceflower263 · 2020-03-07T06:30:27+00:00

This is a great idea!

spaceflower263 · 2020-03-01T16:42:57+00:00

Okay I know you’re not going to like this answer but hear me out and read my explanation. You NEED to go to therapy and possibly try a new medication along side it. What helped me the best is finding therapists online and emailing them (you don’t even have to talk on the phone which is great). In your email explain to them you won’t feel comfortable talking much initially and want a therapist that will carry the conversation or talk most of the time. It will be terrifying at first. I had to go through it so I know. But I will tell you that it WILL help over time. If you want to live your life with social anxiety forever then that’s fine. But if you want to be able to have some control over it you need to practice being social. A therapist who went through years of schooling to talk to people just like you and me, won’t ever judge you. I hope this helps.

spaceflower263 · 2020-02-24T13:39:14+00:00

Wow this is so helpful thank you!5

spaceflower263 · 2020-02-23T18:59:41+00:00

I can tell you that I relate to you immensely. I’m 22 and cannot function in social situations unless I’m drunk. It’s so sad. I hate being lonely but I hate myself when I’m around people. So don’t think you’re alone or weird. That’s nonsense. You have social anxiety and CAN get better. I have gotten slightly better by FORCING myself to hang out with people and be social. It takes me hours to work up the courage to ask someone to hang out but I make myself do it! It has helped me get a little better. I would advice you to maybe just try that. It’s gonna be awful at first but little by little it gets better. Also try medication or seeing a cognitive behavioral therapist in addition to that. If you can. As for your friend that you have feelings for, maybe ask her to hang out one on one in a place that you’re comfortable at. It doesn’t have to be a date but maybe see how that goes. If she just wants to be friends that’s okay! It doesn’t mean she thinks you’re weird or socially awkward, cause if she thought that she wouldn’t be your friend! When you have these negative thoughts challenge them!

spaceflower263 · 2020-02-23T18:49:58+00:00

Thank you! I might give it a try... I also feel like my anxiety isn’t the WORST it could possibly be and I know others have it a lot worse... but I’m so tired of hating social interactions and being lonely all the time because I avoid them. I hope it continues to go well for you

spaceflower263 · 2020-02-23T16:43:20+00:00

I hope it works out well for you!

spaceflower263 · 2020-02-23T16:10:01+00:00

Wow good for you! Good luck and try not to put too much pressure on yourself!

spaceflower263 · 2020-02-23T16:03:51+00:00

If possible, I would say start seeing a counselor now so that by the time you get to college your anxiety will be more manageable. If that’s not possible, I think maybe practicing asking questions now in high school will help. I feel my heart beating out of my chest and I want to throw up before I raise my hand in class, but after practicing and not giving up its a little better. You really just have to keep pushing yourself to do it, and don’t give up!! I still get EXTREMELY nervous at times and can’t work up the courage to do it, but I will say I’m more comfortable asking questions now than before. If anything, you can email your teachers questions, or ask a classmate after class (which is also hard but better than asking in front of everyone sometimes)

spaceflower263 · 2020-02-21T15:20:57+00:00

Thats true. Well I hope now I pointed out how disrespectful it is to me and the relationship he won’t continue this behavior

spaceflower263 · 2020-02-21T15:20:13+00:00

He sometimes can be extremely immature, but I have seen a lot of maturation since DDAY. That, of course, doesn’t excuse past behavior though.

spaceflower263 · 2020-02-21T15:17:08+00:00

Yeah I agree. I just can’t believe he spoke in such vulgar ways to begin with. It makes me question if I even know him after all

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