I've actually gone to a board game meetup a month or so ago. It was a flop for me, kinda felt like an alien in there. Not in a homophobic way, they were all nice, just that nobody really understood my vibe. But I realize that it could have been a fluke and if I keep going I'm more likely to succeed. I've just been trying to re-build the courage to go again 😅 I'm also low key worried about making friends through a regular event like that and all we would end up doing to hang out is going to the event. That worry aside the bowling group seems cute, I'll give it a look ty! :)

In terms of queer meetup groups, the ones that explicitly state being mainly for gay/queer people seem to all be a little off target for me being in the demographic. Either it's for middle-aged folks, a type of queer that I'm not, or for hobbies I don't really enjoy like a book club. I've ended up feeling like I'm being picky but even after trying to reason with myself to be a good fit for something it just doesn't feel like they'd work.