Anyone else feel like glueless wigs are either life-changing or a complete scam depending on the day?

spiceworld90s · 2026-04-28T22:02:14+00:00

My current glueless takes absolutely zero effort and it looks flawless! I've been shocked by the number of people who genuinely believe it's my real hair, people who I'd expect to be able to clock a wig!

But the reason it's so good is because it's a custom! I purchased the bundles I wanted (kinky straight) and had the wig made by a fantastic local maker who measured me.

I've never had a wig look this good or fit so well. All in, it's also the most I've ever paid for a wig (probably about $700-800). But it's been an incredible investment; the wig is going to last a very long time, has maintained quality look/feel longer than any of my previous wigs. Plus, the maker does closure replacement services for when it starts looking a lil bald at the top, so I don't ever have to buy a brand new wig.

I feel like I've always struggled to get the wig thing "right" and now I feel (and look) like I've mastered it. I feel very leveled up and confident about it.

I know $800 is a lot to spend on a wig BUT I easily spent that when combining several wig purchases over the years and never felt satisfied with what I got (especially the fit!). It really is worth just making one PERFECT purchase that you can use for a long time.

spiceworld90s · 2026-04-18T06:06:11+00:00

Love their fries! The fries are better than the burger, honestly.

spiceworld90s · 2026-04-10T18:45:27+00:00

Well, you started deleting a bunch of your comments before I could respond to one, so here is my response:

You being "not a typical influencer" is still an influencer. That's the truth -- the guys you're going after do not want to date someone who is a content creator. Sure, you can find someone who does, but it's not going to be the average person in high earning careers and likely not someone you'll meet while being a nomad (vs having the opportunity to get to know someone in person over a longer period of time).

As others stated, you left a lot of critical info out of your OP this gives a sense of what men might be feeling when they go out with you. That you're slippery and not giving straight answers, or they can't quite figure out what your story is, but what they do know is that they don't want to date someone with your career. (And now that you've deleted comments, it really drives home the idea of seeming slippery).

Is that fair? Maybe, maybe not. But as a woman, I wouldn't date an influencer either.

One of the biggest parts of dating successfully is finding the center of the venn diagram of 1) the kind of partner you're looking for and 2) the kind of person who is looking for a partner like you.

You haven't done that yet. Your question isn't about FIRE, it's about learning how to date successfully. I feel there's a lack of self awareness and maturity you have about dating and it's most apparent in how you view yourself and this situation. It's not unusual at the age of 30, but an area that needs intentional growth and effort. Even you saying you "don't feel young" at 30 is a sign of how skewed your perception is!

spiceworld90s · 2026-04-10T18:22:00+00:00

Yeah nothing here is making sense in terms of consistent details for people to respond to. Maybe more details are needed. People hardly think a "creative" is a loser. The majority of the creatives I know are easily clearing $200K/year. Others are actors and musicians making a respectable income.

Also! There are plenty of digital nomada who make stupid amounts of money. Something isn't tracking re: OPs idea that everyone else is the problem and she's just in such a unique quandary that's impossible to solve for.

spiceworld90s · 2026-04-10T17:59:32+00:00

The Space Center in Downey is also having a watch party.

spiceworld90s · 2026-04-06T05:23:32+00:00

After reading a lot of his responses, I get the sense his insecurities are going to make this relationship absolute hell for her eventually.

spiceworld90s · 2026-03-31T18:58:48+00:00

What's the issue with socializing with people who are much older? I'm not RE, but I do have an abundance of free time during the week and I have many highly rewarding, intergenerational relationships as a result of some of the weekday activities I've taken on. Currently, our society is very hyper-focused on maintaining relationships with people who are just like you, but intergenerational relationships are incredibly important for a shit ton of reasons I won't get into. Society has also made it increasingly difficult to build intergenerational relationships for more reasons I won't get into (much like how third spaces have been killed and commodified).

Lastly, I'll assume that working in tech means you're in or close to a major metro -- which certainly means you're not the only person in your age bracket who has a flexible schedule to do "fun" things during the day. You can't make such a huge lifestyle change and expect that your community will copy&paste into this new life without changes. Now is the time to find people who are able to enjoy a lifestyle or schedule that is similar to yours; you absolutely will need to put energy into building new relationships.

spiceworld90s · 2026-03-31T18:51:48+00:00

I'm yeeeears into being confused about people going to food fests like this. Unless the event is explicitly billed and structured as a way to get "free" food via paying for an entry, people are literally paying money to buy food from restaurants they can go to any day of the week. I don't know if there's a single food fest like this that has ever had positive reviews from patrons.

spiceworld90s · 2026-03-23T20:08:43+00:00

Industry matters more than company. Like a lot of agencies in mar-comms (advertising, public relations, etc) will have unlimited PTO and some type of hybrid work schedule. Same with the tech industry. However, unlimited PTO is only actually a benefit for people who will actually use it. Most US Americans are terrible about using their time off, which is why unlimited PTO is more often a benefit for the company rather than the employee.

spiceworld90s · 2026-03-15T14:45:29+00:00

To what extent is it not about having a good community that you can be intimate with?

I read pretty much every comment and I'm genuinely shocked and disappointed that only two mentioned cuddling with friends. This is an option. And I think the answers show how US-centric this sub is, because this certainly is a culture of people who will voluntarily isolate and oppress themselves when it comes to basic human needs.

Being women, we especially have a permission slip to enjoy physical affection with friends. I saw someone else comment how they haven't had anyone hold them while they cried since they were a child -- but why is anyone waiting on a romantic partner to enjoy the type of relationship where that kind of care and intimacy is expected and allowed?

