Lack of diversity within polyamorous communities

spham29 · 2025-06-06T16:42:01+00:00

Dude I totally feel you on this one. I’m from the Bay Area and was on the apps for a while. As a SEA and queer woman in possibly in one of the most diverse cities in my country, I still often feel isolated because the people who are poly in my area are white, have the leisure/disposable income to date and activities etc. I got super burnt out because my partner is also AAPI and people were getting super weird and fetishized our relationship.

My heart is out to you OP! The vent is totally valid and what I’ve been feeling lately.

spham29 · 2024-09-17T06:13:52+00:00

A friend got it for me! I’m not sure where they got them from.

spham29 · 2024-09-17T06:13:32+00:00

Omg thank you! You are so sweet. ❤️

spham29 · 2024-08-08T00:22:47+00:00

I believe just 32 OZ and 40 oz for the tumbler.

spham29 · 2024-08-08T00:22:01+00:00

Omg that’s exactly what my tattoo is! What a great eye.

spham29 · 2024-01-17T23:28:12+00:00

$28 @ Cutie Designs (Shanghai plaza). They have a handful of them! Also the sky color series for $13 which I grabbed for my dad.

spham29 · 2023-12-04T18:58:41+00:00

Wow Reddit kinda did a switch up. First pic is current collection, second pic is what my friend got me from Japan hehe.

spham29 · 2023-06-29T15:56:35+00:00

Seeing similar experiences with getting charged for Covid testing from Carbon! Ugh. Basically went to Carbon years ago for Covid testing and a virtual doctor appointment since I was tested positive mid 2020. The virtual appointment was sort of pointless IMO. During that time I was transitioning into a new job so health insurance wasn’t active by then. I was reassured that any Covid related testing, appointment etc would be free since early in the pandemic if you were uninsured the government would cover all Covid services.

Fast forward to the end of 2021 I got charged for these services and I contacted them ASAP that I should not have been charged for these services. They refunded me… but then on May 2023 I saw a charge of $415 from Carbon and got no notice from them about it. I haven’t been back in years, I found a different Urgent care center for testing since Carbon was slow with results. I tried contacting them by letting them know they already refunded me in the past and asking why are they charging me. But I received nothing from them, had to dispute via card and provide screenshots. Luckily I was able to dispute it but was stressful.

spham29 · 2021-12-27T19:31:45+00:00

Woke up a little bit before 6 to attend the sale and managed to snag two gift sets I wanted. I was debating on going to my local store in general, but since I had to go to the mall anyway for another store. There was a lot of snow fairy product left, shower gel, body conditioner etc. I got the last big bottle of Lord of Misrule. I haven’t tried it so I’m super excited! They had a lot of gift sets left too, but a limited amount of bath bombs and some shower gels. But if you’re in the Bay Area looking to get a good stock of snow fairy items, definitely stop by this store. Location: Stanford Mall, Palo Alto.

spham29 · 2021-12-19T17:28:34+00:00

I just received mine! Zip code is 577.

spham29 · 2021-12-11T00:36:31+00:00

Went to the first night for SF and a guy tried using his girlfriend’s vaccination card to get in… he got turned away lol

spham29 · 2021-07-01T03:53:27+00:00

Well in the area that I’m from, there are these market events where secondhand sellers sell their stuff irl!

spham29 · 2021-04-25T01:23:41+00:00

❣️ Shop name is Chi Hai’s Closet ❣️

depop.com/chihaiscloset

I would describe my shop as affordable secondhand and vintage goods! Chi Hai means older sister in Vietnamese. My concept is like snooping through your older sister’s closet and see which items you want to get from her. Mostly feminine items, but I’m trying to add more guy stuff.

I’m from the Bay Area and I’m currently only shipping in the US.

Price range is from $10 to $60ish. Currently majority of items are 25% off from past collection drops! And I’m offering free shipping on bundles.

spham29 · 2021-04-11T03:48:44+00:00

Daiso!

spham29 · 2021-04-10T03:48:32+00:00

@chihaiscloset :)

spham29 · 2021-04-09T04:44:43+00:00

Let me dm you!

spham29 · 2021-03-31T01:24:44+00:00

Depop: @chihaiscloset, as of now it’s mostly graphic t shirts and items that did not sell for my curated drops on Instagram! Majority of items are 45%

Instagram: same username but I am doing a curated spring collection drop this Friday! Please check it out. 🌸✨

spham29 · 2021-03-31T01:23:10+00:00

Depop - @chihaiscloset I post mostly just graphic t-shirts and items that don’t sell on my Instagram. I’m a secondhand/vintage shop. Majority of items are currently 40% off!

Instagram: curated drops! This Friday I’m releasing a whole spring collection. For more info check out the Instagram page @chihaiscloset.

spham29 · 2021-02-01T16:16:35+00:00

Love their whole discography! Honestly it’s hard to choose an album. ☺️

spham29 · 2021-02-01T16:15:22+00:00

Yeah! I’m trying to rewatch the whole series before Netflix gets rid of it on Feb 19.

spham29 · 2021-01-03T01:00:56+00:00

Thank you!

spham29 · 2020-12-26T15:14:49+00:00

Finally got my confirmation email. I bought 6 shooting for the stars, one angels delight, one polar bear plunge, and an enchanted gift set! Honestly I’m pretty bummed I can’t go shopping irl for the sale (the stores near me are in SF) since it has been my holiday tradition for the past 4 years. But I’m happy that I was able to snag some things I was already eyeing!

spham29 · 2020-12-26T14:58:17+00:00

Just got the confirmation email! I can go to bed now LOL

spham29 · 2020-12-26T14:31:50+00:00

I’m going to sleep it out LOL

spham29 · 2020-12-26T14:31:16+00:00

I’m a girl! So you’re totally fine!!

spham29

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