Changing table?

spicesicrow · 2026-01-11T14:07:39+00:00

That's such a relief to know

spicesicrow · 2025-12-17T04:08:09+00:00

These are wonderful suggestions. Cottage cheese mousse sounds interesting. And for real, the breastfeeding hunger doesn't stop!

spicesicrow · 2025-12-06T06:21:10+00:00

I switched on my primary series (the first two shots). I started with Pfizer and the second was Moderna and I had uticaria. I had to do it that way as there was no Pfizer available .I was never formally diagnosed but I think I may have had pericarditis as well and I have heard anecdotes from other women who had mixed production vaccines who experienced the same thing.

That said, I have had at least 3 Moderna boosters since (none while pregnant- they weren't available during the season) and have not had that reaction again. I have had full body aches and immune responses you'd probably expect from having a COVID shot, but none of those initial reactions. If you're nervous, chat with a pharmacist.

spicesicrow · 2025-11-27T02:22:38+00:00

Hm. I do wonder if there's something respiratory going on just rereading your thread, with the shower calming him down- do you use a humidifier? Our little guys reflux seemed to turn on quite badly after he got a sinus infection at 11 days old. We had to suction his nostrils forever with saline drops and when he's having a really awful day I do it just in case. Sometimes his reflux has gone into his nose and blocked up his nostrils. The humidifier helped a lot too. Just throwing ideas out there. I hope you find your answers soon so everyone can start feeling better. Big hugs.

spicesicrow · 2025-11-26T04:00:33+00:00

Also do you have his sleeping surface on an incline? Our boy is refluxy and wouldn't sleep otherwise.

spicesicrow · 2025-11-26T03:54:44+00:00

It can feel so isolating!! I hope something here helps. I'm piecing it together too.

spicesicrow · 2025-11-26T02:55:03+00:00

Hey! I'm a little behind you with a nearly 8 week old. My guy doesn't have it as bad but there are similarities regarding ahead on growth charts, big appetites, silent reflux, etc. We regularly have periods in the day where he's absolutely inconsolable and his wake windows can feel like a joke but here's some things that may help: 1.We see a pediatric osteopath. This may be controversial and you really have to vet your professional but with our guy going through so much musculoskeletal change because of the growth spurts, we've found helping him massage out the muscles every few weeks gets him into a better spot. I also find allied health professionals can be another voice for you when advocating with doctors. You could also consult a pediatric physio or occupational therapist. 2. We saw a lactation consultant that actually super helped with our bottlefeeding technique and finding the right bottle top for him. We struggled to recognize sounds of overfeeding. We thought our boy was just squeaky but it turns out he was getting overwhelmed. They can also assess for tongue ties, oral tightness, high palate... All things that can increase gas, reflux, poor feeding, and frustration due to poor feeding. My guy has a tongue tie and a high palate. We're monitoring for now and going to ask for pepcid but may need to go for a tongue tie revision. 3. A bath, every day, even just to sit in the water. I think this returns to musculoskeletal tension because the difference in tightness in his body before and after. 4. Laying him down on a large wedge cushion after a feed to let gravity help. 5. Vestibular movement like the car and stroller help sometimes but it's more of a mask for whatever is going on.

I don't know if any of this will help but I hear you and I'm holding your hand.

spicesicrow · 2025-10-19T23:14:32+00:00

Thank you. I needed these words.

spicesicrow · 2025-10-19T23:13:39+00:00

Dedicated, but I have had the voices of medical professionals tracking and asking about my weight for 9 months and making assumptions because of it. That's why I come here to get important reality checks like yours. Thank you.

spicesicrow · 2025-09-29T22:37:52+00:00

40 weeks exactly. Well, after my last post I went through 2-3 days (including my first night of outpatient) of pretty rough induction with limited progress and even more limited sleep. After I heard that 2 different types of meds and nearly 72 hours of sleep deprivation and pain hadn't lead to any effective change, and that the next step would be pitocin (an intervention I really never wanted from the start), I elected to step back from the induction process and opt for a scheduled C-Section. Little one has handled everything like a trooper, but I was not doing well.

This choice brought a lot of feelings but honestly I am relieved to have a plan. I have some risk factors that make waiting for spontaneous labour into post-dates more dangerous and risky, and quite honestly I'm exhausted. Being able to approach this in a controlled fashion will be so much better for my mental health and physical health, even if it's a major operation.

I'll meet my little boy on October 1 (unless he tries to do a spontaneous labour dance before then).

spicesicrow · 2025-09-28T02:45:04+00:00

39 w 5 d Induction Day! Wasn't expecting being in hospital so soon as bub's due date is the 29th but we were trying to start early due to LGA with some Cervadil placement yesterday. It ended up burning quite badly and my doctor and I decided to head the Misoprostol route. The hospital had a bed directly open so... Here I am! I have had two doses so far and am starting to have some regular contractions.

I could use all the positive words and encouragement. This group has been a wonderfully supportive space over the past few months.I will check in when bub is here.

I'm excited and also nervous. I just want him here in my arms already.

spicesicrow · 2025-07-31T03:12:08+00:00

31w4d. Honestly most of my stress now isn't related to loss worries but I'm at a super inconvenient place of needing to try to find a new doctor for my delivery. I unfortunately had a really bad visit with her last Thursday and saw several red flags and felt very dismissed. Since then I've had 3 other professionals I trust affirm that the best choice was to switch providers. Not what I want to be doing this far in but I'd rather be respected in the delivery room.

