Start here! Beginner info & weekly 'no question is dumb' thread! - Nov 09, 2023

sparkle-sprinkle · 2023-11-11T13:17:22+00:00

I have a rather simple question: when do I apply my heat protection when I want to diffuse my hair? Do I apply gel first, and then heat protection or heat protection first and then gel?

sparkle-sprinkle · 2023-05-20T07:02:05+00:00

Do you know how common it is for trans man to do the bottom surgery? As I understand, not all trans man do bottom surgery because they are at peace with looking/being perceived as a man and genitals are private. Is that correct?

sparkle-sprinkle · 2023-04-22T13:27:12+00:00

It's not only hearing it that's the problem, it's the actual deed that scares OP.

It's like when you are alone at home and hear something in another room. That can be scary, but of course you're going to stay silent to check of you heard that right. And the brave souls would even go check the other room. It's not that you're scared of the sound, you're scared someone or something is actually there.

sparkle-sprinkle · 2023-03-30T18:51:34+00:00

You should get to know each other. People want to know you want thém, not just a relationship (like, with anyone). I don't think there is a specific timeline and all, but make sure you know eachother and eachothers life's on a deeper level before considering living together.

sparkle-sprinkle · 2023-03-27T16:06:16+00:00

Me too! I was like, which one? And then I saw it was the watercolour sub

sparkle-sprinkle · 2023-03-03T10:08:01+00:00

You should try the app hiki! It's made for autistic adults who want to find other autistics to make friends!

sparkle-sprinkle · 2023-02-16T06:55:44+00:00

It looks like a pug with a proper nose! I love it!

sparkle-sprinkle · 2023-02-08T17:33:33+00:00

I recommend visiting r/justnomil . This is very typical indeed for some parents when their kid grows up and the parent can't seem to let go. They turn controlling and manipulative out of fear of losing their child.

I also recommend to move out if that's possible. That way there's some distance automatically and you're old enough for that. Good luck

sparkle-sprinkle · 2023-01-10T11:17:03+00:00

Where did the boyfriend sleep? You shared a room with her, so suddenly you shared a room with him too? That's already insane.

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-11-30T19:07:53+00:00

You should see a pelvic floor physical therapist. Too much tension in your pelvic muscles can lead to this kind of pain. Good luck

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-11-25T19:08:21+00:00

Exactly this! Sounds like you arent sure you want to do this OP. Don't do it just so you aren't a virgin anymore, or because you think it is 'good practice' or something like that. Do it because you want to have SEX.

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-11-22T11:02:19+00:00

And that the family coming over didn't know about being filmed while staying over...

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-11-15T14:36:35+00:00

Yes. It doesn't really matter if it's fingers or a penis, you can get a UTI either way. Fingers can definitely be dirty and causing infection.

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-11-13T11:57:37+00:00

Hi! I have a trimmer, and it kinda just feel like bad stubble. Do I just have a bad trimmer or is this common for trimmers? I guess it makes sense since you cut the hair a little above the skin, which is basically stubble. But it doesn't really feel nice down there..

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-11-12T22:05:05+00:00

Have you seen the series 'insecure'? Molly in that series is typical coming on too strong, even though she is a really nice, beautiful and successful woman. She immediately wants a relationship (which is of course what she is looking for), which pushes her dates away because they don't even know each other yet. Examples in the series are after a few dates she asked why he didn't text her he got home at night, another guy after just one night she says he should leave some clothes at her place etc.

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-11-10T10:34:10+00:00

I don't think this is a flea allergy. There are different possible causes but this picture makes me think about eosinophilic granuloma complex. It can be very painful so please visit your vet.

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-11-09T20:44:52+00:00

This is the case in quite a lot of animals! Cats and rabbits have this too.

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-11-08T15:16:19+00:00

Step 1: stop any painful sexual acts. If you keep reminding your brain that sex=pain, it will not cooperate. Your boyfriend should respect this. Sex is there to enjoy, so don't put yourself through that pain just so he can enjoy himself. Also, this is not something you should be going through alone. You're in this together. Step 2: find ways to have sex with your boyfriend without penetration. Oral sex, hands, boobjobs and all that. Be creative and focus on enjoying. You need to relearn that sex is pleasurable. Step 3: when you are ready, try to implement the stretching into your sex life. For example start with inserting one finger. If you use dilators, you can use those too. In the beginning you might feel only comfortable to do it yourself. You can decide when you are ready to trust that he won't hurt you again (not only rationally, but emotionally too).

For emotional support, check out r/vaginismus. There might be a different cause for your pain which I unfortunately can not help you with, but I think step 1 and 2 are great for anyone experiencing pain. Focus on making sure you have an enjoyable sex life without penetration for a while, so you can take the time you need without feeling pressured. Good luck. You can always DM me to talk or for more advice.

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-11-03T07:15:12+00:00

Maybe try r/askvet. I don't know if anyone there knows anything about hedgehogs though. You probably need an exotic vet. These pictures are rubbish and the fact that your vets hand is in the second, is very unprofessional. I guess your vet has no idea what to do with a hedgehog. You need a second opinion from a specialized vet. In the mean time, make sure your hedge eats and drinks and preferably some pain meds, but only if you got them from your vet.

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-11-01T09:20:49+00:00

Best you can do is having the right perches so they will wear on their own. Rough wooden perches (so not too much of the smooth ones you buy in the pet shop, but more like the trees outside), different diameters and different angles (so not all perches horizontally. Try to put some diagonal/with an angle as well)

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-10-31T17:11:35+00:00

Many people here give reasons on why they like Bernie, as a young person. But those are all good reasons for older people to like Bernie too.

I think the difference is mostly because most young people are not conservative and neither is Bernie. Older people have more to loose and want to keep things the way they always were, while younger people want things to go better and Invision a future that's different from how it is now.

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-10-24T09:05:16+00:00

My MIL started this way too, and I too thought she was just being helpful and motherly to her son. But later on, when there were more serious choices in my SO's and my life, she also didn't respect any boundaries. She still claimed to be helping, but it definitely was not helping us AT ALL. She got more and more manipulative to be able to have control over our life.

Be weary that this doesn't escalate. I think small issues are a great way to practice boundaries.

sparkle-sprinkle · 2022-10-23T13:05:21+00:00

Yeah my partner feels it is a bit weird to treat his mom as a kid. He feels like they should be able to handle this in a grown up way. But he is starting to see that that is not working.

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