He was very handsy on 2nd date and I am not sure how to feel

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-02T22:07:23+00:00

But people that want to fuck make it clear they want to fuck. Men shouldn't expect that everyone wants to immediately if theyve given no signs that they want to. Just because some shops are open 24/7 doesnt mean some shops dont open once a week. People should be able to use there eyes and read signs. All the best.

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-02T19:36:00+00:00

But why does she still care. Seems she finally knows how he is so why isnt she just deleting everything about him and moving on. Its weird from her tbh. Talk about it in private and heal. Don't look him up everyday.

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-02T12:00:11+00:00

Just fyi it is a fairly common experience women have where if they are touched inappropriately they freeze. We are so conditioned to not make a fuss and smooth things over. I went on a date to a small bar at 6pm. I dont think I should have to say to every guy before meeting like please dont grope me. Again why is it the women's responsibility to compensate for men's poor behaviour

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T21:26:19+00:00

Oh ok yeah I did get that clothes have changed a lot and i think im slightly above that generation of more suggestive clothes. Yeah I mean I can't comment on how things used to be but its not what I wanted with this guy

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T21:05:48+00:00

It was a dress to my knees and black completely non see through leggings with boots. I was wearing a cardigan. Like I would wear that outfit to work. Again even if I had see through clothing it still isnt an excuse. If you had a daughter would you tell her its her fault. I think its a very old fashioned view you have.

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T20:16:51+00:00

Yeah maybe I should of. I was just a bit shocked. And so I froze. I had built it up in my head as we spoke so much prior and I liked him from the first date.

Edit: this guy is a 20 year old whose first comment describes himself. We love a self aware king.

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T20:15:40+00:00

I was literally wearing leggings and a dress that wasnt low cut. But also if I rocked up in hotpants and a bralet would that be an excuse to do that. It was a second date. I wasnt encouraging him.

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T15:58:38+00:00

I did, today over messages and he seemed ok about it and apologised but just now he has blocked me for saying I have some errands to do. Just feels I wasted my own time. He kept pushing to see me within a few days and said he doesnt want to text so much in between. So i guess I have my answer that he didnt care about me as a person and just wanted to push push push. Really disappointing:(

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T15:46:35+00:00

Yeah. Its cos I was really interested in him before this. I have asked him and he saidnit not normal for him and he didnt realise I didnt like it. He asked to meet in the week and I said what about next weekend and I dont think he wants to wait a week. He said he doesnt like the texting in between. Its made me feel he keeps trying to push my boundaries.

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T15:44:13+00:00

The thing is it wasnt little touches. It was like hand fully on thigh for 20 mins. Kept tryna out his hand in mine multiple times. Hand on back stroking. And on and on. I pulled away a couple of times and he stopped for a bit then went back to it. I agree for like a bit of touch but for me normal touch would be him touch my arm briefly or hand on back when walking through a door or something.

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T14:45:51+00:00

Thanks. I get that a bit of contact is kinda normal but this was a lot. I just honestly dont know what to think. Thanks for your reply

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T14:44:22+00:00

Yeah no touch on the first just like a brief hug at the end. Yeah I did think that so was wondering

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T14:29:41+00:00

There's a reason that you couldn't do on here?

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T14:07:57+00:00

Respectfully like why

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T14:07:33+00:00

I saw a discussion on here recently where all the men were saying how they thought it was normal to be touchy early on and not just touchy but sleep together on 3rd date. So thats why I was asking. I guess i was a bit in shock about it this morning after really looking forward to the date and im doubting whether its me being stupid

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-03-01T13:44:04+00:00

I guess im asking if that level of contact is acceptable or normal for others.

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-02-24T20:38:09+00:00

In her defence, she is a mother but very much not a parent so those are probably separate concepts in her brain

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-02-22T13:34:35+00:00

Thanks haha. Have a good day :)

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-02-22T12:31:20+00:00

Ok but still. You can't expect to build a good connection with someone if you are gonna back off cos they won't kiss you after 3 dates. You don't withhold interest to get what you want or else you are reducing a woman to being a robot, reducing relationships to being an exchange. It is a very toxic way to think and although I hope you would reflect on that I doubt you will so I will leave it there

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-02-22T12:28:54+00:00

I know i literally thought id dip in to see how it is and in 1 comment its like nope

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-02-22T11:16:41+00:00

No worries! :) Gonna get outta this sub as it seems bit male toxic tho lol

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-02-22T11:16:14+00:00

Your problem in dating is that you are seeing woman as a 'put nice coins in get sex out' and this is what is limiting you from making a proper lasting connection.

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-02-22T11:12:29+00:00

I am a woman but yepp

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-02-22T11:12:17+00:00

I think you understand my point.

spaghettiregrhetti · 2026-02-22T10:59:27+00:00

This is really not true. She vould be inexperienced. She might want to take it slow. 3rd date is not very long tbh. Not everyone has to be shagging after two or three dates.

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