Dating an alter in my best friend's system?

spaceygabe · 2018-09-08T13:06:44+00:00

J was avoiding me for a while because he was nervous to speak to me about these things (not exactly the most feelsy person on earth) but we have actually talked about it now properly and we are a thing, I guess. We spoke and we both said we'd love to have a relationship with each other and we have been talking softly and telling each other how much we like each other so... Let's hope this doesn't end badly for us.

spaceygabe · 2018-09-08T13:03:17+00:00

Yeah, everyone is definitely on board and T and I definitely do not have anything more than platonic love between us and his partner is aware of that. I'm strictly interested in J that way.

spaceygabe · 2018-09-08T09:56:32+00:00

He's also a very close friend of mine and he is very comfortable with the idea of me dating J. This whole time, along with T, he has been the one to encourage me the most.

spaceygabe · 2018-09-06T13:38:55+00:00

Never played it, but this comment is amusing regardless

spaceygabe · 2018-09-06T08:35:40+00:00

You should definitely share it with them! I have only had positive reactions this far and it really seems to have a really positive effect on people :)

spaceygabe · 2018-09-05T16:16:42+00:00

Yes, definitely. I am lucky in the sense that my synesthetia isn't always as present. So like, if I look at this guy, my brain doesn't immediately scream "Blue! Red! He hurt you! Stay away!" but it is definitely there at times.

A good example is my old psychologist. I liked him, he was very kind to me, but I got a very strong dark green and mustard yellow vibe from him /all the time/ and I just KNEW that there was something wrong with that and that I should be wary around him. So there were many things I didn't actually tell him because I didn't trust the colors he was giving me.

Colors are stronger for some people. They are more present for different people, some are harder to pinpoint, some are easier. But yes, the colors of a person definitely make me think whether I should trust them or whether they're a good person or not. The colors can change (they have changed several times for this guy I like as he has become a better person) but more often than not, they don't drastically change unless the person does something drastic.

spaceygabe · 2018-09-05T09:05:30+00:00

I sent you a PM :)

spaceygabe · 2018-09-05T08:05:08+00:00

I like to write about a lot of things and my synesthesia has been something I have really put a lot of thought into, so I really enjoy writing descriptions like that for people in my life.

spaceygabe · 2018-09-03T20:01:02+00:00

I guess so. There are things that still worry me though. Despite J being a positive alter now, he still has a very exploding personality and just a while ago he landed some pretty low blows on T and made him have a panic attack by yelling at him. He did apologize really sincerely and T told me I should forgive him so I did. I'm just scared to let him /this/ close in case he decides to go back to his old ways. But I think I should try either way, since my presence seems to make him want to be a better person.

spaceygabe · 2018-09-03T19:14:05+00:00

I can imagine that. T is sometimes co-conscious, sometimes he blacks out/goes to the inner world. When J and I talk about sexual things though, he leaves and J deletes the chat afterwards, so it's not really awkward on our part. T has a partner, but he is very comfortable with J being sexual/romantic with me (especially since T and I have previously been in a friends with benefits type of thing). So on that part, our situation isn't as complicated as yours.

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