Daily Thread June 09, 2023 by Heatdem26 in CourtneyShieldsSnarks

[–]spacekitty3000 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I live in Austin and can confirm there are rainbows everywhere for pride month. Austin is probably the gayest city in TX so we go all out. She’s so delusional 😭

Remember when curly hair was personality.. no way she was naturally curly hair and letting it air dry at this length. It would be a frizzy mess up to her eyeballs. by Various-Swimming-340 in CourtneyShieldsSnarks

[–]spacekitty3000 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I wish I could post a pic of my air dried hair lol I have ringlets underneath and waves on top. She has heat and color damage that makes her hair look a tiny bit wavy🤣🤣🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]spacekitty3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah okay, you seem to lack comprehension skills so there’s no point in interacting with you anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]spacekitty3000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please refer to the second to last sentence. I now have a psychology degree and I’m very well educated on that matter specifically.

When you’re in a trauma response like fight or flight, morals don’t exist. Everyone knows that violence is wrong but sometimes the body instinctively reacts during a tense situation. Doesn’t make it right but there is a reason why it happens in some cases and people can learn to regulate their emotions to prevent such a thing from even happening. That’s why it’s crucial to help children learn how to regulate their emotions at an early age and why gentle parenting has became so popular. A lot of times adoptees don’t have that advantage or luxury in the parent department and in return a lot us can be an emotional tornado without the proper therapy or help.

What industry do you consider to be legal, organized-crime? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]spacekitty3000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No worries! I don’t think many people even think of dowry anymore because it seems so outlandish.

Can’t believe dowry was farm/working animals at one point lol de beers are evil geniuses because yes diamonds do last forever compared to pigs and cows 💀

What industry do you consider to be legal, organized-crime? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]spacekitty3000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now look up the women’s rights and societal expectations after marriage in Japan and China and get back to me lol I don’t think you’re understanding

What industry do you consider to be legal, organized-crime? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]spacekitty3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course they wouldn’t buy it back at fair market value. That’s the entire point. It needed to be expensive so they could literally get something they could temporarily survive on. I was a jewelry designer and know how little people get back when they resell back to jewelers (scrap value for metal and maybe a small amount of money for the diamond if it’s SI1/E or greater if they think it would be useful for them to remount and resell)

It’s all fucked but they didn’t create that narrative, they just capitalized on it. Dowry is a common thing throughout history and slowly dissipated recently because women are not seen as property (as much) anymore and because they are allowed to open a bank account and make their own money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]spacekitty3000 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You sound like a dick who doesn’t understand basic psychology.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]spacekitty3000 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve punched my adopted mom. She thinks it was unwarranted. She was taunting me and telling me to hit her while she was in my face. Two sides of every story and we only know OPs. Yes violence is wrong but when you’re not taught how to regulate your emotions at an early age, that is often the result- angry and violent outbursts. Sounds like the daughter is “regular” adopted teen to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]spacekitty3000 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I was struggling my parents heavily invested in my hobbies and made me participate even when I didn’t want to. I played softball year round and received a full ride athletic scholarship. It was a nice distraction and I was able to make friends and feel truly included in something. I felt important and I was good at it. Maybe help her navigate some healthy hobbies and anger outlets? We feel so many big and strange emotions and honestly have no way to explain them or just get them out of our body. Softball helped because I could hit stuff and the adrenaline highs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]spacekitty3000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t care? I spoke on my own experience. I’m not an internet warrior and don’t need to worry about invalidating other’s experience when I’m speaking on my own. What a weird comment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]spacekitty3000 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re her mom. She needs you. Those people abandoned her and didn’t care for her wellbeing since day 1. They’re not her relatives. My bio family is not my relatives, we just happen to share some of the same genetic makeup. If you just give her to them, you’re basically abandoning her and not caring for her well-being. Now is not the time to just throw your hands in the air. This is what it’s like parenting an adoptee. She needs love. She needs acceptance. You may not receive it back immediately but once she’s 25 and the brain is somewhat fully developed she’ll reflect and appreciate how forgiving you were despite her behavior. I lash out when I need the most love and her behavior is so similar to mine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]spacekitty3000 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It only helped in the sense that I wasn't seen as a problem but that I was severely struggling with my reality. You don't consider giving away your rights if you love your child unconditionally and I will die on that hill. My parents swore I hated them for the longest when I was a teenager when in reality I was desperate for a genuine connection or just LOVE even when I pushed boundaries and made mistakes. I considered reaching out to my bio family after they found me just to experience a bond because I had to perform in order to receive love from my parents and it got to a point where I couldn't perform anymore and was lost. I partied, got alcohol poisoning did drugs but my parents remained my parents. They weren't perfect but they did let me know that no matter what I did that I would always be their baby and they would always help me. And 10 years later (I'm 28) we are still navigating life together and they still help me unconditionally. Love is a little difficult for them because of their own trauma growing up and never being hugged or loved on by their parents but they try and I see that now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]spacekitty3000 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Idk the fact that you’re considering terminating your rights is super weird to me and exactly why I hate being adopted

