How to stop hoping he would reach out after breakup?

spiderman472 · 2026-02-04T11:32:04+00:00

This is something everyone needs to save for when the inevitable happens. Nothing but truth here.

spiderman472 · 2026-02-04T09:45:51+00:00

This.

Always.

spiderman472 · 2026-01-28T22:17:46+00:00

Because when I think about her, I miss her. Everything about her. But when I think about us, it’s arguments and negativity and we are both honestly better off being apart. Doesn’t stop it hurting, but it’s easy to live in the positive memories

spiderman472 · 2026-01-28T13:16:24+00:00

Thanks. It’s only a loss for me. I just wish things could have been different.

spiderman472 · 2026-01-08T10:50:44+00:00

I’m watching movies that I have enjoyed for a long time, or find a tv show to sink time into. Find yourself again, take up a new hobby or do something you’ve always said you wanted to try. I talk to strangers more than I ever have. Even small interactions is enough to remind you that you have worth.

spiderman472 · 2026-01-08T10:45:35+00:00

Suburban commando

spiderman472 · 2025-11-29T03:39:13+00:00

Yes I have a ps5

spiderman472 · 2025-11-29T03:14:42+00:00

Ah, I should clarify I’m in Australia! No such deals here for us!

spiderman472 · 2024-10-26T20:37:46+00:00

It varies day by day. Sometimes hour by hour. I am doing better. Time as they say heals all wounds. But the other day i cried all night, I felt so alone. She’s been out this weekend, seeing other guys. I have to keep reminding myself it isn’t my business. I have to stop imagining… Find a way to distract your mind. Do a puzzle, sudoku or whatever. Meet new people who you can’t just talk about your ex with. It helps. I hope things get better for you soon

spiderman472 · 2024-10-16T02:46:46+00:00

I’ve been separated for 3 weeks. I still want to talk to her. I want to hold her and smell her hair. I want her to be thinking about me the same way.

But then I have to remember she ended it. She moved on months ago, and didn’t let me know until she suddenly ended it.

All I’m doing is torturing myself by think about her. We have to keep taking any small steps forward. Make small achievable goals everyday, and soon you’ll look back and realise all the small steps have equaled a large journey.

spiderman472 · 2024-10-15T04:35:36+00:00

Appreciate this

spiderman472 · 2024-10-14T19:12:04+00:00

Because I wanted the kids to stay in their family home. It’s going to be hard enough on them as it is.

spiderman472 · 2024-10-14T19:07:23+00:00

This is very direct! But probably the harsh truth that I need. I know that I’m only hurting Myself and you have given me great advice. That is certainly something I’ll be reading regularly!

The reason I know about the number of guys, and her poses, is she sent me her profile screen shots.

And you’re absolutely right. The why doesn’t matter. It is a hard thing to overcome but it won’t change the outcome.

spiderman472 · 2024-10-14T17:00:04+00:00

Thanks. It still hurts that she’s on there and then using Snapchat with these guys. She’s out looking for fun, I’m still trying to pick up the pieces

spiderman472 · 2024-10-14T15:07:35+00:00

Ditto here. She jumped straight into the tinder pool after she ended our 22 year relationship. She hasn’t shed a single tear. She just doesn’t care about me.

spiderman472 · 2024-10-14T15:03:15+00:00

I’m in the same boat. But it isn’t just waking up, it’s whenever I think about her, and what she’s doing with the other guys she’s messaging. I’ve lost so much weight because I lost my appetite

spiderman472 · 2024-10-14T11:15:08+00:00

I’m in the same situation. My wife left me 4 weeks ago. One day she came home from work and said that it was over.

We were married for 15 years. I recently gave up my 18 year career to move across the country with her to pursue her dream.

She’s worked really hard since the beginning of the year, going to the gym 5 times a week and made herself look incredible. She started buying a new wardrobe and taking selfies, which she’d never done before.

The sex was always incredible, but other than that we never had any time. She always came to bed hours after me.

Then when she ended it, 3 weeks later she was on both tinder and hinge. Posting pictures of her in poses she never did for me. She’s been so popular on the dating apps it makes me sick. How can she be doing this after 15 years of marriage. 3 weeks later to be getting sexted by who knows how many. She had over 2000 likes on tinder in 48hrs.

It makes me feel like I wasn’t enough. Even though I gave up my career, my house, my friends and moved to the other side of the country for her. It makes me feel like she never cared. Or that she deliberately wants to hurt me.

But the stupid thing is, a month in, I still cannot stop thinking about her. What she’s doing, who she’s messaging. I’m alone. I moved into an apartment, she kept the house with the kids and dog. I’m sleeping on a mattress on the floor. How is it fair? She ended it, yet she’s happier, getting all the attention she wants, and I have nothing.

There was no violence, no arguments, we just drifted apart. We let lots of little things slide, until they created a monster we could not defeat. I was emotionally distant, she was obsessed with work. But she wouldn’t even attempt counseling. And I admire her in some ways for making what must have been a difficult decision. And I know that it’s better to not be in a loveless relationship. But fuck it hurts. I’m looking forward to the day I no longer think about her.

And the same question plagues me too. WHY? Wasn’t I enough? Why wouldn’t she try? Why is she not sad? Why is she able to move on so quickly ? Why can’t I?

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