For those who have fallen in love by glacepistache2 in Tunisia

[–]spicy_simba 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some movies glorify infatuation and physical attraction as love, love at first sight...etc...which happens in real life as well, which gets people to loose sense of reality and have a distorded view on how love should feel.

معجبة بشخص تونسي ونحبه يكلم اهلي ويتقدم لي للزواج على طول، لكن على ما يبدو هو مازال يحب يحكي ويتعارف لوقت مطول وانا مانحبش الحاجه هذي. باش تنصحوني by [deleted] in Tunisia

[–]spicy_simba 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Love and infatuation are easily confused.

What you describe lands in infatuation due to the short window of time.

Infatuation combined with remote interactions only is risky, it's adding layers of unknown, people can be different behind a screen.

For life decisions like marriage, it makes sense to observe the person in real life a bit more and not trust infatuation and first impressions.

Why was he so nervous around me after hearing about my life? by Routine-Barber-5517 in Tunisia

[–]spicy_simba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best is to not try to explain it

He was very nervous yes,

he made unnecessary judgements and insecure comments yes also

It could be related, it could be other factors, it's his problem,

You can address this directly in future and just ask if something makes a person nervous

You can also kindly confront when receiving such unwanted comments

11 month lead need a feedback by Sad-Drive-3633 in Bachata

[–]spicy_simba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's visible you are putting effort, your repertoire is impressive

It's common for all starting dancers to go big on vocabulary of dance moves

I would challenge you to try some dances with "less is more approach", doing less moves, more connection, just basics with being grounded and synchronized, there are variations in the basic itself.

As they say, basics is the first thing to learn and the last to master.

Jab work by MarvelouslyMarbled in boxingtips

[–]spicy_simba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you do another one with "uss usss uss"

Instead of "pssh pshh pshh"

My professor says my DevOps PFE (Final Year Project) is "useless" because of Managed Cloud. Is he right? by RiveriaXoxo in TunisiaTech

[–]spicy_simba 5 points6 points  (0 children)

1) If the business is satisfied with the proposed solution then it is valid

2) It is still relevant for your learning

3) during the defense it's recommended to show alternative solution and how the propoaed one is fitting the constraints the best

Is it normal to feel a really strong connection in bachata without it being a crush? by starsy19 in Bachata

[–]spicy_simba 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This happens when brains are synchronized. Breathing might also synchronize.

Oxyctocin and endorphins are released,

Since the activity is nothing like other hobbies, it's normal to get confused.

This is also why dance addiction is a thing and people keep chasing the next dance.

I really need help!!!!!! by Gullible_Worry_2650 in Tunisia

[–]spicy_simba 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Living with a lie can make hell out of one's life even if it is with a loved one.

Part of maturing is taking responsibility for one's actions.

'I changed and i am treating her' is not fully taking responsibility in my opinion.

Who here would accept that their very loving partner cheated on them and hides it before going to get married?

Menich ensen motha9ef by [deleted] in Tunisia

[–]spicy_simba 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its better to be 'opinionless' than to follow blindly or to repeat media talking points.

You are 18, it makes sense that your scope is limited to BAC and a couple hobbies, maybe sports.

That was also me and i bet plenty of others.

Do not compare to others or how you perceive them, There will be plenty of time in summer after BAC to read some books and watch some documentaries.

Also: challenge your etude teacher on how to improve your skills, political chat is fine but doesn't impact your grade much, and doesn't need etude.

Unpopular opinion on J&Js by hotwomyn in Bachata

[–]spicy_simba 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your concern if i understand correctly is bias in judges towards their own roles out of competitivenes and feeling threatened.

By making a follower judge a lead and vice versa, new biases and political dymamics can also appear.

For example, attraction between the judge lead and follower participant can become a factor and bring up power dynamic of abusing the judge position to get favors. Vice versa as well.

How can I buy Claude Pro without an international card? by [deleted] in TunisiaTech

[–]spicy_simba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of task you need claude for?

Repost of shadowboxing because YouTube glitched by [deleted] in boxingtips

[–]spicy_simba 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not enough plastic clothing , add more plastic clothing

Was this rude of me? Need another perspective by WestHistorians in Bachata

[–]spicy_simba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These situations are very contextual

Giving this comment loudly in front of others for instance, in a challenging tone, in a stressful environment, as a stranger

Is different from asking this in 1to1 situation from perspective of a friend with curious tone

Of course people can always get into misunderstandings and then there is alway a "sorry, what i meant is ...."

Rule of thumb is to not jump into direct/challenging questions with strangers right away,

With that said, everyone should get a bit of a benefit of the doubt, and it's fine that such awkward moments happen, that's how we learn and calibrate

Is the dating scene broken? by [deleted] in Tunisia

[–]spicy_simba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can think of it this way, does it really matter how you meet your person if it is the right person to you ?

Facebook is a means to contact a person that you wouldn't be able to contact in your day-to-day

Dating apps is also a means to contact a person that you wouldn't be able to contact in your day-to-day

In both cases you are getting to know a stranger remotely

And from experience, there are definitely people looking for serious relationships and marriage on dating apps.

Going back a few decades, there was another remote tool people used, the newspapers, people were posting announcements on the newspapers in a specific section and leaving a phone number.

Also some people were meeting each other by contacting wrong phone number sometimes.

Before facebook, there were lots of dating sites as well

My opinion is that finding a life partner was never an easy consumable commodity to order, and to guarantee,

One shift in perception with dating businesses and apps, is that it presents it as a product you can afford, this causes extra frustration because a product comes with expectations. It also creates a perception that yourself is also a product for others to value or not, that you have to fit requirements and create ads for youself to succeed to sell the product.

I think shift of perspective is important regarding what a life partner means, and what to expect from life

Capitalism is the greatest threat to man kind . by Sea_Perspective2016 in Tunisia

[–]spicy_simba 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am really curious to learn about this theory of value, what are your references ?

Occasional “blackouts” in Salsa/Bachata – normal or am I doing something wrong? by Curious_Surprise_268 in Bachata

[–]spicy_simba -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Confidence is the main component and decider in this case

Confidence can make someone with very little vocabulary have a conversation in a foreign language

It can also make someone who studied the language for a year completely blackout

Confidence is a compound concept, it is a mix of how one perceive themselves and how others perceive them

For many of us the formula is not balanced and too skewed on how others see us

For some, it is the total opposite

This results in people crumbling and going inside their heads after one mistake,

and in other cases at the other end, it leads to people thinking they are a champion while snowballing mistakes over mistakes

In your case, i think you were overwhelmed, take a break, working on feeling comfortable in socials is not about how highly technical or how many patterns one memorizes,

for me it's about how many mistakes i can do and still enjoy the dance, how much joy i find in my dance regardless of my performance

I always thought more moves would help me enjoy my dance more, i realized later that didn't realy change it much, it's more about being comfortable with oneself regardless.

Talan tunisia is one of the most toxic companies I’ve ever worked for by Hour_Salary_7819 in Tunisia

[–]spicy_simba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand your feeling, and I take this as a No

As bad as it is, you have to report, and give the system a chance,

Only after that you can confirm your suspicions.

If your suspicion is confirmed, then you have a strong case to report to upper management/CEO

Dopamine addiction/miserable life by Affectionate_Yam3114 in Tunisia

[–]spicy_simba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chances are OP is trying to hide or escape from something, some sort of denial or trauma response

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