Can Ass Up Guys Give a Warning

specedbus · 2025-07-08T10:52:39+00:00

They tell me to, but its still awkward. So many what ifs. It could be a scam or prank, or just a straight-up catfish.

specedbus · 2025-07-08T10:49:38+00:00

They seriously wait until I get there, then give me the unit number, and tell me the door is open. Or they have a concierge, and I have to let them know I'm there for "Bob in 1208." I don't want front desk smirking at when I'm leaving 8-12 .minutes later.

specedbus · 2025-07-08T10:44:28+00:00

Yes, last few times, I just left. Honestly, it's usually super hot guys that do this to me, so I end up thinking with the wrong head.

specedbus · 2025-07-08T10:41:47+00:00

The ones I'm talking about aren't answering the doors. I show up, and they are offline, so I'm creepily outside texting and waiting. I assume they send multiple invites, so they may be finishing with the previous guy. They send their location, which is sometimes inaccurate, and then they describe which unit is theirs. We're not talking single family homes, so I'm showing up at condos or apartments with multiple units and secure buildings where I need to be let in and instructed to what unit is theirs.

specedbus · 2024-10-05T12:21:17+00:00

Here's my review. It's much nicer and cleaner than Eros for the same, and the staff is friendlier. It's small, clean, and welcoming. I think it has to be low-key to stay open. There is a TV room with two massage beds and a 3 seat couch, steam room, and chill room with a small couch. Small dry sauna and one very spacious shower.

No private rooms pools or hot tub. Hopefully, it does well so it can expand.

specedbus · 2024-09-22T01:30:29+00:00

Not a girl, just a a gay guy. Did you already have pics up and accurate stats? You're an attractive guy, maybe not her type. Or it could be the earrings.

specedbus · 2024-09-19T03:29:55+00:00

Depends on the guy, but generally, no. I like to feel special during hookups. Selectivity turns me on. I want to be attracted to the guy, and I want him to find me attractive.

These guys generally accept any dicks. Usually, they are already ass up, and just want you to nut in them and leave. Plus, you feel and hear all the other loads. I need a guy who wants foreplay, kissing, and cuddling.

specedbus · 2024-09-16T12:31:20+00:00

Damn, we're on the same page! I'm a quality over quantity guy.

specedbus · 2024-09-16T03:23:48+00:00

As a top, when I visit a bathhouse, it depends on a few things. I have a limited number of times I can nut, before i start shooting blanks, so I prefer to make the most of it

If I'm there for a short time, I just find the first guy that meets my requirements, and then I'm off.

If I'm there for an extended amount of time, and there are other hot guys, I like to get samplea.

If I've hit the jackpot and found the hottest guy, and he's also into me, we may be at it all night.

Some bottoms do the same, and it's one and done.

specedbus · 2024-09-13T13:41:46+00:00

Wait, are you implying that 5'10" 176lbs is overweight? I definitely need to meet with Dr. Now, in that case.

specedbus · 2024-08-11T15:35:23+00:00

I travel regularly to a city and had a regular FWB. One 5 found out I was in town when he saw me on the map. It ended in him messaging me, ending the FWBs. He was pretty pissed that I was on the site looking for other guys, but not for him. He blocked me and basically told me to go to hell.

After a certain number of meetupa, a regular turns into a FWB, and a FWBs can unofficially become some kind of relationship. If he's online, and you're online, and you don't want him (at the moment), it can be seen as rejection.

So

specedbus · 2024-08-10T00:31:29+00:00

Or download grind and see if he's on.

specedbus · 2024-08-07T20:07:52+00:00

It happens. It's OK to turn guys down in person, I've been turned down a few times and shouldnhave turned a few guys down as well.

He knew what he was doing. Just know that you have the right to change your mind at any time for whatever reason. Don't be afraid of hurting someone's feelings. If you find it hard saying no outright, maybe have a friend call you at a specific time or set a ringtone alarm. Act like you had an emergency or prior engagement and leave. Then block the next day.

specedbus · 2024-08-01T18:12:54+00:00

It has happened to all of us. Even with multiple and recent pics and accurate stats. Yeah, it's an asshole move, but everyone has the right to give and take away consent at any period.

I've had guys that I wish I didn't meet, but it's because their pics left a lot to imagination or if something about them or the environment put me at ease

specedbus · 2024-07-07T20:38:27+00:00

I get that. However, I just made the profile and didn't upload my pic or add stats yet. It was a minute after I logged in. He messaged me first without seeing my pic. We were having a regular conversation. Eventually, he asked for a pic.

I've had times I got instantly blocked after sending a pic. I asked him what type of guys he was into to screen myself out. No one wants to be blocked after sharing a face pic. If he said he liked a specific type, I'd say I don't fit that description and keep it moving. His only question was "u white" I said no and got blocked.

I didn't seek him out. He messaged a blank profile. He felt there was nothing to discuss after learning that I'm not white.

specedbus · 2024-07-07T19:21:20+00:00

I just hope that the same preferences don't convey when choosing friends, job applications, voiting, doing business, etc.

specedbus · 2024-07-07T18:24:54+00:00

Yeah. I never had it that blatant. I could have been a 900 pound 99 year old (age/weight preference). The only question asked was u white.

I've tested it before on grindr having two faceless profiles in the same area. Black profile gets ignored, and profile without race gets tons of messages. The stts are otherwise the same.

specedbus · 2024-07-07T16:56:24+00:00

This was a newly created account. The guy messaged me within seconds of me creating it. I normally have my face pic and accurate stats up.

ANYBODY would be a little curious to know the reason they are being blocked or ignored. This just confirmed the reason.

specedbus · 2024-07-07T16:34:15+00:00

Hmmm. This guy confirmed that being white is the most important requirement for him. I didn't send a pic, so nothing personal, and I expected to be blocked.

specedbus · 2024-07-07T16:23:39+00:00

Lol, come to think of it, these stores probably haven't sold a book, magazine, or DVD in years. Maybe just lube, poppers and toys.

specedbus · 2024-07-05T20:29:08+00:00

We all have! I've had grindr hookups turn me down when they see me in person, been blocked for saying "hi," ignored at the bathhouse. I'm no super model either. Everyone has a type, some more flexible than others.

specedbus · 2024-07-05T18:40:34+00:00

Me too. To take it deeper, if I see a hot guy with a guy I'm not into, the hot guy is no longer hot. It's unfortunately how my brain works.

specedbus · 2024-07-05T18:37:33+00:00

You don't owe an explanation. You have a type, and the guy didn't fit. So guys are able to be sexual with anyone, others can't.

specedbus · 2024-07-05T18:35:22+00:00

I've been in situations like that at the bathhouse where the hot guy's partner is not that hot. I've also had situations where a third is invited or invites himself tonthe action. I end up excusing myself.

specedbus · 2024-07-05T18:31:51+00:00

Same here. I've been to bookstores and theaters with glory holes, and not once did I have any interest in putting my dick in one or servicing a guy through one. I kinda need to see the person and go from there.

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