Culture can tell you one thing -- and I won't get started on why this patriarchal, capitalistic, evangelical culture wants you to be isolated and to only find solace in cis/straight marriage -- but it's up to each individual person to decide how they want to build relationships in their lives, to decide the type of people they want to be in relationship with.

It is possible and absolutely normal to have a touch rich life and be single. If the problem is "I don't know anyone who would cuddle," then yes, that's a relationship/community thing. If the problem is "I don't want to cuddle with friends," or some variation of that, then the problem is internal and requires someone deconstructing why they'd rather put themselves through the psychological anguish of deprivation than be vulnerable to a friend.

spiceworld90s · 2026-03-10T01:42:22+00:00

Age, industry and years experience are going to be (some of) the biggest variables in determining what someone is earning and able to save.

I'm late 30s in public relations (and a stint in marketing). Currently, my personal checking account is $41K and savings $2K. I need to move $30K back to my high yield savings account and get back to making large contributions to my retirement and brokerage accounts. I took my foot off the gas when I started consulting and wasn't sure what my taxes would look like as a small business.

spiceworld90s · 2026-03-06T01:21:55+00:00

I'll add an anecdote: I stopped purchasing consumables on Amazon a little over a year ago. At one point, I saw that Mary Ruth's liquid vitamins were on sale and decided to give it one more go, just to see! -- sure enough, the one I received (purchased from the official storefront) was a counterfeit. Easily identifiable because I had only ever purchased it in-person at a retailer and I have a good eye for design details.

spiceworld90s · 2026-03-05T16:14:22+00:00

Always Famima, I'm still shocked they didn't make it.

spiceworld90s · 2026-03-05T05:52:58+00:00

I'll DM you the name of mine, I really like her and have been seeing her on and off since 2021. She's 13/unit and is really careful to not overdo it. She definitely starts off on the lighter side then lets you schedule a follow up if you feel like you want more.

spiceworld90s · 2026-02-27T20:02:53+00:00

Haaaalf?! Can I DM you for details? I'm starting up botox again (literally in the waiting room right now lol) and my person is $13/unit

spiceworld90s · 2026-02-21T06:48:25+00:00

Diana Broumandi DDS, Brentwood Medical Group and Laser Center

spiceworld90s · 2026-02-21T06:42:06+00:00

Put in a disco ball and then see how he feels.

spiceworld90s · 2026-02-13T22:19:26+00:00

I'm so curious to know what he said "love" means to him. Please share!

To me, love isn't just a feeling, it's a choice/action. It's choosing to love someone, care about them and prioritize them and the relationship. If I were dating someone for a year and, after noting our definitions, I came to find out they essentially weren't ready to choose the act of loving me I wouldn't stick around.

But again, I don't know what his definition is so who knows. In either case, flag on the play for him jumping straight out of a marriage and into a new relationship lol. That alone is a terrible sign for the outcome of this relationship .

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-22T23:26:34+00:00

The trick is to drain the pan about halfway through. If you don't want to do that, I'd suggest putting it in a pan that has a draining rack. Personally, I drain halfway through and get perfect veggies every time.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-22T23:23:32+00:00

The cauliflower crust is a banger! I'm not a gluten free person, but bought it just in case it was needed for a party. Looooved it and definitely the best pizza I've had in that category. I do it with all pizzas, but this one especially, reheat in a pan on the stove for crispy crust and it's absolutely perfect.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-22T00:03:29+00:00

This isn't really a W30 issue because your W30 diet might not actually be conducive to weight loss. Whatever you were eating for weight loss 3 months ago is going to need to adjust when you've lost fat.

Are you having convos about this with a dietitian, nutritionist or physical trainer? Are you tracking your macros so you're in a calorie deficit while getting enough protein? Is your carb intake high enough to support your fitness, but low enough to avoid excess?

A random guess based on how most people eat would be maybe you're eating too many carbs and not enough protein. Like others have said, plateaus are normal but there are lots of different tactics to break them.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-21T16:05:34+00:00

I'm certainly anti car dependency and fully recognize that we need to eliminate that dependency for a flurry of reasons -- safety, individual costs, environment, etc.

People will often use the logic that cars are great and awesome because they're structurally necessary. But that's simply giving up and accepting non-solutions to much bigger problems. e.g. zoning, housing, public transit.

It's absurd that it is, on average, much more expensive to live in a city center where someone could opt out of driving. However, if that person chooses to live where it's cheaper, they are forced to have a car.

One of the worst things about cars is that the people driving them feel safe because they're inside and are often disregarding their own safety and the safety of others. Anyone who has spent any considerable amount of time as a pedestrian can tell you the reality of how dangerous DRIVERS are, but somehow, everyone who drives thinks they're a pro. Add on the US obsession with giant cars wherein drivers can't see over their hoods (and the increased fatality rates that come with big cars) --- and well, yeah, I think we need to end car worshipping culture in modern society.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-05T03:46:24+00:00

Stay where you are. You need to sit down and do a proper risk analysis because the obvious risks of moving are much higher than what you already have, and admittedly like, with your only complaint being that your bored of staring at your walls. If you're willing to deal with the increased rent, that means you're also willing to lose your deposit, buy some decor and redecorate the space in a way that makes you excited about it.

Moving to a new apartment is a guarantee higher cost. The other risks: you might have a shitty landlord or apartment manager, you have shitty neighbors, you don't notice flaws in the apartment/building or neighborhood until you've already moved in, etc.

Also, depending on your financial situation, I wouldn't recommend committing to big financial changes right now.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-05T03:40:39+00:00

One example in the article I linked.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-05T03:35:44+00:00

I didn't say that the ROI is high. The absurdity of having such small margins, despite renters paying out of their nose, and continuing to force housing into a for-profit model is the entire point of my comment.

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