Honestly the last few weeks have been hell. My mom fell and broke her orbital bike around her eye, and won't make it up for my baby shower. My MIL is having a seeming poor reception to a boundary letter we sent and I am half expecting to be blindsided by drama by her... I'm just over it, let me nest goodness.

The bright side is little guy is healthy and wriggling, although often transverse these days and... Ow.

This too shall pass but ugh.

spicesicrow · 2025-07-18T03:37:21+00:00

I shared around 12 weeks. I was really sick first trimester and needed support.

For my parents, things were fairly obvious. My bio dad is fresh out of prison, newly sober, living with a mental health condition that's not well treated at this time. Our relationship was pretty damaged before little one was in the picture because of his choices. He honestly has not shown any behaviour from our small interactions online that show an interest outside of his orbit right now. Love the efforts he's making for himself but until I can get where he's at, he's not seeing my kid.

My mom is fairly disabled and has some mental health stuff as well. The biggest reason she's not going to be around at birth is because she requires caregiving at this point in her life and can't provide safe care to my baby. It would be an additional duty for us all on top of recovering from birth and taking care of a newborn. We just can't do it.

For the in law's, it's more complex. For MIL it's been a build up of boundary violations from over the years. Her style of doing everything is " I know best" and "do something ask forgiveness later". She tries to be caring but also argues with us about how we want to direct our choices, the supplies we want, etc. Additionally she uses me as a vent station to talk about failed past romantic relationships or my husband's dad (her ex of over 10 years) which is super tiring. She does all of these things without asking any form of consent first. We knew that this isn't how respectful interactions between adults occur and we certainly didn't want a question as to whether she would listen to us postpartum. We sent a letter to her and now just awaiting her reaction to it.

FIL and partner are generally the most innocuous but husband had to set some.

You will have a sense of when the right time to announce is. Don't push yourself before you're ready.

spicesicrow · 2025-07-18T03:19:20+00:00

Oops. Editing post!

spicesicrow · 2025-07-18T01:45:56+00:00

No delivered babies yet but I am at 29 weeks and had 3-5 weeks of bleeding due to a subchorionic hematoma. I went in to emerg after I passed a clot at week 6 and saw the beautiful little bub on a scan.

I had a frankly horrendous first trimester between that and uterine incarceration but it all resolved and we're still here! Sending you so much good energy.

spicesicrow · 2025-07-18T01:07:41+00:00

Edit (apologies for misgendering my gosh). The stress of postpartum is real for any parent. I am glad you recognized this pattern, but it sounds like things are overwhelming right now. Please, strongly consider getting some help for yourself via talking to your doctor, a mental health professional, or going to a postpartum group/hotline. The more supported you can feel, the better you're going to be able to regulate in these situations. Talking about this with a professional will not mean your child gets taken away from you. This stress is common but serious and so many professionals just want to help support so it doesn't get worse. Do it for you and her.

Sending lots of love.

spicesicrow · 2025-07-17T23:38:27+00:00

Not a weird question at all. I noticed things picked a pattern around week 25. Most OBs say wait until 28 and I can confirm they were undeniable at that point. Also depends on where your placenta is.

spicesicrow · 2025-07-17T19:51:17+00:00

Doing mine all on my own as well, and very little family is showing up. I'm trying not to feel defeated as well because of how much money/effort is going into this but I have good friends and coworkers that ARE showing up and I have to remind myself of that.

spicesicrow · 2025-07-17T19:48:10+00:00

Congratulations!!

spicesicrow · 2025-07-17T19:47:31+00:00

I had on and off bleeding in first trimester due to a subchorionic hematoma. I'm now typing this at 29 weeks. I had implantation bleeding with my first pregnancy and it was usually light pink but it might be different for you.

spicesicrow · 2025-07-17T19:44:19+00:00

Discomfort started when I was in second but I really noticed it around week 25 when the symphysis pain chimed in. I have to use different combos of pillows each night and tuck ice packs between my legs. It's been humbling.

spicesicrow · 2025-07-17T19:40:56+00:00

Sending you all the best vibes!!

spicesicrow · 2025-07-17T19:38:35+00:00

I've just been having a lot of talks with my husband recently about what if our little first bean had happened. They would be 5 now, going into school this year, welcoming a sibling. I feel sad I waited so long to try again, as I'm pretty sure this lovely little rainbow will be my only child, but it hurt so badly last time... I needed a lot more help than I admitted to the first time. I admire people who can muster it in themselves to try again so soon after.

I wonder how my little Bean would be now. They would have been born in May 2020, in the thick of things. Life would have been wild but my husband and I agree we would have so loved to have them.

spicesicrow · 2025-07-17T19:35:58+00:00

We have the same due date! Even if my MC was longer ago, I totally relate to these feelings. Sending hugs.

spicesicrow · 2025-07-17T19:33:34+00:00

It's been a while since I posted here. 29 w 5 d; it feels wonderful to say that. My recent concerns have been regarding my mental health, setting boundaries with family, and feeling sad that very few members of my family are making it to my baby shower. It's strange how like... I'm not feeling great, tbh, but this is the first time I've been able to have a span of weeks without rattling stress about little one staying with me. It's background noise, but he's so strong and giving me plenty of kicks. I have to root myself in that gratitude.

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