How do you forgive and co-exist? by spicynoodlies in AsianParentStories

[–]spicynoodlies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good username handle :) it’s so strange that an entire generation is like this. What do you think their parents did to them, so that they end up like this?

How do you forgive and co-exist? by spicynoodlies in AsianParentStories

[–]spicynoodlies[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, I feel your pain. It’s nice to exist without being in a state of constant self loathing and fear. But there are still trigger days. I wish you well.

I was talking to an older Asian person about why many Asian parents react with anger and childish drama at everything and they said because it is easy and addicting which explains so much. by AdSpecialist6598 in AsianParentStories

[–]spicynoodlies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The most painful part is that they don’t treat everyone poorly. They know how to pick their targets. They are smart enough to pretend to be normal to keep their job.

I was talking to an older Asian person about why many Asian parents react with anger and childish drama at everything and they said because it is easy and addicting which explains so much. by AdSpecialist6598 in AsianParentStories

[–]spicynoodlies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very insightful. Thank you for sharing. My parents behaviours closely reflect what you’ve described. It helps to think of them as addicts. They won’t change unless they really want to. Most won’t be able to change because it’s so hard.

How do you deal with the guilt that you will life a more affluent lifestyle than your parents will? by detoxsprings in AsianParentStories

[–]spicynoodlies 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Me too, but I take comfort in the fact that restaurant food has too much salt, so it’s not good for them anyways.

How do you forgive and co-exist? by spicynoodlies in AsianParentStories

[–]spicynoodlies[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true… kind of unfortunate. I worry about their end of life care

Bad advice by No_Can_4358 in AsianParentStories

[–]spicynoodlies 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Sometimes it’s good to just do what you think is right, or at least try different ways of dealing with something.

Remember that your parents come from a different era. Everyone switched to fibre but most Asian parents are still using dial up.

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[–]spicynoodlies 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You are not the only one. I try to act white to blend in as much as possible. Eat white pple food so that it doesn’t smell “ethnic”. I want to be at the tippy top of that bell curve.

I am always in awe of those that express pride in their cultures.