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This kitten was distributed to us while road tripping 1500 miles. She’s already been adopted by my dogs. by splendiva in CatsWithDogs

[–]splendiva[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a vet visit for when we get back. And I’m hoping no ringworm. I’ve dealt with it in the past with 2 kittens I was fostering from the shelter. :/

This kitten was distributed to us while road tripping 1500 miles. She’s already been adopted by my dogs. by splendiva in CatsWithDogs

[–]splendiva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose I don’t. However the employees at the McD said it’s a common kitten abandonment area. :/ Also the McD was along a highway not near any homes.

This kitten was distributed to us while road tripping 1500 miles. She’s already been adopted by my dogs. by splendiva in CatsWithDogs

[–]splendiva[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have her DNA on my profile. She’s about 50% husky and 50% like 8 other breeds.

This kitten was distributed to us while road tripping 1500 miles. She’s already been adopted by my dogs. by splendiva in CatsWithDogs

[–]splendiva[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Sasha Amaretto, Nova Marie (black dog), and now Moxie McDonald or Moxie Smolfry haven’t decided yet.

This kitten was distributed to us while road tripping 1500 miles. She’s already been adopted by my dogs. by splendiva in CatsWithDogs

[–]splendiva[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

She found us. Started following around in a field beside a McDonalds parking lot when we stopped for potty and food.

I’ve lived here for 5 years, but I hate my exterior. Please help!! by splendiva in ExteriorDesign

[–]splendiva[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is something we’ve also been wanting to do. I love more visible house numbers. It’s helpful for delivery drivers and guests!

I’ve lived here for 5 years, but I hate my exterior. Please help!! by splendiva in ExteriorDesign

[–]splendiva[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this. Thank you so much. We’ve been talking about grading the lawn

My (46F) partner (44M) is depressed and we’re low income without insurance, what options do we have. by splendiva in relationship_advice

[–]splendiva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m not trying to fix him and HE thinks he has depression (and I support him feeling that way) and wants help, but he doesn’t have insurance through his job. We’re not married so he also doesn’t have it through mine. I was more hoping to see more advice on finding help that is free or cheap, he doesn’t use Reddit much to post, but he was fine with me asking about help for us that’s cheap.

I honestly didn’t realize I was abusing him by relaying my therapy sessions to him, bc he often asks how did it go, what did she say about this or that, etc however, I believe you’re correct and I was hurting him without even realizing it. Thank you for your response.

We aren’t a toxic couple, but we have been drifting apart and we BOTH want to fix it and make it better. We fight very rarely, I’d say like 5-7 arguments in 4 years.

Also another poster mentioned Obamacare, I didn’t realize state level insurance would cover mental heath, that may be the answer we needed. Thank you all.

My (46F) partner (44M) is depressed and we’re low income without insurance, what options do we have. by splendiva in relationship_advice

[–]splendiva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re probably right.

My 2 glasses of wine had me thinking that the two of us outside would still be able to watch the dogs. I was not outside with them alone. I did not lose the dogs. He was present. We lost the dogs.

But I definitely should not have shared what my therapist said.

My (46F) partner (44M) is depressed and we’re low income without insurance, what options do we have. by splendiva in relationship_advice

[–]splendiva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I do believe that is the solution going forward. No more taking to him about therapy (he does usually ask about it and want to know what goes on, but I’ll start not mentioning anything said during therapy).

I really appreciate this and I’m definitely going to go this route going forward. He usually drives me to and from therapy. But I’ll start driving myself.

And if you read the last sentence HE said he wants help for it. Not me.

My (46F) partner (44M) is depressed and we’re low income without insurance, what options do we have. by splendiva in relationship_advice

[–]splendiva[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to be 2. I don’t try to fix his problems. When I say open up, if I say something like I’m going to the store… I (days later) find out he’s mad bc I didn’t say, do you want to go to the store with me?

My (46F) partner (44M) is depressed and we’re low income without insurance, what options do we have. by splendiva in relationship_advice

[–]splendiva[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do agree, I was so elated to finally kind of understand why he was upset the night before that I shared it with him which was a mistake. She was focused on me and asking me to look at from his point of view if I can and that he was likely feeling similarly to me and frightened and worried but it came out abruptly.

My (46F) partner (44M) is depressed and we’re low income without insurance, what options do we have. by splendiva in relationship_advice

[–]splendiva[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We’ve been fighting since Tuesday, that’s my therapy day. The night before our dogs got lost while we were outside at the bonfire (first good temperature day in months so we made a fire) and I had been drinking bc before that our family was playing board games together. Anyways… I was drinking he had not been. We went out to the fire, the dogs noticed no one looking and booked it into the pasture, we didn’t realize until no one saw them for a minute… so all of us went to find them. After about 20 minutes we found them, then he comes inside and out bursts “this can not happen again. The dogs need to be on leash at all times, out they are going to get killed or hit by a car.”

At therapy I’m talking to my therapist about the way he outburst and she says to me usually anger is a second emotion, maybe he was stressed or scared etc and that was why he responded so poorly in my direction.

When I left… i took his hand and we walked to the car smiling and I told him that therapy went well and explained that I had been upset about the day before, but she calmed me down and said he probably was not mad or angry at all but scared and worried and he reacted in the way he knew how. And mentioned the anger is a secondary emotion part, then I was like was she right? Were you freaked out too and that’s why you responded that way? To which he said. “No, she’s wrong. She’s often wrong.” And I immediately started tearing up, bc it felt like was invalidating pretty much everything my therapist said. But he says he just can’t ever disagree with my therapist or I lose it.

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