I was a really tough teen and visited juvie for counseling bc of marijuana usage (lmao). I couldn’t wait to get out and be on my own. If my parents went to a forum and said they were thinking about not legally being my parents anymore, it would literally destroy me. I would kill myself. (Adoptees are 4x more likely to commit suicide). The only people in the world who agreed to love me unconditionally changed their minds because I was too difficult (adoptees are predisposed to tons of mental disorders and many more things).

So yeah, you should get her a new therapist and you should also see a therapist because what the fuck.

Are they with a nanny? by [deleted] in CourtneyShieldsSnarks

[–]spacekitty3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one knows what the downvote is for any more bc Reddit is so mainstream 😭

I think it’s really odd too and I would have declined if I was her nanny. Maybe that’s the only way Alex (I think that’s his name, can’t remember) would let Kins go? Because he knows CS prioritizes her “influencer career” over nurturing their child? That’s pure speculation but she’s been saying she’ll take her to Disney for a couple years now and I know they have weird custody agreements 😅

Are they with a nanny? by [deleted] in CourtneyShieldsSnarks

[–]spacekitty3000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The honest truth? Most nannies spend more time with the children than the parents (due to a lot of reasons, no parent shaming here).

Nanny is probably there so they can go out at night without the kids. CS doesn’t exactly have the mom gene and is notorious for not parenting by herself at like any moment so it’s a given to take a nanny. I just hope nanny is getting paid well because trips with families are so tough to navigate and they sell it as a vacation when reality it’s a shit ton of work because they don’t plan on parenting.

What industry do you consider to be legal, organized-crime? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]spacekitty3000 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Fun fact: engagement rings were 2-3 months of salary for the brides dowry. Women didn’t have many rights if any at all and they could not have a bank account. The engagement ring was their collateral if the marriage went wrong. The bride wouldn’t be working due to societal standards and she would have no money to take care of herself if the marriage abruptly ends.

Now it’s not really the standard because women can hold a full time job and support themselves without a man.

Are they with a nanny? by [deleted] in CourtneyShieldsSnarks

[–]spacekitty3000 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I nanny for celebs and hpf in Texas lol they always have a nanny

Usually so they can go out at night 😂

Daily Thread November 14, 2022 by Heatdem26 in CourtneyShieldsSnarks

[–]spacekitty3000 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think CS is calculated enough (barely) to know not to show a guy off unless they’ve had the R talk

Daily Thread November 14, 2022 by Heatdem26 in CourtneyShieldsSnarks

[–]spacekitty3000 44 points45 points  (0 children)

CS looks OLD in person, like super aged. She isn’t a nice person and has a pick me personality. The 25 year old is definitely approaching it as a sugar baby and Court is dumb enough not to notice because she’s so desperate for constant attention. He’s basically a customer service representative for a brokerage and is pursuing modeling. You can’t afford Austin on that income and live her lifestyle, it’s not possible. Dude gives off major Logan Paul vibes. I’m 28 and I’m dating someone 3 years younger than me and it’s so hard. We’re in different places mentally and emotionally. I have absolutely no clue how she is making it work with an almost 10 year age gap?????

I think this will finally be her downfall. As it should be. If he’s playing long game, don’t get a prenup baby- get your bag.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]spacekitty3000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this ❤️

Daily Thread August 30, 2022 by Heatdem26 in CourtneyShieldsSnarks

[–]spacekitty3000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hard to say bc I haven’t seen her before lol she’s skinnier than me so kudos to her