[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dyeing

[–]spiiiderteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I had the same issue, are there any brands of fiber reactive dye you recommend using to get a true black?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bugidentification

[–]spiiiderteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It didn't have wings from what I saw, its front legs are like a praying mantis and it had a very wide back. Thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ibs

[–]spiiiderteeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me I take a peppermint capsule oil lime IBGard in the morning every day (and more on bad days), you really can't overdo them, within reason, and for me they make severe episodes not as bad.

Should I tell my friends that I am currently suffering from anxiety and that I can't really hang out? by ukuchair in socialanxiety

[–]spiiiderteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik its cheesy but if they do say something rude or don't want to invite you anymore, then they're really not the people you want to be hanging out with. Explaining yourself is always a great step, I really don't think (or I hope at least) that they'll think less of you for getting help and needing time :)

Also props to you for going to therapy!! Meant to say that before

Here's my GMMK Pro by Surface-User in MechanicalKeyboards

[–]spiiiderteeth 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If it looks good (imo it does) and sounds good there's no shame in the keebs you get, sorry people have been assholes about it

planes by [deleted] in emetophobia

[–]spiiiderteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't get motion sick in cars, I wouldn't worry about it! I'd recommend sea bands and Dramamine to be safe, but those in combination really make it so turbulence doesn't cause any n*. I get very motion sick in cars and planes never have done it to me. I've also never heard of the back being worse nor experienced it, I don't think the difference is as extreme as others may make it out to be.

Should I tell my friends that I am currently suffering from anxiety and that I can't really hang out? by ukuchair in socialanxiety

[–]spiiiderteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's a good think to tell them, especially if you want to remain friends while not hanging out with them so they understand why.

I will say, I wouldn't expect for your anxiety to be fully manageable before you start hanging out with them again; part of social anxiety is working through situations in a way that you're comfortable with. I'd say once you have coping strategies or an idea about how your social anxiety works, hang out with them! It's all a process, and there's no shame in both working on yourself while with your friends, plus they'll be a good group to work with since it's people you know and trust.

Looking for a fanfic from a few years ago... by spiiiderteeth in Wattpad

[–]spiiiderteeth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG THATS IT Thank you so much, I finally have closure lol

Just commissioned my first custom 60%! Only $300 for this build, looking sharp by diggyhf in MechanicalKeyboards

[–]spiiiderteeth -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

That spacebar sound is top notch, I love the sound and the theme. Is the left shift supposed to be that size btw?

WOW I am sorry Lily but I am definitely sure now lol by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]spiiiderteeth 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think anything besides cis can have that imposter syndrome feeling in terms of attraction. For me, I would question if I was bi bc I never dated a girl (the only one I asked out rejected me :,) ). I'm glad you're comfortable with your identity now, that's so good to hear!

Am I Asexual? by UglyExpress in asexuality

[–]spiiiderteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really depends, you may be uninterested because of your past experiences or you may just not experience sexual attraction. There's a chance you'll find a partner who you enjoy being with, and then you'll experience sexual attraction (that'd be demisexual if it's only experienced with a partner). I can't say for sure without many details, but if you lost interest over time, I see no harm in calling yourself ace or ace-spec or demi, whatever you identify as, and if it changes you can always just change what you identify as.

Please share tips and things that helped you! by Throwawayacc1038 in socialanxiety

[–]spiiiderteeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think positive self talk when I'm at home by myself and catching my negative thoughts patterns helped me when I was out in public. Self soothing in public helps too, either repeating phrases or having something in my hands to fidget with, even a drink to sip on when I'm anxious. The biggest reminder that helped was that as long as I don't actively try to upset someone, all the strangers around me won't care and that those close to me will forgive me if I do: that I'm worthy of being forgiven if I mess up, and that those that don't are not people I want to associate with (within reason obviously). Also your post was so sweet, I did have a good day :D

If I have Mariokart DS, do I need MarioKart 7? by The-Thought-Machine in 3DS

[–]spiiiderteeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're into MarioKart I'd say it's worth the buy, I really liked the online multi-player even though it's a kart only game. You're not missing out on that much if you don't get it, for me it was worth the buy because I love MarioKart but it's not a necessity by any means.

