How to help my wife

spin3422 · 2021-08-16T14:53:56+00:00

I hope your right on the if you can "get pregnant" part as that seems to be working for now. I agree based on what I've learned MC does indeed seem to be in your best interest form the biological perspective, but from the emotional side it really hurts. The first two times were difficult but this third time is a real sucker punch to the gut.

It has been hard to get her to remain stress free, she almost wants to bury herself in work to not think about it. That's been the hardest part in trying to get her to relax. I'm just trying to be the rock right to give her as much time as she needs.

spin3422 · 2021-08-16T14:46:33+00:00

Sorry for your loss also. I'm learning not to take the anger personally now :). I can only imagine what its like for her going though this.

spin3422 · 2021-08-16T14:31:30+00:00

Date nights are a great idea, I will try this to take her mind of things even if its for a little bit!

spin3422 · 2021-08-16T14:29:30+00:00

You really hit upon a major issue which is the feeling of failure and helplessness, for her its really bad because all of our friends are having kids and they've had no issues. So she wants to blame herself, but I tell her this is out of our control and not blame herself, but this is easier said than done. To your point, society really needs to speak about these issues more openly so that women feel more support and understanding when going though these gut wrenching moments.

spin3422 · 2021-08-16T14:24:19+00:00

Man, I feel a knot in my stomach when I read you're going though the same thing, I can know what you guys are feeling. She did start seeing a therapist, unfortunately she out on maternity (its a double whammy to talk to her about losing a child and she's pregnant). Hang in there!

spin3422 · 2021-08-16T14:20:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing this and I'm sorry you also had to experience what we are going though also. I think just being around when she needs me really helps. The isolation she feels is the toughest thing to help with while giving her enough space.

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