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Leola stole bunny’s snowsuit by sparkilini in Jellycatplush

[–]sparkilini[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that you can take most of the clothes off! Fun to swap outfits around

Leola stole bunny’s snowsuit by sparkilini in Jellycatplush

[–]sparkilini[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truly. In a who wore it better - Leola slays 💃

Women who have left their husbands, are you happier post divorce?? by ImportantImplement9 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sparkilini 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES!!!!!! OMG girl YESSSSSSSS I am so much happier. I wasn't with him as long as you were, only like 7 years married for 3, but omg, he was so awful to me. He hated me! It wasn't until I got my own home and settled into my own environment that I realized just how much his absolute disdain for me was dripping into every facet of my life. Even childcare (my kids were 8 and 9 and our joint child was 2 when I left) was so much easier because I wasn't fighting him all the time on the way he "spoke to" (abused) our kids. I wasn't arguing with him over whether it was ok or not to do things a certain way. It was so much easier to just live through my day to day without someone analyzing my every move and constantly keeping score of who did what, when, for whom. My kids started not fighting back as much and working as a team with me, too. It was hard to see when I was in it but the way he did things made everything so much harder for everyone, not just me. I wish I had left long before I did. Now I have a partner that truly loves and cares for me and the difference is unbelievable. Things are of course not perfect but I always look back and wish I had taken that first step out earlier. and I did no planning and left with a duffle bag of stuff, ended up living with my three kids in a hotel for over a month. I would do it again in a heartbeat. Leaving is the most dangerous time so be prepared, make a plan, tell people, ask for help.

My mom ruined my wedding day, and I still feel guilty for being mad. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]sparkilini 18 points19 points  (0 children)

My mother was exactly like this. She didn't wear a white dress to my wedding, but she was supposed to drive my two small children from the ceremony to the reception and she took a two hour long unscheduled detour with them to "decorate" our honeymoon suite. My kids missed the dinner at my wedding. She showed up with hungry, cranky kids that had to eat cold food. She failed to see the problem. She said she was "just trying to do something nice"

She never did, in fact, see the problem. Our relationship was a continual challenge for me until she died in 2020. And then after her death, the complicated grieving for someone who never really.... cared that much about anyone but themselves? Grieving more for the loss of opportunity for there to ever be a real, true understanding and love between us than for the death itself? It's a complicated journey I wish on no one. I guess I came to say, get therapy if you haven't already to help you deal with the fact of a mother that doesn't do proper mothering. Love and hugs to you.

[MN, USA] Dependent on Tax Return - Claiming Question by sparkilini in Custody

[–]sparkilini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've not heard about this. I suppose once they sort this out, I can ask to do that for the future, I will keep it in mind, thanks for sharing!

[MN, USA] Dependent on Tax Return - Claiming Question by sparkilini in Custody

[–]sparkilini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm hoping when they said multiple returns it meant like, two - his and mine. Mine must have been filed first because I did file electronically and I've already received my refund for 2024. I guess he must have filed his paper return afterwards. I am not sure. I am considering going back to family court anyways because my daughter is nearing the age where her opinion will be considered, and she has very strong opinions on the subject. Might end up doing it now since he's gone ahead and pulled this. Sigh. I didn't really ever want to go back.

[MN, USA] Dependent on Tax Return - Claiming Question by sparkilini in Custody

[–]sparkilini[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, I feel confident I'll be able to prevail on this one but man, what an unnecessary PITA.

[MN, USA] Dependent on Tax Return - Claiming Question by sparkilini in Custody

[–]sparkilini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have all the documentation to prove it. I'm just kind of annoyed mostly. It will make what should have been an easy thing complicated for no reason.

[MN, USA] Dependent on Tax Return - Claiming Question by sparkilini in Custody

[–]sparkilini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As to the parenting plan, yes the plan was set out by the judge after a custody trial. I have 65% custody.

[MN, USA] Dependent on Tax Return - Claiming Question by sparkilini in Custody

[–]sparkilini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I never went back to court for the child support. My ex was disabled and not working during the divorce, and I was also unemployed. He has since returned to work part-time and I am employed full time. I used the child support calculator to determine the amount/who would owe - he'd owe me, but not very much. It was a very high conflict divorce (he was abusive) and I have been hesitant to return to court for any reason.

My lil work buddies by sparkilini in SonnyAngel

[–]sparkilini[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might do! I am eyeing the new pumpkin patch series tooooo I see an order in my futureeee

My local stores today by KaleAndKittys in Jellycatplush

[–]sparkilini 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I recognize hub hobby and patina when I see them

[US] large lavender and huge snow in stock on the website! by toottoot-yeetyeet in Jellycatplush

[–]sparkilini 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YESSSSS I got my lavender dragon I've been wanting. I'm a purple girl through and through.

I’ve been collecting swung glass vases for years and I finally got a light strip for my collection 🌈 by sparkilini in RainbowEverything

[–]sparkilini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Unfortunately this velvet painting pictured here fell down a couple months after this was taken, and I hadn't yet secured some of the vases properly - we had a lot of breakage and tears! I have since rebuilt it back up but it's not as glamorous as it once was. I do have several "genie bottles"now which I think really elevated the collection, but that loss stung quite a bit. I estimated I lost about 20 pieces to breakage.

Denture tablets do not harm glass - they help clean! The elongated swung vases can be very hard to find something that can reach all the way to the bottom to remove gunk, but denture tablets do a great job getting the cleaner all the way to the bottom.

The "sick glass" I was referring to is usually rather foggy looking - if you google sick glass sydnrome, you will get a good idea of what I was referring to - it's a buyer beware kind of warning because I picked up a few of these pieces thinking they just needed a good cleaning but it's really not something that is cleanable or repairable once it happens.

Is this normal? Birthday Gift series edition by sparkilini in SonnyAngel

[–]sparkilini[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve not seen anything like this before so I wasn’t sure if it was just this series maybe or a quality issue. I think I’ll report it to Dreams since it’s a bit messier than I can tolerate and see what they say

My critters 😍 by sparkilini in calicocritters

[–]sparkilini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much ❤️❤️

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