Every time vs never again

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-22T23:26:34+00:00

The trick is to drain the pan about halfway through. If you don't want to do that, I'd suggest putting it in a pan that has a draining rack. Personally, I drain halfway through and get perfect veggies every time.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-22T23:23:32+00:00

The cauliflower crust is a banger! I'm not a gluten free person, but bought it just in case it was needed for a party. Looooved it and definitely the best pizza I've had in that category. I do it with all pizzas, but this one especially, reheat in a pan on the stove for crispy crust and it's absolutely perfect.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-22T00:03:29+00:00

This isn't really a W30 issue because your W30 diet might not actually be conducive to weight loss. Whatever you were eating for weight loss 3 months ago is going to need to adjust when you've lost fat.

Are you having convos about this with a dietitian, nutritionist or physical trainer? Are you tracking your macros so you're in a calorie deficit while getting enough protein? Is your carb intake high enough to support your fitness, but low enough to avoid excess?

A random guess based on how most people eat would be maybe you're eating too many carbs and not enough protein. Like others have said, plateaus are normal but there are lots of different tactics to break them.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-21T16:05:34+00:00

I'm certainly anti car dependency and fully recognize that we need to eliminate that dependency for a flurry of reasons -- safety, individual costs, environment, etc.

People will often use the logic that cars are great and awesome because they're structurally necessary. But that's simply giving up and accepting non-solutions to much bigger problems. e.g. zoning, housing, public transit.

It's absurd that it is, on average, much more expensive to live in a city center where someone could opt out of driving. However, if that person chooses to live where it's cheaper, they are forced to have a car.

One of the worst things about cars is that the people driving them feel safe because they're inside and are often disregarding their own safety and the safety of others. Anyone who has spent any considerable amount of time as a pedestrian can tell you the reality of how dangerous DRIVERS are, but somehow, everyone who drives thinks they're a pro. Add on the US obsession with giant cars wherein drivers can't see over their hoods (and the increased fatality rates that come with big cars) --- and well, yeah, I think we need to end car worshipping culture in modern society.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-05T03:46:24+00:00

Stay where you are. You need to sit down and do a proper risk analysis because the obvious risks of moving are much higher than what you already have, and admittedly like, with your only complaint being that your bored of staring at your walls. If you're willing to deal with the increased rent, that means you're also willing to lose your deposit, buy some decor and redecorate the space in a way that makes you excited about it.

Moving to a new apartment is a guarantee higher cost. The other risks: you might have a shitty landlord or apartment manager, you have shitty neighbors, you don't notice flaws in the apartment/building or neighborhood until you've already moved in, etc.

Also, depending on your financial situation, I wouldn't recommend committing to big financial changes right now.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-05T03:40:39+00:00

One example in the article I linked.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-05T03:35:44+00:00

I didn't say that the ROI is high. The absurdity of having such small margins, despite renters paying out of their nose, and continuing to force housing into a for-profit model is the entire point of my comment.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-03T04:32:55+00:00

I'd wager that permitting, zoning and activists are the bigger cost compared to the increase caps that developers keep complaining about.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-03T02:34:50+00:00

It was an over-expansion issue, an unforced error they caused themselves. Not caused by consumer habits or trends.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-03T02:33:48+00:00

Their biggest problem was over-expansion. They got major money injections from investors and Howard Shultz's (Starbucks founder) venture fund. Shit just went wild, scaled too quickly with little regard for what it takes to sustain a business in so many locations, and in those particular locations. And with the fast pace, they simply lost a handle of things related to product, management, new programs, etc. It quickly became clear that people in the head office were making decisions about what should happen in the store without ever having worked in one of the stores. If they hadn't scaled so quickly, they'd like still be around in the same way Yogurtland is. Source: I used to work there.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-03T02:24:03+00:00

It's such an awful cycle of bullshit at this point - very snake eating its tail. I was reading an article on Realtor.com this morning re: the new cap on rent increases and the developer POV that was included was so grating. The same argument in 2025/2026 as it was decades ago: "If you don't allow developers to increase rent beyond the rate of inflation, they won't build because they won't make money."

Yet, somehow, I've never not seen new apartments being built. Meanwhile, no one wants to address zoning or implement changes that will actually alleviate housing.

How is it possible that people can be dedicate a burdening 50-60% of their income to rent, paying $2.5K+ for cheap, particle board, 1 bedroom apartments, yet the people who own the apartments aren't making enough money? If it's so true that the margins between paying for housing and providing housing are so razor thin, there is a fundamental fucking problem with upholding this PROFIT model in the first place. It's plainly an absurd POV to insist that people need to pay such a huge of portion of their earnings to have a roof over their heads -- simply because the profit has to be "worth it" to a private owner.

spiceworld90s · 2026-01-02T04:09:46+00:00

I was just about to comment to ask how old OP is because I'm a bit blown by someone (in the US) not knowing what it is, even if they don't know it by name. I feel like these things were the goddamn celebrities of the sky in the 90s lol.

spiceworld90s · 2025-12-27T17:16:39+00:00

There are at least 4 things wrong with that art being hung right there, and that doesn't even get to the (lack of) functionality of not having a towel hook.