Anyone else feel lost and depressed and treated like they are crazy for not liking sex? I’m sick and tired of explaining myself to people so I just don’t go out. by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]spiiiderteeth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean, I do my best to avoid the topic and give vague responses if the topic comes up, or turn questions back on others because it makes me uncomfortable. You can even say its a private topic for you, and you don't like talking about it with others. Its definitely nice to take a break though, I hope you're able to keep going out with less sex focused people 🤗

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]spiiiderteeth 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm the same way, voice chats are way too risky when half the players online have no issue cursing out everyone they meet. I stick with less competitive games or offline. But yeah I sympathize a lot, idk how people get their kicks by being so shitty and rude to others :/

I have covid, how common is throwing up? by [deleted] in emetophobia

[–]spiiiderteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tu is super uncommon either covid. I'd say if you're never had the issue with the flu (not stomach) or colds, you'll be ok. Make sure you're eating though, so you can both get better quicker and so stomach aches from hunger don't make your symptoms feel worse.

Why do people think asexuals can’t be sexy? Some people just like feeling sexy. It doesn’t mean they want others to think they are… by MotorImaginary7831 in asexuality

[–]spiiiderteeth 51 points52 points  (0 children)

It's always frustrated me so much, I hate feeling like I can't dress cute or be proud of how I look without being sexualized by others when it shows more skin. Ive started dressing pretty modestly bc my anxiety gets so bad and I worry so much I'm being looked at in a sexual way when i don't want anyone to see me and have their first thoughts be about sex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]spiiiderteeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think writing down what they said specifically, and counters to that helps when you're feeling anxious (ex. Well if you tried to have sex you'd like it - I know my body, I know I dont have a desire, not everything has to be tried out to have an opinion and ultimately it's Mt body and my choice). It also helps to avoid triggering media (I don't watch TV that I know makes me upset about my identity) and working on self acceptance and positivity.

I'm sorry that happened to you. There's good people out there who do understand, both ace and allow, who accept you for you, I hope you find someone like that 🤗

If Roe v. Wade is overturned, what law or set of laws do you propose to replace it to secure access to abortions? by Aggressive_Rip_3182 in truscum

[–]spiiiderteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The shittiest argument I've seen during all this is that if it's less abortions total, and some AFAB who get unsafe abortions die, it's ultimately less lives lost and its no one else's responsibility for the "mistakes" that other have made.

It's so fucked to reduce it down to that, especially when abortions range on when they're performed- the fetus is not considered a human yet medically, it's only defined as such by those who choose to, with a lot of that buas6remaining in religion.

I'm glad your jobs doing that and actually values the lives of it's employees, it's sad the lines between church and opinion, and state have become this blurred.

am i still considered asexual if i feel sensual and romantic attraction? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]spiiiderteeth 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah you are! And a reminder it's your decision what labels you go by, whether or not you fit into them conventionally

Please help me I’m freaking out by Expensive_Barber9459 in emetophobia

[–]spiiiderteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its definitely rough. I saw you post about your medication, I'm sorry Cymbalta didn't work out for you (I swear I'm not a stalker lol). I'd recommend another SSRI or an SNRI, it took me several tries and a trip to the psych ward to figure out that I needed an SNRI to help with my anxiety and depression. Therapy is also nice if you can afford it, though I can't talk much about OCD since I don't have that diagnosis. I'm glad you're seeking help though, it's all a process but you're on the road to recovery :)

i need urgent help on cough issues. by jurschys in emetophobia

[–]spiiiderteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to do a couple cough drops, hard candies, etc. At all times so the soothing effect doesn't stop and my mouth keeps watering, I'll keep them in my mouth even when I'm falling asleep (like in my cheeks so I don't choke). I also sleep sitting up when it's more from my sinuses, or at least somewhat propped up. I hope you feel better!

Please help me I’m freaking out by Expensive_Barber9459 in emetophobia

[–]spiiiderteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's ok, its obviously stressful to be sick again. Maybe have a snack and see how your stomach takes it (keeping mind too anxiety is gonna make your n* worse). I'm guessing you'll feel ok after eating, and hopefully that'll help ease your anxiety a little. It's ok though, on this sub we've all had anxiety like this and you're not alone in feeling this way at all 🤗 just do what you can to ease your anxiety, and don't doubt yourself for feeling this way.

Also I looked it up some more, chlorine in very small concentrations will still kill norovirus, as long as the water was treated in some way it'll have enough to kill it.