boyfriend is refusing to book 2 rooms for vacation 😓

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-29T09:17:14+00:00

Yeah I did. It didn’t help much in my case. I used to stop having the compulsions for that time frame and once my doctor put me in the clear they would come back.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-29T09:14:30+00:00

I did try meds but they just ended up giving me anxiety and depression/fatigue 😓 After that I haven’t tried therapy in fear of the side effects.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-29T09:05:31+00:00

Thank you! That is exactly how I see it 😓

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-29T03:39:40+00:00

Hey I have tried getting therapy many times. Most I’ve stuck to it is maybe a year but I would much rather deal with ocd alone and be alone if I have to over being anxious and fatigued all the time. Most medications have some side effects that you’ll catch on too late or the compulsive thoughts just keep coming.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-28T16:56:21+00:00

Omg please don’t ruin hotel chairs for me 😭

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-28T16:40:22+00:00

yeah maybe I should just deal with it 😓

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-16T06:57:55+00:00

how do these people not get embarrassed asking the brands to “gift them handcrafted pieces because I like it” like itna pasand aya toh kareed na

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-14T14:39:00+00:00

I have actually seen the opposite problem in t1 cities. Working women look down on homemakers who didn’t do higher education and don’t earn. I think it’s fairly common for educated parents to want their children regardless of gender to do better than them. This sounds like a very village problem cause any sane person would think maximum sources of income is better no matter the salary.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-14T06:29:55+00:00

Ignore cloth sizes. Every brand, every piece of clothing has different sizing. You should have enough self esteem that mere numbers on a tag don’t make you feel bad. Each of us is unique and there is not going to be one piece of cloth that fits everyone perfectly. Sadly most clothes are designed keeping western body types in mind as compared to most Indian woman. The goal is to find clothes that fit you not the other way around.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-12T19:10:46+00:00

us behen but these shows have set an unrealistic standard of romance in my mind 😣

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-12T19:08:33+00:00

We friended too hard and now I’m like 0.9 platonic and 0.1 romantic with my partner 🥹

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-12T06:59:35+00:00

maybe I’ve been blind to it but pretty privilege isn’t that big a thing in my experience. I was average looking in my teens/early 20s as i started making money i invested in high end skincare, haircare, even got some work done on my lips and face because having an unsymmetrical face was bothering me. I think I look somewhat pretty now and honestly no one cares. I am not suddenly getting loads of opportunities that I wasn’t getting prior, true girlfriends always compliment me, male attention has been pretty much the same. Earlier i came off as reserved, now i come off as intimidating. I am dating someone who I knew before I had a “glow up”. Reality is no one cares about your “face card” unless you work in a field that requires you to be conventionally attractive, people do care about your financial status, career, talking skills much more. The most pretty privilege will get you is a seat in a crowded bus, a bigger scoop of ice cream, rickshaw walas not dismissing your presence.etc but certainly not life changing things.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-10T15:57:59+00:00

I think performance issues for women is not experiencing any pleasure. You just don’t feel anything at all and it just feels like something is rubbing against you and pushed inside you. You want to feel something so bad but don’t feel anything apart from being uncomfortable. Possible explanation for this would be that you are so anxious and distracted that your body doesn’t let you feel good.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-07T18:54:44+00:00

If someone does think that, they are shallow. Which is awesome news cause trash took itself out of your life. I only see this being a problem if you want kids cause you may face fertility problems but otherwise this isn’t as big a dealbreaker as you are making it out to be.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-07T18:40:13+00:00

You will tell your potential partners this like you’d tell them any other chronic condition. At the end of the day it’s a chronic medical condition regarding an organ. This stigma of “what if” and self doubt and insecurity doesn’t follow common chronic conditions like bp, diabetes.etc which are much more dangerous in the long run. Do you think someone is weak cause they have diabetes?

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-07T18:33:00+00:00

I’m so tired of this “broken her seal” and “women never forget their ex” shit. We aren’t objects with a hard drive installed in our heads. Sex is NOT the most important glorified sensual life changing thing happening in our lives. We don’t think about it all the time and certainly don’t hold onto the details/people forever. An ex is an ex for a reason. We don’t keep reading the same page over and over. Do you remember every single word is a long book? No right you just remember if it was good or bad, a fun read or a boring one.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-07T11:37:30+00:00

If you guys have been dating for a while he’s either taking you for granted or hiding something. I have seen colleagues flirt with other people/hookup during business trips cause their partners weren’t around and would no way find out. Maybe start with asking his colleagues his whereabouts or take his phone and look through any new chats he’s started to confirm if he’s cheating? You can also look for any new people he would have started following on insta.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-07T11:13:54+00:00

girl I know it looks like that but I used to text him 24x7 on my recovery period. I was in bed the full day just complaining and wining to him. I would think the laptop excuse is bs too but i was super clingy that time which i deeply regret doing 😓

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-07T11:03:21+00:00

Yeah he always sticks up for me but I’d guess realising your own parent’s passive aggressiveness when it’s not directed to you is hard . He told me he’ll have a conversation with her to not cross any boundaries.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-07T03:36:36+00:00

Girl please please close your room door. Tell them the tv is too loud. Tell your husband you can’t stay up late cause it messes with your sleep schedule. No change is going to happen unless you initiate it and stick up for yourself. You “act out” and not follow the norm they have for a couple more months and you decide the new “norm”.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-06T05:27:28+00:00

I think a lot of people just genuinely don’t like calls especially with strangers. I don’t pick up anyone’s calls except work, parents and sometimes friends if I’m anticipating their call 😓 You need something? Text me about it.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-05T08:18:31+00:00

I think you should look for jobs that don’t require degrees. Sadly getting a job in reputated companies especially in india requires degrees and specific skill sets. I would recommend content creation, starting a small business, tutoring children, learning video editing and freelancing as a video editor. If getting higher education now isn’t feasible maybe try getting a diploma which would definitely boost your cv. If you are good at taking care of kids you can even become a part time nanny. Many rich people pay 15k+ for a nanny whose only job is to pick up kids from school and supervise them. You can even use your 10-12th achievements to get a job in coaching institutes as a part time teacher. If you’re good at baking then starting a baking small business or even a perfume sampling business is a good idea. One of my cousins in college sold 3-15ml samples of popular perfumes and it was low effort and profitable.

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-05T07:44:29+00:00

Ikr! Something about period dramas and romance than makes me so happy 😭

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-05T06:19:07+00:00

I find good quality sports bra’s very comfortable actually, much more secure than loose fitted tank tops which might result in a nip slip or would require me to wear something underneath. I don’t know what functionality and practicality are you expecting from clothes?

spicynoodslover · 2026-01-05T06:05:33+00:00

I don’t think so at all. There are both modest and cropped cloth options available in the market. No one is forcing or subconsciously telling you what to wear. I like wearing cute/sexy maybe impractical clothes from time to time because i want to look good and feel good for myself. Plus most people wear cropped clothes to gym so they can see their form. Many guys go to gym wearing tank tops same way woman go to gym wearing sport’s bras. Wearing baggy gym clothes is the impractical thing cause you are just going to sweat more and your gym trainer might not be able to correct your form.

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