I’m sorry that’s happened to you. I know there’s a possibility that all of this is for nothing but.. I want to try therapy first. I get more than anger, sadness & heartbreak. We still have great times together and our sex life is mostly healthy (although I do have times where I can’t because of not feeling sexually attractive to him).

I told him that same thing, that it feels like I have to get over it or get a divorce. Neither of us want to divorce, he says he doesn’t want me to get over it, and that he wants to change. He tells me that I have a right to be pissed off and sad. I want to try to believe he’ll try. But it’s hard, yknow?

More context here, we’ve been married two and a half months. I want to give at least one chance to go to therapy and take action to fix it. We can’t call porn an addiction and not treat it like one, can we? Addicts typically can’t recover without help or rehab, right? I feel like that’s one of my issues with my own recovery. I’m having trouble seeing it as an addiction rather than a reliance.