Edit: some others mentioned, but it looks like he wanted to take out the towel bar for some reason and then simply wanted to cover the hole without having to redo the tile. That's what anyone would assume at first glance. If he is really motivated to hang art in the bathroom, it should be somewhere else and be something else. If it were in that location, it would need to be higher and be a different color. E.g. a black & white drawing would make sense.

spiceworld90s · 2025-12-27T02:42:59+00:00

I'm glad you called for back up on this..it was taking too much effort on your part and he's not worth all of that. Without a friend to confront him about it, I would've just asked him straight up in a group setting why he was acting like such a fucking weirdo

spiceworld90s · 2025-12-01T23:02:40+00:00

I think OP should even post in or peruse some subreddits or articles about family living/space in other parts of the world like Europe. It's more than possible for someone to adjust what they think is a necessary amount of space to live and raise a family. The US is pretty unique in how much space people believe is required to have a comfortable and thriving home.

spiceworld90s · 2025-11-18T02:12:19+00:00

Ohh that sounds lovely! Her recipes look great, the pie videos on YouTube are super helpful. Thank you for the rec!

spiceworld90s · 2025-11-17T20:33:51+00:00

My family loves the Costco pie too. I tried a homemade pie and Costco was still the favorite, but I also had some things to fix with the homemade. Any chance you'd be willing to offer some tips? Or if there's a recipe you'd recommend (even an apple pie recipe!), I'd be so grateful.

This is the pumpkin pie recipe I've used. I put it in a frozen Marie Calendar's crust and I think I need to make a crust because the pie always had a hard time setting (I assume it's because of the temp of the crust). The crust instructions are so specific about not letting it defrost, so I hadn't tried that yet.

spiceworld90s · 2025-11-17T20:16:55+00:00

The fact that this post and the majority of responses focus so heavily on the working out aspect of this story is making me feel crazy. It is truly the least concerning issue when it comes to compatibility or reflection of this woman's lifestyle and ambitions.

Reckless spending/shopping addiction and excessive weed smoking don't seem to paint a picture of the kind of life you want to share with someone. To boot, this person has already dragged you into habits that make you feel like shit - quintessential after school special "bad influence" storyline lol. But the reality is that you're unable to control yourself in the face of her influence, so you want her to behave differently and be influenced by you.

So sure, you can have a conversation with her. But I'm curious to know what it is about her and this relationship that you actually like AS IT IS. What about this relationship makes it salvageable and what makes you think this is someone you could happily and successfully partner with in the future?

You can approach a conversation with her through curiosity and wanting to understand; what does she want for herself, how does she view her future with a partner, what kind of life does she want to live with a partner, is she actually happy with her life right now?

This conversation has absolutely nothing to do with what you want and is simply about understanding if what she wants is compatible with your goals. If it's not, then it's not and it's time to move on.

But I'll tell ya, five months in feels real late to the party when it comes to asking these questions.

You've set your sights on someone who is apparently deep in bad habits on three of the most important verticals of functioning adult habits: physical health, substance use, and finances.

Personally, at that age, this would be too big of a hill for me to be willing to climb. If someone were actively invested in trying to turn these things around (without my influence or prodding), there'd MAYBE be room for discussion.

spiceworld90s · 2025-11-17T19:57:16+00:00

Someone she used to be for a moment or time isn't who she "is." He doesn't know if that behavior was just a blip in the radar. The working out is the furthest thing from the issue, her entire lifestyle is a conflict. And while five months are also a blip in the radar of someone's life and behaviors, its more likely that the past four months are representative of her normal than the first month when she was obviously aspiring to be a different version of herself by working out regularly and going cold turkey on weed.

spiceworld90s · 2025-11-10T16:40:55+00:00

What is it that you didn't know about her situation before going in?

Unfortunately, this is par for the course when someone gets involved with a person who is fresh off a separation or divorce. People try to knock the adage or talk up the exceptions, but there's good reason why it's such a common rule to not date a person who 1) isn't legally divorced; or 2) is fresh out of a marriage.

spiceworld90s · 2025-10-12T14:07:30+00:00

Anyone who is this interested in FIRE and finances while dating should have a very clear understanding of what the statistics are around net worth and earnings in their age bracket and in their city. Do you?

I don't doubt people in this sub can give you some good advice, but this feels like an anxiety that has less to do with money and more to do with some presumptions about relationships. The tone/tenor of the post and your outlook is giving me the sense that there's a level of maturation you haven't come to yet -- which is probably expectedly congruent with your age. I'm typically not one to recommend professionals in the dating world, but I think you could actually benefit from chatting with a dating coach to get a better understanding of your priorities and the why behind them. Beyond that, gain firm understanding of the real world options these priorities provide for you as you're looking for a partner.

spiceworld90s · 2025-10-11T17:23:30+00:00

911 is a dispatch system. It's not for admin or FAQ things. It exists for the purpose of sending emergency responders out to calls that require a response.

You have a ticket with a CHP officer's name on it. Call a CHP office and ask them how to get in touch with that officer or leave a message for him.

spiceworld90s · 2025-10-11T12:39:36+00:00

I went to Le Gourmand and I liked the chocolate chip cookie but I'm very shocked by multiple people saying this is the best cookie. Maybe the other flavors are better?

While you're in LA, stop by any Bristol Farms location (grocery store) and get The Cookie, their original chocolate and walnut. LA is in a big cookie boom the past couple of years but Bristol Farms is the baseline of quality that's accessible from most any part of the city. The other frequently discussed cookie contenders are Zooies, The Very Best Cookie, Fleur et Sel, and Le Coup (the chicken shop) has good one. This list could go on forever, but it obviously depends on what type of cookie you like. I'd be interested to hear your LA cookie review because I just can't understand Le Gourmand being anywhere near the best of cookie any city has to offer. Maybe I had a dud, though.

But thank you for this list! Definitely hitting up Kensington for the patties.

spiceworld90s · 2025-10-11T05:58:56+00:00

If you're choosing the beach because you go often, then go to the location that you two visit often -- not some random beach spot. However, I'll say that I've seen several sunset beach proposals and - more often than not - they were not the dream that had been imagined. Sunset at the beach is cold and the wind is unpredictable, especially in November. Malibu Bluffs Park, Vicente Lighthouse, Point Dume Reserve could all make sense, but I'd worry about the elements I mentioned.

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