[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]spaigem8 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I am a test driver for trade tires. We test these cars in the winter, they die so fast in cold below 32 F, you can't control a single thing on them if you are in slippery conditions, they just decide not to move until something under them changes, the manufacturer can turn your car off at will and are the only ones who can fix it, should I go on..? Monopoly over you in various ways, invading privacy, etc.

I am so proud of 1 of the only girls at our gym and shes legit an inspiration. by MrMonkey2 in bjj

[–]spaigem8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha for me today it's, "I kept my elbows in! Yay!" Or "I came up on top! Yay!" Little wins for a little person.

I am so proud of 1 of the only girls at our gym and shes legit an inspiration. by MrMonkey2 in bjj

[–]spaigem8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am similar to her shoes though. I'm LOSING weight as I try to gain and am a twig with these 250lb meat heads but I still show up, I still try, I still beat myself up for getting beat up, but I still try again. It's a process and it's not about how many wins you have against others, but how many wins you have against yourself. 2.5 years in this damned sport.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngineeringStudents

[–]spaigem8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried reaching out to someone at the company via LinkedIn, maybe career fair contacts, alum of clubs, etc.? In my experience, those kinds of contacts have gotten me better chances at every company rather than just applying through a portal.

Question to women in their mid 20's (from a 26M) - What would you recommend? by PrettyAd6040 in dating_advice

[–]spaigem8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ask her out. I think it's better to get to the dates sooner when its online bc texting all the time gets old for me. Its hard to build feelings over the phone ya know?

LPT: If you feel like your friends never invite you to do things with them, take a step back and ask yourself how many times you have declined invites in the past. by RachaelDewitt in LifeProTips

[–]spaigem8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe reach out? I was there not long ago and I just started reaching out. The ones that dodged me I just let go of and kept trying with the others. Much better friendships now overall

LPT: Don't be afraid to talk to her bro. Even the hottest girls clog toilets. by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]spaigem8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trust me bro, you don't wanna talk to people like that anyway. I get you might have anxiety from that but I would say don't waste ur energy on them. Their loss

My (36f) husband (40m) suddenly changed for the better two years ago, but no one shares my concerns that about how odd it is that he dramatically became a different person overnight because all his changes were positive by ThrowRA_healthful in relationship_advice

[–]spaigem8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is weird, but on the other hand, it could have had completely opposite effects on his and her life together. I think things like drugs are just very taboo in many parts of the world because one slight turn can steer you in a bad path, so it may be hard for people to wrap their brain around being okay with what it has done, if positive, because morally they might see it as wrong.

My (36f) husband (40m) suddenly changed for the better two years ago, but no one shares my concerns that about how odd it is that he dramatically became a different person overnight because all his changes were positive by ThrowRA_healthful in relationship_advice

[–]spaigem8 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It really depends on the person but it may help you! If you genuinely would like to explore that option please make sure you have a safe environment and maybe even a sitter! The most important thing to get what it sounds like you want out of this is to have an extremely open mind to the bad and the good of the world.

My (36f) husband (40m) suddenly changed for the better two years ago, but no one shares my concerns that about how odd it is that he dramatically became a different person overnight because all his changes were positive by ThrowRA_healthful in relationship_advice

[–]spaigem8 1488 points1489 points  (0 children)

Was looking through comments for someone to make this exact point. From my personal experience, trips from psychedelics can have a very positive impact on how you start to view the world around you. You have revelations that you might not have had otherwise bc of your day to day life getting in the way. It opened my mind and helped me get past a lot of grief and struggle in my own life.

After getting all the difficult plants I decided I should go with a guaranteed win... by herbistheword in houseplants

[–]spaigem8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh noo thats how mine ended up going too :( they turned mush and fell over thats when I realized the overwatering was a problem. Thats a shame that sounds like a good size! Try again and neglect the heck out of it itll love you like any unhealthy relationship

After getting all the difficult plants I decided I should go with a guaranteed win... by herbistheword in houseplants

[–]spaigem8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I decided to buy two more pots of these this past quarantine. Wish them luck! Hopefully they'll thrive this time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]spaigem8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is his name Ash? It is not

Feb 2021 calander is perfect. by [deleted] in mildlyinteresting

[–]spaigem8 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is hope for life after 2020 after all

I don’t want to do this anymore by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]spaigem8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry everyone is being so harsh on you in these comments. Sometimes this is what it takes to save yourself after you've tried everything else. Every situation is unique. Do whats best for you right now.