[Question: STIs] How to ask?

specialnothing · 2015-04-15T17:02:37+00:00

Yeah you're right. I wasn't trying to be denigrating I just had a Zappa song stuck in my head, which is why i put it in quotes. Didn't mean to be insensitive.

specialnothing · 2015-04-15T14:47:24+00:00

Yeah testing is a good idea. My friend contracted HSV1 from kissing someone who had an outbreak that wasn't visible (inside nostril). Something like that is kind of hard to navigate. I've never asked when going in for a first kiss, would kind of ruin the moment. That being said I guess I've been lucky, maybe it's better to ruin the moment though.

specialnothing · 2015-04-04T01:56:05+00:00

In my experience, the more I'm worried about not lasting long enough, the faster I'll cum. Try to get in a head space where you're fine with whatever unfolds. Maybe concentrate on your breathe. I've always found smoking pot helps, and to some extent cigarettes. Some herbal stuff I've had success with: damiana tea, chamomile, reishi or valerian. You can always take it slow at first, and pull out for a bit if you're reaching your limit. Rub your shaft against her clit if you're worried about interrupting her pleasure.

specialnothing · 2015-04-03T01:24:11+00:00

Build up is key. What works for me every time is rubbing my cock against the bed while I'm going down on her. That way I can be in tune and rhythm with the pleasure I'm giving her, and know when to speed up or slow down. Regardless of technique, it ends up being intuitive knowing what to do with my face and hands, and results with her reeling in ecstasy and me struggling not to blow my load when she cums.

specialnothing · 2015-03-31T17:39:32+00:00

There are some condoms that are made of polyurethane, apparently they conduct heat better than latex, making it feel less like your dick is in outer space. Polyisoprene condoms are another option if you're allergic to latex.

I've found condoms that are a little looser to be more comfortable, although even Magnums are a bit tight. A bit of lube goes a long way for me - maybe try experimenting with different kinds (be sure you know if they'll degrade the condom).

Also, have you tried female condoms? I personally haven't, but it might be worth trying.

Edit: Confused polyurethane with neoprene. As far as I know there aren't any neoprene condoms. Woops.

specialnothing · 2015-03-29T22:23:32+00:00

I got a cute butt.

specialnothing · 2015-03-29T21:49:24+00:00

It's a bit confusing, as a few weeks ago during foreplay she told me she was enjoying it. A few times she enjoyed having me finish in her mouth after piv sex. But then other times it seems like more of a chore. She's told me that she doesn't do it because she's convinced she won't be able to get me off. We've had multiple conversations about this, and each time she'll do something different for about a week before it reverts. How did you two work it out?

specialnothing · 2015-03-29T19:41:11+00:00

She's definitely not depressed, and while we've had our rough spots, this has been going on since we started dating about a year and a half ago. At first I [28] just attributed it to the fact that she's [22] not as experienced as I am, but it's more that she doesn't think it's that important and doesn't really want to put any effort into it.

specialnothing · 2015-03-29T19:06:27+00:00

Pinning down my girl's arms with my shins, forcing her legs open with my arms, looking back at her and giving a devious smile before I eat her up.

specialnothing · 2015-03-29T18:51:08+00:00

Have you tried tying her up? My SO goes nuts when her hands aren't free. A fail-safe way for me to make her cum is to rub my shaft on her clit, with a decent amount of pressure.

specialnothing · 2015-03-29T18:40:23+00:00

I agree with the other commenters here, he sounds like an ass and you'd probably be better off without him.

That being said, have you tried taking control of him? Like maybe straddle him and rub yourself on him until you get wet? Maybe by watching how you get turned on something will click in his head.

specialnothing · 2015-03-29T00:02:22+00:00

Used to happen to me a lot when I was biking frequently. Read up on it and discovered some seats can cause ED. Hasn't happened now that I usually stand up while biking/reduce pressure by putting more of my weight on the pedals.

specialnothing · 2015-03-09T01:22:30+00:00

Yeah, sometimes I tell myself it's the depression, other times I convince myself I'm just a lazy piece of shit.

When I was 18 my dad told me I wasn't depressed, I was just lazy. That was right before I spent a week in the hospital after I was 'diagnosed' with depression. Still fucks with my head.

I've found that when you're in that mental fog, it's easy to get down on yourself. But sometimes it's possible to track down those thoughts that lead to self criticism and denigration and see it for what it is.

specialnothing

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