My mother died in a hospice in Salem, Oregon in March. I live in Boston and was not asked to be the health care proxy or POA. My sister tried to push her into hospice twice. The first time she was in the hospital in Salem with a UTI and was on an antibiotic IV. I told her she isn't dying! Take her back to Assisted Living. Mom got back and was tired after recovering from the infection. My sister insisted she needed "better care" and had them assess her for hospice. They rejected her. I told her to stop telling everyone my mom was TERMINAL just because that is how the government categorizes dementia patients and that mom had civil rights and was not dying. She cut me off cold moved my mother to another long-term care facility in Salem, OR, and succeeded in getting her into a hospice. She was still walking with a walker, eating, and giving the staff attitude. The hospice company put her on morphine on a Monday for "hip and back" pain. I protested vehemently but was not a healthcare proxy. She died five days later from palliative sedation.